Nahitaji msaada kuimarisha ndoa yangu

Dogo1 · Aug 12, 2012

Nimeoa miaka 10 iliyopita. Tatizo alilonalo mke wangu ni kwamba anausingizi sijapata kuona. Miaka michache iliyopita hali ilikua mbaya zaidi kwani alikua analala hata kwenye gari jambo lililonifanya nimshauri asiendeshe gari kwa usalama wake.

Kulala kwenye gari amepunguza, tatizo limebaki akiwa nyumbani. Yani iwe mchana au usiku akiketi tu kwenye kochi baada ya dakika chache ameshapotea kwenye usingizi. Hali hiyo ndio inajitokeza hata tukiwa bedroom.

Madhara yake ni kuwa nakosa muda wa kuongea nae lakini mbaya zaidi tunapoamua kuingia bed room kwa lengo la kupeana haki ya ndoa, ndio nachoka kabisa kwa sababu muda wa kufanya romance unakosekana kwa vile nikichelewa dakika kadhaa tayari amelala.

Hali hii inanikosesha raha kwani katika maisha na mapenzi linapokuja suala la kitandani napendelea nipate ushirikiano katika kufanya maandalizi kuanzia kwenye kidole hadi kwenye utosi kabla sijazama katikati ya mapaja yake.

Nimekuwa nikijadili nae hali hii lakini kwa masikitiko amekuwa akiniambia kua hana la kufanya kuhusiana tatizo la kulala kupita kiasi. Lakini zaidi huniambia nikihitaji tendo la ndoa nikiona amelala basi nitanue tu niingize!

Jamani naomba ushauri wenu, nimsaidie vipi mke wangu apunguze usingizi kwani hali yake inanikosesha raha ya mapenzi na mke wangu.

hovyohovyo · Aug 12, 2012

Duh!! Labda kuwaona wataalam itasaidia. Maana inaonekana hata kama ni usingizi, imepita kiasi.

zomba · Aug 12, 2012

Mlishe gomba huyo.

mdoe · Aug 12, 2012

Poe! Mpeleke kwa matatibu! Wanaweza kumsaidia! Ila ungemuelewa mkeo na kumkubali na kukubali hali yake na kuamua kuendana nayo ingefaa zaidi! Pole once again!

Dogo1 · Aug 12, 2012

mdoe said:
Poe! Mpeleke kwa matatibu! Wanaweza kumsaidia! Ila ungemuelewa mkeo na kumkubali na kukubali hali yake na kuamua kuendana nayo ingefaa zaidi! Pole once again!

Thanx Mdoe. Nimemkubali ndio niko nae na najitahidi kutafuta namna ya kumsaidia ili kurekebisha tatizo lake.

BelindaJacob · Aug 12, 2012

Uende kwa wataalamu wa afya, fanya hima mkuu...pole kwa hilo tatizo maana siyo dogo!
Nlikuwa nasoma na dada mmoja sec. yaani kila kipindi darasani alikuwa anasinzia, tukiwa tunasali anasinzia, tukiwa tunapiga stori anasinzia na usiku alikuwa anapumzika vizuri usingizi haukati mpaka wanafunzi&walimu wengi wakamfahamu kwa hilo..sijui anaendeleaje sasa ila usingizi ule haukuwa wa kawaida..

Nonda · Aug 12, 2012

Dogo1 said:
Nimeoa miaka 10 iliyopita. Tatizo alilonalo mke wangu ni kwamba anausingizi sijapata kuona.
Jamani naomba ushauri wenu, nimsaidie vipi mke wangu apunguze usingizi kwani hali yake inanikosesha raha ya mapenzi na mke wangu.

Mke wako ni mnene sana?

Kama ndio mpigishe mazoezi ya JKT, jogging na ale matunda na mboga mboga kwa wingi. Apunguze vyakula vya mwanga na mafuta.

Aache kunywa jamii ya coca cola badala yake anywe maji ya dafu au ya kawaida tu na atumie mafuta ya nazi katika mapishi.

Kama ni mwembamba sana, mpe lishe ya kutosha na mazoezi.

