Mkataba katika ndoa utasaidia kuepuka haya

[Bm_boy]

Kumekua na matukio mengi yanayoashiria wanandoa wengi kuchokana. Ila moja ya jambo kubwa na ishara kubwa ni kuchepuka kwa wanadoa. Na hili limekua likitokea kwa wahusika wote wawili si mwanaume si mwanake.

Haiwezekani mtu akachepuka kama hajamchoka mwenzake. Nasema hivi kwanini hakuna kinachoshindikana kuvumiliana ktk ndoa. Sasa iweje leo ushindwe kuvumilia hadi uchepuke, hii ni ishara yakuchokana.

Kwanini nimeamua kusema mkataba katika ndoa utasaidia haya. Kuchepuka huku kumezidi kusababisha vifo vya watu kila kukicha. Lakini endapo serikali itaamua kuingiza sheria ya mkataba wa ndoa.

Hii itasaidia watu kuachana in peace and love huku ukiwepo utaratibu wakugawana kile walicho kivuna kwa pamoja. Matukio mengi ya vifo vya fumanizi yamezidi nipa maswali kwanii ufikie hatua ya kuitoa roho ya mwenzako kisa mapenzi tena binadamu anaesababisha yote hayo ni mmekutana kila mmoja akiwa na meno yake 32.

Kwa nini pasiwepo na mkataba katika haya mahusiano, tumekaa kwa muda flani tumeshindwana tusubiri mkataba uishe kila mtu achukue mda wake. Roho ya mtu inathamani kubwa kuliko haya mahusiano.

Roho yaa mtu ikitoka hairudi lakini kuyanza mahusiano ni kitu cha dakika. Ogopa kuitoa roho ya mtu kisa mahusiano.

NB: We mwanaume kama unachepuka na mke wa mtu ebu chepuka na mke wa mtu anaejielewa, mwenye uwezo wakucontrol mawasiliano yako na yy, jasiri na anayeweza kukutetea hata pale ishu inapo bumburuka.

 

[ICHANA]

kuchepuka ni fikra finyu za kushindwa kufanya na kutekeleza yale unayoyapenda kwa mwenzio.....

hta ukiweka ndoa za mikataba sio suluhisho hii ni hulka ya watu..kubadili tabia ndo njia pekee

mbona mababu na bibi zetu waliweza kuvumilia na bila ya kuchokana

 

[Dr Matola PhD]

Wewe ni wakala wa shetani.

 

[Himidini]

Usiingie kwenye ndoa kama hujui thamani ya muungano na la muhimu zaidi usisogelee ndoa kama hujui gharama zake.

 

[Bm_boy]

Wewe ni wakala wa shetani.

Huwezi fahamu kama na we sio mmoja wao.

 

[Msweet]

Kumekua na matukio mengi yanayoashiria wanandoa wengi kuchokana. Ila moja ya jambo kubwa na ishara kubwa ni kuchepuka kwa wanadoa. Na hili limekua likitokea kwa wahusika wote wawili si mwanaume si mwanake.

Haiwezekani mtu akachepuka kama hajamchoka mwenzake. Nasema hivi kwanini hakuna kinachoshindikana kuvumiliana ktk ndoa. Sasa iweje leo ushindwe kuvumilia hadi uchepuke, hii ni ishara yakuchokana.

Kwanini nimeamua kusema mkataba katika ndoa utasaidia haya. Kuchepuka huku kumezidi kusababisha vifo vya watu kila kukicha. Lakini endapo serikali itaamua kuingiza sheria ya mkataba wa ndoa.

Hii itasaidia watu kuachana in peace and love huku ukiwepo utaratibu wakugawana kile walicho kivuna kwa pamoja. Matukio mengi ya vifo vya fumanizi yamezidi nipa maswali kwanii ufikie hatua ya kuitoa roho ya mwenzako kisa mapenzi tena binadamu anaesababisha yote hayo ni mmekutana kila mmoja akiwa na meno yake 32.

Kwa nini pasiwepo na mkataba katika haya mahusiano, tumekaa kwa muda flani tumeshindwana tusubiri mkataba uishe kila mtu achukue mda wake. Roho ya mtu inathamani kubwa kuliko haya mahusiano.

Roho yaa mtu ikitoka hairudi lakini kuyanza mahusiano ni kitu cha dakika. Ogopa kuitoa roho ya mtu kisa mahusiano.

NB: We mwanaume kama unachepuka na mke wa mtu ebu chepuka na mke wa mtu anaejielewa, mwenye uwezo wakucontrol mawasiliano yako na yy, jasiri na anayeweza kukutetea hata pale ishu inapo bumburuka.

Huwa sielewi ni kwa nini majority wanawaza kuchepuka ndio solution ya matatizo ya mahusiano waliyonayo....

Can somebody help me to understand this please? Hapo kwenye Blue....

 

[lara 1]

kuchepuka ni fikra finyu za kushindwa kufanya na kutekeleza yale unayoyapenda kwa mwenzio.....

hta ukiweka ndoa za mikataba sio suluhisho hii ni hulka ya watu..kubadili tabia ndo njia pekee

mbona mababu na bibi zetu waliweza kuvumilia na bila ya kuchokana

Ila walikuwa wanachepuka na kusameheana!
Kesi,mikasa na simulizi za FUMANIZI ZIPO MNOO KWENYE HISTORIA! Siojambo jipyaaa

 

[lara 1]

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Huwa sielewi ni kwa nini majority wanawaza kuchepuka ndio solution ya matatizo ya mahusiano waliyonayo....

