My husband cheated on me with my best friend

[R.B]

I had some friends over Friday night. I had to work the next day, so I went to bed at 1030. Woke up at 1 and my bed was still empty. I didn't hear anyone and the house was dark. I slipped outside, (Where we had been drinking), and turned on the porch light, to find my best friend and maid of honor going down on my husband. We have been together for 8 years, and not even married for 1. We bought a house 3 years ago, and I am in nursing school, so he pays for everything. 48 hours ago I loved him and thought we would be together forever. I still love him, but all I can think about is that picture of their naked bodies together. He lied about all of the details at first, but now I think he has told me evything except why it happened. Which I think is the most important part. Thats how I will know if he can ever be trusted again. He says that he has no idea why.

I dont think he has ever done this before. And I know that alchol is no excuse, but I truly think that if he had not been drunk this never would have happened. He is the worlds stupidest drunk. He agreed And I know that he loves me. But will I ever feel like he really truly loves me again?How can I ever be intimate with him after this?

I guess what I am wondering, is do relationships ever end happily after something like this?

 

[Karucee]

I have come to realize there is no such ending. The way I see it you only have two options. To swallow your pride and stay or simply leave. Have you tried talking to that she-goat?

 

[kwamtoro]

Sasa kila akiwa anakunywa pombe ndio atakuwa anafanya hivi. Msamehe kama ni pombe tu.

 

[Kongosho]

Are you still tamthiliaring ur self?
Grow up kid!

Find the mlinzi wenu and pay him back mbele yake

 

[Kongosho]

Talk what? Kwa mfano?

RAfiki? across territory yangu? niongee naye nini?

I have come to realize there is no such ending. The way I see it you only have two options. To swallow your pride and stay or simply leave. Have you tried talking to that she-goat?

 

[SURUMA]

I had some friends over Friday night. I had to work the next day, so I went to bed at 1030. Woke up at 1 and my bed was still empty. I didn't hear anyone and the house was dark. I slipped outside, (Where we had been drinking), and turned on the porch light, to find my best friend and maid of honor going down on my husband. We have been together for 8 years, and not even married for 1. We bought a house 3 years ago, and I am in nursing school, so he pays for everything. 48 hours ago I loved him and thought we would be together forever. I still love him, but all I can think about is that picture of their naked bodies together. He lied about all of the details at first, but now I think he has told me evything except why it happened. Which I think is the most important part. Thats how I will know if he can ever be trusted again. He says that he has no idea why.

I dont think he has ever done this before. And I know that alchol is no excuse, but I truly think that if he had not been drunk this never would have happened. He is the worlds stupidest drunk. He agreed And I know that he loves me. But will I ever feel like he really truly loves me again?How can I ever be intimate with him after this?

I guess what I am wondering, is do relationships ever end happily after something like this?

The lady was a mere friend because THE BEST FRIEND can never do what she did.

 

[Baba_Enock]

Zafanana...!

 

[Fidel80]

Hupendi kula na nduguyo sio?

 

[rushanju]

Hiyo ni rahisi sana.... SAMEHE SABA MARA SABINI.

 

[lara 1]

Aaaaaaaaah wapi Pombe inasingiziwa tu! LIKE ALL OF US CHEATTERS HE IS JUST SORRY N APPOLOGETIC JST BECAUSE HE GOT CAUGHT!!!!!!!!!!

Once a cheatter always a cheatter!!!!!! Cheatting is highly adictive!!!!!!!!!

You know there is cheattin and there is cheattin to send you a message! The dude has no respect! Damn!!!!!!! Gettin a BJ on his front porch with his wifes best friend while the wife is asleep in the same room?????????? Thats just Nasty!!!!!!!!!! Thats when we say The Dude is just a Natural Cheatter! He has it in him!!!!

I can imagine what he is capable of doin when he is outside the Radar! Whuuuuuuuuuuh!!!!!! Damn!!!!!!!!!!

Cheatters Anthem inahusika sanaaa!

