Money in marriage: Is it mine or ours?

[R.B]

In marriage, both the man and the woman have the same rights. Even the law prescribes that a married woman shall have the same right as a man.
And this is widely taken to mean right to property, to contract, to sue and be sued, to custody of children and the like.
In this perspective, therefore, it is widely expected that a man and a woman in marriage, will not only voluntarily enjoy their matrimonial union, but also share their lives, property and other responsibilities.
However, one crucial thing has become so hard to share for a married couple, to the extent that it is a continuous source of wrangles between the two.
When it comes to money, particularly sharing of one another’s income, it becomes a problem. Even the law does not give a clear explanation on this. In marriage, both the man and the woman have the same rights. Even the law prescribes that a married woman shall have the same right as a man.
And this is widely taken to mean right to property, to contract, to sue and be sued, to custody of children and the like.
In this perspective, therefore, it is widely expected that a man and a woman in marriage, will not only voluntarily enjoy their matrimonial union, but also share their lives, property and other responsibilities.
However, one crucial thing has become so hard to share for a married couple, to the extent that it is a continuous source of wrangles between the two.
When it comes to money, particularly sharing of one another’s income, it becomes a problem. Even the law does not give a clear explanation on this. Money in marriage: Is it mine or ours?

 

[Kirachacha]

OURS. .

Sema kuna watu ambao ni extremely selfish, kwao hamnaga chetu, yetu wala zetu. Kila kitu ni changu, yangu, zako, chako. Kwahiyo inakuwa ngumu kwa wao kukubali chao kiwe cha wote, wanabaki kuact kama vile bado wako single.

 

[Dero]

Ours!!

 

[appoh]

inategemea na njia mlizotumia kutafuta hizo mali mfano kama tunafanya biashara kwa kushirikiana basi ni zetu ila kama nafanya kazi mwenyewe hizo ni zangu ila zinatumika kutatua matatizo ye2 sote na kama yeye ana work kivyake na mimi kivyangu wote tunahaki ya ku2mia pesa za kila mtu sababu ya mapenz4 hakuna haja ya usiri juu ya nan4 anapokea sh ngapi na kama mali hizo ni zetu by law

 

[mzabzab]

kila mtu aje na hela yake na kila mtu atachangia 50% ya income yake ambayo hiyo itakuwa ours.

 

[queeny]

Ours...

 

[neggirl]

Ours!

.. Ikifikia pale ambapo hili limewakaa vichwani wote wawili ki sawa sawa.. Maisha yanakuwa powa sana as.. Misemo ya yangu/zangu inapotea, umoja na familia inaendelea kuimarika.

Though kuna changamoto sana kwa baadhi ya kinamama kukubali hii dhana.

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[Passion Lady]

mkiwa wanandoa
kila kitu ni chetu
changu ni kabla ya ndoa!!!

 

[Kaunga]

kila mtu aje na hela yake na kila mtu atachangia 50% ya income yake ambayo hiyo itakuwa ours.

Kwanini isiwe 100% yours +100% mine=100% ours

 

[sun wu]

If such a question even exists in marriage then you have a problem..., it should not be an issue

Kuweni na different accounts.., family/joint account na individual accounts..

Ili kudumisha umoja kuweni na miradi au biashara ya pamoja ambayo pesa inaingia kwenye joint account, ila pia kila mtu awe na individual account ambayo kazi anayofanya inaingia huko.., (hii itapunguza matatizo ya mtu kutumia pesa za joint account bila kumwambia mwenzake, sababu kumbuka kwenye joint huwezi kutoa tu pesa bila mwenzako kujua)

Mmoja wenu akiwa na shida anamwambia mwenzake anachukua pesa iwe from joint au individual account ya mwenzake.., maisha ni kusaidiana na kwenye ndoa jahazi la maisha linaendeshwa na wawili pamoja ila kuwa na individual accounts pia inaweza kupunguza matatizo ambayo yanaweza kujitokeza kwamba fulani mume/mke anafuja pesa zetu

 

[Tized]

''And the two shall become one'' Kuna changamoto ya watu kuukumbatia u-singleness kwenye ndoa.
Its absolutily mine as for the wife is mine too, all I have belongs to us and I wont care what she has, its up to her, However my actions shall convince her see the importance of OURS and because she loves me, all hers and mine shall forms OURS.

mkiwa wanandoa
kila kitu ni chetu
changu ni kabla ya ndoa!!!