Can somebody help me to understand this please? Hapo kwenye Blue....

It helps you WITHSTAND the IMPERFECTIONS, DISAPPONTMENTS, UNMET EXPECTATIONS, MARGINALISATION ET AL!

Ni silaha ya mnyonge some time ukiacha wale wenye tamaa ya fisi, mke anamtaka na wa nje anawataka vile vile!

Mfano mwanamke mme anakuwa hamtamani tenaaa, wanakaa mda hata hana mshawasha nae! Anaamua kukitembeza nje sio kuwa ana enjoy maybe a little lakini yule wa nje anamkamilisha kibinadamu na kumake her feel whole n complete!.

Au mtu Karma imewapiga hela ndania hamnaaa, anakitembeza kwa mabosi sio mtu mmbaya moyoni DHIKI TU NA NJAAA ILE! Shida haina adabu!

GIVEN DIFFERENT FATE, KARMA, CIRCUMSTANCES THEY WOULD HAVE BEEN DIFFERENT PEOPLE! Na wewe ulie different circumstances ni RAHISI MNO KU JUDGE MPAKA YAKUFIKE!

 

[jaxonwaziri]

Haiwezekani mtu akachepuka kama hajamchoka mwenzake. Nasema hivi kwanini hakuna kinachoshindikana kuvumiliana ktk ndoa. Sasa iweje leo ushindwe kuvumilia hadi uchepuke, hii ni ishara yakuchokana.

I now believe people hear or see what they wanna hear or see.

It never occurred to you that kuchepuka is a result of lacking of REAL commitment and self-restrain?
Ndoa za Mikataba will just amplify the 'lack-of-commitment' component!
Why would anybody need to commit id there is an easy way out?

The problem is that those who don't have what it takes to be in a marriage want the STANDARDS lowered so that they can get in (and out of it) at will!
My Advice: Dont get or wish to get married if you are not capable of committing!

 

[lara 1]

I now believe people hear or see what they wanna hear or see.

It never occurred to you that kuchepuka is a result of lacking of REAL commitment and self-restrain?
Ndoa za Mikataba will just amplify the 'lack-of-commitment' component!
Why would anybody need to commit id there is an easy way out?

The problem is that those who don't have what it takes to be in a marriage want the STANDARDS lowered so that they can get in (and out of it) a will!
My Advice: Dont get or wish to get married if you are not capable of committing!

EXCELLENT ARGUMENT! Japo kuna kitu kimoja kidogo ume over look!

MARRIAGE IS A FUNCTION OF TWO INDIVIDUALS! Sasa SOMETIMES and by SOMETIMES i mean SOMETIMES FAILURE OF ONE PERSON RESULTS TO A FAILURE OF THE OTHER! Ni kma MUTUALLY INCLUSIVE EVENTS! Failure of a husband may lead to the failure of the wife!

Mfano! Mume kiwa kicheche hapendeko, kunaweza kuresult mke kutafuta faraja sehemu ingine! Given different circumstances huyu mke asingekuwa hivi!

Au mume mvivuuu, au hana bahati, so economically ni failure afu mkewe sio mtu wa kurizika na kiwa average anachachua kunoresha uchumi! Given different circumstances asingefikia hivi!

 

[lara 1]

Mniwache leo jamani, nimekuja kama mchangiaji tu humu na mshika pembe, mkabeni koo mtoa mada!

 

[Ed n Edd nEddy]

Mkuu mtoa mada unaipenda hiyo mikataba?

Watu wengi hawadumu katika ndoa sababu wanaoana bila kujua background ya mwenza wake kwasababu wanapenda show off kwa jamii inayowazunguka
Wengi wanaodumu they know to be real not to pretend ndo maana kuna baadhi ya familia they rise their son/daughter since wadogo to marry someone ambaye wanaijua background yake vizuri

 

[kabanga]

mkataba nini hasa zaidi ya utashi wa muda mfupi...?

 

[lara 1]

mkataba nini hasa zaidi ya utashi wa muda mfupi...?

Inaweza kuwa RENEWABLE UPON FULLFILLMENT OF AGREED TERMS AND CONDITIONS! Hahahaaaa! Im just looking your opinion from a different angle!

 

[d zamani]

Mikataba ya ndoa inayosimamia mgawanyiko wa mali wa wanandoa pindi watakapoachana mbona ipo, lakini hata hiyo mikataba sio solution ya infidelity. The root problem of mankind was, is and always will be his love for sin.

 

[LadyRed]

EXCELLENT ARGUMENT! Japo kuna kitu kimoja kidogo ume over look!

MARRIAGE IS A FUNCTION OF TWO INDIVIDUALS! Sasa SOMETIMES and by SOMETIMES i mean SOMETIMES FAILURE OF ONE PERSON RESULTS TO A FAILURE OF THE OTHER! Ni kma MUTUALLY INCLUSIVE EVENTS! Failure of a husband may lead to the failure of the wife!

Mfano! Mume kiwa kicheche hapendeko, kunaweza kuresult mke kutafuta faraja sehemu ingine! Given different circumstances huyu mke asingekuwa hivi!

Au mume mvivuuu, au hana bahati, so economically ni failure afu mkewe sio mtu wa kurizika na kiwa average anachachua kunoresha uchumi! Given different circumstances asingefikia hivi!

Unaelewaa mnooo.,..