 

[sosoliso]

I dont think he has ever done this before. And I know that alchol is no excuse, but I truly think that if he had not been drunk this never would have happened. He is the worlds stupidest drunk.

Ha ha ha it would have happened trust me R.B.. Only he would have taken an extra precaution not to be caught.. From what u say it seems as if he's lost only ur trust.. not ur love..
Jiulize mko wangapi R.B.. Mwambie atulizane otherwise atakuletea matatizo..

 

[Blue G]

A worst person here is your friend he had to stay far from your husband quietly knowing that you belong to him and not her,and your husband too did a mistake,but you have two options to forgive him or not.I know now he still claims that he loves you and he is now giving some excuses of doing so an begging you to trust him again,if you forgive him just be open with him tell him that it's not easy to regain trust to him so soon and so he should give you some time,this will make him regreat for what he's done.I realy feel sorry for you it's a pity,to hell your selfish friend and may you be able to regain the normal situation you had at first with your man.

 

[sun wu]

I guess what I am wondering, is do relationships ever end happily after something like this?

end (AND) happily in (RELATIONSHIP ) does not go hand in hand (If the relationship is happy you will not want it to end)

About your question the answer lies within you.., are you happy now ?, can yo learn to forgive and let bygones be bygones ?, does she still love you or she is tired and these actions are mere "Akufukuzae akwambii Toka"?.

Therefore you will notice no two cases are exactly the same and the outcome depends on the individuals and the love (or lack of it) between you two.


By the way.. "With such friends who needs an enemy"

 

[Kongosho]

Tena Chita aliyekubuhu, anayejifunza hawezi jaribu

Usimwamshe huyu dada, bado yuko kitamthilia zaidi

You know there is cheattin and there is cheattin to send you a message! The dude has no respect! Damn!!!!!!! Gettin a BJ on his front porch with his wifes best friend while the wife is asleep in the same room?????????? Thats just Nasty!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Tamatheo]

Pombe ni shetani au Shetani la pombe..............Kama moyo unaongea msamaha msamehe muanze upya..Kama kisw sijaeleweka Soriooooooooooooooooooooooooo.

 

[snowhite]

Kongosho naandika kitu hapa af we taPsiri
mwanadamu akishikwa anatia/anatiwa anaweza kumkana mamake mzazi!

 

[unknown animal]

hiyo lugha utata,ukiendelea hivyo hakuna ushauri

 

[Luluka]

hiyo lugha utata,ukiendelea hivyo hakuna ushauri

Ha ha ha ha!!nimeipenda hii!!kachanganyikiwa mwenzio mpaka kiswahili kasahau..

 

[chardams]

I had some friends over Friday night. I had to work the next day, so I went to bed at 1030. Woke up at 1 and my bed was still empty. I didn't hear anyone and the house was dark. I slipped outside, (Where we had been drinking), and turned on the porch light, to find my best friend and maid of honor going down on my husband. We have been together for 8 years, and not even married for 1. We bought a house 3 years ago, and I am in nursing school, so he pays for everything. 48 hours ago I loved him and thought we would be together forever. I still love him, but all I can think about is that picture of their naked bodies together. He lied about all of the details at first, but now I think he has told me evything except why it happened. Which I think is the most important part. Thats how I will know if he can ever be trusted again. He says that he has no idea why.


I dont think he has ever done this before. And I know that alchol is no excuse, but I truly think that if he had not been drunk this never would have happened. He is the worlds stupidest drunk. He agreed And I know that he loves me. But will I ever feel like he really truly loves me again?How can I ever be intimate with him after this?

I guess what I am wondering, is do relationships ever end happily after something like this?

Before i advice you on what to do, could you please clarify on the red highlighted words?

 

[IRINA]

hiyo lugha utata,ukiendelea hivyo hakuna ushauri

hahahahahah dah,nimfurahii kwakweli,Lugha ilikua na meli hiyo atii tutajinga'ata mwisho wake