Asipopata nafuu, mwone mganga/ daktari kwa ushauri na vipimo.

Roulette · Aug 12, 2012

Zaidi ya kumpeleka kwa wataalam wa afya ya mwili na akili jaribu kuchunguza hygiene yake ya maisha. Sometimes what we eat or what we do/don't do could increase our need of sleeping hours. Binadam wa kawaida, adult, anahitaji not less than 5 hours sleep every 24hrs, kwa kuweza kufunction properly. wengi, sababu ya mtindo wa maisha tunalazimisha kulala hadi 8 hours, but 5 would acrtually be enough. Kufatana na hayo unayo sema hapo, nadhani mke wako kazidisha hata hizo 8. Jaribu haya:

- Afanye mazoezi. Unaweza kudhani kua mazoezi yatamchosha na atalala, which is true, ila yanaweza kusaidia kukusanya sleeping hours zote zikae in a single period. badala ya kulala saa mbili mchana, then saa mbili jioni, halafu tena masaa nane usiku, anaweza kulala tu masaa kumi usiku na akawa up mchana. Pia exercise itaongeza alertness yake na kupunguza hali ya uchovu.

- Abadili diet, ale mboga na matunda sana, apunguze nyama. Mwili wetu unatumia energy nyingi sana ku-digest nyama. Kama anakula nyama nyingi, maybe she is weak because she lacks energy. her body needs to put everything in standby mode until it has digested the food she is having. If need be she culd use suplements (apate ushauri wa daktari au nurse kuhusu the right ones, the onesw she really need)

- Kama anakunywa alcohol apunguze, inapunguza metabolic process. kama anavuta sigara apunguze pia. katika "kurelax" kuna kausingizi kanakuja

- Kama ni mnene ajaribu kupunguza uzito. she uses all her energy for normal metabolic functions. For a quick solution anaweza kunywa kahawa nyingi, but this is not sustainable in the long run.

- kama ana kazi ngumu ya kuchosha mwili au akili ajaribu kugawa masaa ya kazi kwa 30 min break for every 2 hours of concentration. inaweza kusaidia kubaki alert

- Ajaribu meditation (relaxed-but-alert methods would require her to meditate in lotus position with her eyes opened). Kama ni muumin asali na kumuomba Mungu njia ya ku-improve

- (This one is a bit tough to swallow): jaribu pia kumchunguza, akiwa na watu wengine inakuaje? maybe you are the problem, she is bored with you and sleeps whenever you are around because you can't keep her awake or simply because she'd rather sleep than having your company or having to have sex with you. too long preliminaries can be boring if they don't respond appropriately to her needs of the moment.

Usichoke kuongea nae... good luck

Mtaftaji · Aug 12, 2012

mdoe said:
Poe! Mpeleke kwa matatibu!
Wanaweza kumsaidia! Ila ungemuelewa mkeo na kumkubali na kukubali hali
yake na kuamua kuendana nayo ingefaa zaidi! Pole once again!

Naunga mkono hoja.

Purple · Aug 12, 2012

Well said Roulette tatizo sioni kitufe cha like hapa..

masssaiboi · Aug 12, 2012

- (This one is a bit tough to swallow): jaribu pia kumchunguza, akiwa na watu wengine inakuaje? maybe you are the problem, she is bored with you and sleeps whenever you are around because you can't keep her awake or simply because she'd rather sleep than having your company or having to have sex with you. too long preliminaries can be boring if they don't respond appropriately to her needs of the moment.

sichoke kuongea nae... good luck

Nimeipenda hii, inawezekana sana tu maana wamama kwa kuact"!!!!!"

aminiusiamini · Aug 12, 2012

Mimi nathani atakuwa mnene sana afya mgogoro. Nahsi anampenda mumewe sema labda kweli ni usingizi. Pia nachoona kwao hawana activities na mara nyingi kwao ni kazi nyumbani. Badilisheni life style kidogo na pia mazingira ya kufanya au kula urida sio lazima iwe kitandani chumbani kwako. Mpeleke hotel nzuri mlale huko weekend, kwakifupi. Spice up things, mapenzi, maongezi nk. Naamini huyo mama hatakuwa amekuchoka, ni uvivu tu au kweli ni kuchoka. Pia uwe na coffee time as well then have sex