 

[Passion Lady]

yap!
hivyo ndivyo
yapaswa iwe ila kuna
wanandoa wabinafsi,unakuta dume zima
oooh gari yangu,nyumba yangu!
kusahau maana ya kua wanandoa!!

 

[pmwasyoke]

Tatizo liko katika ndoa za mashaka, zenye kukosa upendo kamili na zenye yamkini kubwa ya kuvunjika. Hapo lazima kuwe na mchanganyiko wa zangu zetu.

 

[stineriga]

kati ya wanawake 10, 9 wote watajibu is ours,

kati ya wanaume 10, ni 1 tu ndio atajibu is ours

why???

na mimi ni mwanaume na ni mmoja kati ya hao 9 , money is mine!

 

[+255]

Money in marriage: Is it mine or ours?

 

[mzabzab]

Kwanini isiwe 100% yours +100% mine=100% ours

sasa nyumba ndogo nitamuhonga nini?

 

[Tetra]

::
OURS ni rahisi kutamka na kuiandika hapa LAKINI wanawake wengi wanapenda yake aitumie yeye na ya mume ndo inapewa ubatizo wa OURS
=

 

[Natalia]

In marriage, both the man and the woman have the same rights. Even the law prescribes that a married woman shall have the same right as a man.
And this is widely taken to mean right to property, to contract, to sue and be sued, to custody of children and the like.
In this perspective, therefore, it is widely expected that a man and a woman in marriage, will not only voluntarily enjoy their matrimonial union, but also share their lives, property and other responsibilities.
However, one crucial thing has become so hard to share for a married couple, to the extent that it is a continuous source of wrangles between the two.
When it comes to money, particularly sharing of one another’s income, it becomes a problem. Even the law does not give a clear explanation on this. In marriage, both the man and the woman have the same rights. Even the law prescribes that a married woman shall have the same right as a man.
And this is widely taken to mean right to property, to contract, to sue and be sued, to custody of children and the like.
In this perspective, therefore, it is widely expected that a man and a woman in marriage, will not only voluntarily enjoy their matrimonial union, but also share their lives, property and other responsibilities.
However, one crucial thing has become so hard to share for a married couple, to the extent that it is a continuous source of wrangles between the two.
When it comes to money, particularly sharing of one another’s income, it becomes a problem. Even the law does not give a clear explanation on this. Money in marriage: Is it mine or ours?

my husband definition "my money is mine ( a wife) his money ( a husband ) is ours .Mwanaume unatakiwa kuwa mwanaume bwana pesa yako ni ya wote ya mkeo yake .Na unampa allowance vilevile.Huwaga nawadharau sana Wanaume wanaowaomba wanawake Wao pesa au kuwa happy kuitumia pesa hiyo .Ladies you have to run the show mwanaume wa haswa anajibebea kimaisha.

 

[Natalia]

OURS. .

Sema kuna watu ambao ni extremely selfish, kwao hamnaga chetu, yetu wala zetu. Kila kitu ni changu, yangu, zako, chako. Kwahiyo inakuwa ngumu kwa wao kukubali chao kiwe cha wote, wanabaki kuact kama vile bado wako single.

It's not selfish wanawake wengine ni wagonjwa they use money to control a men .inafikia stage huyo mwanaume anakuwa kajisahau na anakuwa anamtegemea kimaisha

 

[Natalia]

Once mwanaume atakapoanza kukubaliana kutumia pesa Za mkewe au kukubali kutawaliwa na mwanamke yaani ujue wewe uume wako umegeuka GUACAMOLI with out lemon .