Asterisk · Aug 12, 2012

Roulette said:
Zaidi ya kumpeleka kwa wataalam wa afya ya mwili na akili jaribu kuchunguza hygiene yake ya maisha. Sometimes what we eat or what we do/don't do could increase our need of sleeping hours. Binadam wa kawaida, adult, anahitaji not less than 5 hours sleep every 24hrs, kwa kuweza kufunction properly. wengi, sababu ya mtindo wa maisha tunalazimisha kulala hadi 8 hours, but 5 would acrtually be enough. Kufatana na hayo unayo sema hapo, nadhani mke wako kazidisha hata hizo 8. Jaribu haya:

- Afanye mazoezi. Unaweza kudhani kua mazoezi yatamchosha na atalala, which is true, ila yanaweza kusaidia kukusanya sleeping hours zote zikae in a single period. badala ya kulala saa mbili mchana, then saa mbili jioni, halafu tena masaa nane usiku, anaweza kulala tu masaa kumi usiku na akawa up mchana. Pia exercise itaongeza alertness yake na kupunguza hali ya uchovu.

- Abadili diet, ale mboga na matunda sana, apunguze nyama. Mwili wetu unatumia energy nyingi sana ku-digest nyama. Kama anakula nyama nyingi, maybe she is weak because she lacks energy. her body needs to put everything in standby mode until it has digested the food she is having. If need be she culd use suplements (apate ushauri wa daktari au nurse kuhusu the right ones, the onesw she really need)

- Kama anakunywa alcohol apunguze, inapunguza metabolic process. kama anavuta sigara apunguze pia. katika "kurelax" kuna kausingizi kanakuja

- Kama ni mnene ajaribu kupunguza uzito. she uses all her energy for normal metabolic functions. For a quick solution anaweza kunywa kahawa nyingi, but this is not sustainable in the long run.

- kama ana kazi ngumu ya kuchosha mwili au akili ajaribu kugawa masaa ya kazi kwa 30 min break for every 2 hours of concentration. inaweza kusaidia kubaki alert

- Ajaribu meditation (relaxed-but-alert methods would require her to meditate in lotus position with her eyes opened). Kama ni muumin asali na kumuomba Mungu njia ya ku-improve

- (This one is a bit tough to swallow): jaribu pia kumchunguza, akiwa na watu wengine inakuaje? maybe you are the problem, she is bored with you and sleeps whenever you are around because you can't keep her awake or simply because she'd rather sleep than having your company or having to have sex with you. too long preliminaries can be boring if they don't respond appropriately to her needs of the moment.

Usichoke kuongea nae... good luck

Naunga mkono hoja

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kibol · Aug 12, 2012

Roulette said:
Zaidi ya kumpeleka kwa wataalam wa afya ya mwili na akili jaribu kuchunguza hygiene yake ya maisha. Sometimes what we eat or what we do/don't do could increase our need of sleeping hours. Binadam wa kawaida, adult, anahitaji not less than 5 hours sleep every 24hrs, kwa kuweza kufunction properly. wengi, sababu ya mtindo wa maisha tunalazimisha kulala hadi 8 hours, but 5 would acrtually be enough. Kufatana na hayo unayo sema hapo, nadhani mke wako kazidisha hata hizo 8. Jaribu haya:

- Afanye mazoezi. Unaweza kudhani kua mazoezi yatamchosha na atalala, which is true, ila yanaweza kusaidia kukusanya sleeping hours zote zikae in a single period. badala ya kulala saa mbili mchana, then saa mbili jioni, halafu tena masaa nane usiku, anaweza kulala tu masaa kumi usiku na akawa up mchana. Pia exercise itaongeza alertness yake na kupunguza hali ya uchovu.

- Abadili diet, ale mboga na matunda sana, apunguze nyama. Mwili wetu unatumia energy nyingi sana ku-digest nyama. Kama anakula nyama nyingi, maybe she is weak because she lacks energy. her body needs to put everything in standby mode until it has digested the food she is having. If need be she culd use suplements (apate ushauri wa daktari au nurse kuhusu the right ones, the onesw she really need)

- Kama anakunywa alcohol apunguze, inapunguza metabolic process. kama anavuta sigara apunguze pia. katika "kurelax" kuna kausingizi kanakuja

- Kama ni mnene ajaribu kupunguza uzito. she uses all her energy for normal metabolic functions. For a quick solution anaweza kunywa kahawa nyingi, but this is not sustainable in the long run.

- kama ana kazi ngumu ya kuchosha mwili au akili ajaribu kugawa masaa ya kazi kwa 30 min break for every 2 hours of concentration. inaweza kusaidia kubaki alert

- Ajaribu meditation (relaxed-but-alert methods would require her to meditate in lotus position with her eyes opened). Kama ni muumin asali na kumuomba Mungu njia ya ku-improve

- (This one is a bit tough to swallow): jaribu pia kumchunguza, akiwa na watu wengine inakuaje? maybe you are the problem, she is bored with you and sleeps whenever you are around because you can't keep her awake or simply because she'd rather sleep than having your company or having to have sex with you. too long preliminaries can be boring if they don't respond appropriately to her needs of the moment.

Usichoke kuongea nae... good luck

Mungu akubariki sana ndugu yng kwa kupoteza muda wako na kumsaidia binadamu mwenzio,guys like you make jf to be real home of great thinkers.

Dogo1 · Aug 12, 2012

Roulette said:
Zaidi ya kumpeleka kwa wataalam wa afya ya mwili na akili jaribu kuchunguza hygiene yake ya maisha. Sometimes what we eat or what we do/don't do could increase our need of sleeping hours. Binadam wa kawaida, adult, anahitaji not less than 5 hours sleep every 24hrs, kwa kuweza kufunction properly. wengi, sababu ya mtindo wa maisha tunalazimisha kulala hadi 8 hours, but 5 would acrtually be enough. Kufatana na hayo unayo sema hapo, nadhani mke wako kazidisha hata hizo 8. Jaribu haya:

- Afanye mazoezi. Unaweza kudhani kua mazoezi yatamchosha na atalala, which is true, ila yanaweza kusaidia kukusanya sleeping hours zote zikae in a single period. badala ya kulala saa mbili mchana, then saa mbili jioni, halafu tena masaa nane usiku, anaweza kulala tu masaa kumi usiku na akawa up mchana. Pia exercise itaongeza alertness yake na kupunguza hali ya uchovu.

- Abadili diet, ale mboga na matunda sana, apunguze nyama. Mwili wetu unatumia energy nyingi sana ku-digest nyama. Kama anakula nyama nyingi, maybe she is weak because she lacks energy. her body needs to put everything in standby mode until it has digested the food she is having. If need be she culd use suplements (apate ushauri wa daktari au nurse kuhusu the right ones, the onesw she really need)

- Kama anakunywa alcohol apunguze, inapunguza metabolic process. kama anavuta sigara apunguze pia. katika "kurelax" kuna kausingizi kanakuja

- Kama ni mnene ajaribu kupunguza uzito. she uses all her energy for normal metabolic functions. For a quick solution anaweza kunywa kahawa nyingi, but this is not sustainable in the long run.

- kama ana kazi ngumu ya kuchosha mwili au akili ajaribu kugawa masaa ya kazi kwa 30 min break for every 2 hours of concentration. inaweza kusaidia kubaki alert

- Ajaribu meditation (relaxed-but-alert methods would require her to meditate in lotus position with her eyes opened). Kama ni muumin asali na kumuomba Mungu njia ya ku-improve

- (This one is a bit tough to swallow): jaribu pia kumchunguza, akiwa na watu wengine inakuaje? maybe you are the problem, she is bored with you and sleeps whenever you are around because you can't keep her awake or simply because she'd rather sleep than having your company or having to have sex with you. too long preliminaries can be boring if they don't respond appropriately to her needs of the moment.

Usichoke kuongea nae... good luck

Nakushuru kwa ushauri. Mke wangu ni mnene, uzito wake ni km 100kg, umri wake 38 anajitahidi kula sana, anapenda vya sukari sana, hafanyi mazoezi na hanywi pombe.

Nimejitahidi kumshauri afanye mazoezi, apunguze weight, aache sukari sukari lakini bado kimsingi sijafanikiwa. Binafsi nafanya mazoezi ili ku -maintain my shape and good health. She likes sex so much as i do, we match in everything when it comes to love making.

Tatizo kubwa ni usingizi wake coz well nikimwamsha kila kitu kinakwenda sawa kama hajalala vile coz she like it alwayz. What i need is to help her angalau apunguze kulala the way she does.

Nitafanyia kazi ushauri wenu

uttoh2002 · Aug 12, 2012

Lakini sio vizuri kuleta dhihaka Kwenye vitu Kama hivi.

zomba said:
Mlishe gomba huyo.

PEA · Aug 12, 2012

Aise, pole sana ngoja waje wataalam hapa labda na wengine tutafaidi hapa

PEA · Aug 12, 2012

Dogo1 said:
Nakushuru kwa ushauri. Mke wangu ni mnene, uzito wake ni km 100kg, umri wake 38 anajitahidi kula sana, anapenda vya sukari sana, hafanyi mazoezi na hanywi pombe.

Nimejitahidi kumshauri afanye mazoezi, apunguze weight, aache sukari sukari lakini bado kimsingi sijafanikiwa. Binafsi nafanya mazoezi ili ku -maintain my shape and good health. She likes sex so much as i do, we match in everything when it comes to love making.

Tatizo kubwa ni usingizi wake coz well nikimwamsha kila kitu kinakwenda sawa kama hajalala vile coz she like it alwayz. What i need is to help her angalau apunguze kulala the way she does.

Nitafanyia kazi ushauri wenu

Mkuu nafikiri tatizo linaanzia hapo kwenye unene, 100Kg sio mchezo. Najaribu ku imagine mimi ni nina 32 yrs na 55Kg sasa hizo 100 zitakuwaje. Any way sio swala la option hapo Mazoezi ni LAZIMA. Usiishie tu kumshauri bali uchukue hatua za kmpleleka tena kuwe na program maalum kabisa kwa ajili ya weight loss, ajipangie kwamba baada ya muda fualni apunguze hata 10Kg hivi.
Usipofanya hivyo sasa akifika kwenye 50's uwe umeshaanda na hela ya matibabu kabisa na atakapofika 60 atakuwa choka mbaya. Mimi wa kwangu mnene na ana kilo 75 lakini nimejipanga kwamba asiongeze tena zaidi ya hapo

Dogo1 · Aug 12, 2012

Mgosa said:
Aise, pole sana ngoja waje wataalam hapa labda na wengine tutafaidi hapa

ni kweli mkuu unajua hili tatizo inawezekana linawakabili wengi isipokua watu wanachukulia poa tu alimradi maisha yanaenda.

Dogo1 · Aug 12, 2012

Mgosa said:
Mkuu nafikiri tatizo linaanzia hapo kwenye unene, 100Kg sio mchezo. Najaribu ku imagine mimi ni nina 32 yrs na 55Kg sasa hizo 100 zitakuwaje. Any way sio swala la option hapo Mazoezi ni LAZIMA. Usiishie tu kumshauri bali uchukue hatua za kmpleleka tena kuwe na program maalum kabisa kwa ajili ya weight loss, ajipangie kwamba baada ya muda fualni apunguze hata 10Kg hivi.
Usipofanya hivyo sasa akifika kwenye 50's uwe umeshaanda na hela ya matibabu kabisa na atakapofika 60 atakuwa choka mbaya. Mimi wa kwangu mnene na ana kilo 75 lakini nimejipanga kwamba asiongeze tena zaidi ya hapo

nakubali unayosema mkuu, u know tayari wife wangu ana tatizo la pressure!

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