Hell no, over my dead body. Hii mitazamo ndiyo inafanya wanaume watuchukulie poa kila uchao, hivi umegundua kuwa hali inazidi kuwa mbaya? Watoto wako wa kike si ndo wataishia kutongoza wanaume ? Nikiwa kama binti wa kiafrika huu ni msimamo wangu;
1. Nitamheshimu na kumjali mwanaume niliyenaye na wala sitamcheat, hii ni kwa ajili ya amani ya moyo wangu.
2. Sitakubaliana na idea ya kugombana na mwanamke mwingine kisa bwana asiyeitambua thamani yangu, you cheat you go, full stop, na wwla sina ugomvi na the other woman maana we are all victims here.
3. Kwa heshima niliyojiwekea one day nitakutana na mwanaume atakanipenda kwa hiari yake na kuona thamani yangu bila ya mimi kutakiwa kuprove anything
4. Once stupid, cheater, arrogant etc always stupid, cheater, arrogant etc, hatokaa abadilike why nimgande, swali ni je are you ready kuishi na mtu mwenye hizo tabia?, si utalia maisha yako yote mara ufikirie kujiua, kumuua au muishi kama paka na panya ndani? Kilemba cha ndoa ni kizuri sana, nikiwa binti wa kikristo nathamini sana ndoa maana ni daraja takatifu, but hicho kilemba kinapendeza kikifungwa kwa ustadi wa upendo, siyo manipulation, changamoto ndogondogo zipo wote hatujakamilika, ila red flag zikimbie sissy, don't ever dare!
5. My peace of mind is everything, sitaki kuchase huzuni, single or not ndo naishi hivyo, nasubiri amani inifuate huku nikiendelea kuishi, if you know you know
6. Kuna magonjwa, ukiachana na VVU have you researched magonjwa ya zinaa mnayoachiwa wanawake mnaong'ang'ania wanaume wanauchovya kwingi? How do you live with hiyo miwasho ya chlamydia kisa bwana anatembeza mkuki kila sehemu, hell no, my down here need to be clean and free of any uncomfortable situation, sitaki kuja kuumwa saratani ya mlango wa kizazi kisa nilipambania bwana mleta uchafu. Asipokuletea ukimwi certainly anakuletea miwasho ya fungus to say the least.
Having said so, kamwe sitokaa nidiminish thamani ya uumbaji alioufanya Mungu juu ya mwili na nafsi hii, yupo anayenifaa, sijakutana naye tu, ila tukikutana everything will align perfectly tena bila heartbreak zisizo na maana. Kwakuwa Mungu alisema kila jinsia itaacha wazazi na kuungana na jinsia nyingine kuwa mwili mmoja, that is just a matter of when not if. NB: Siwezi kuwasemea wanawake ambao hawana kazi au biashara, maana wapo katika category nyingine, ukiachana na mapenzi wanatafuta mwanaume wa kuwaweka mjini, huo mkanganyiko siwezi kuusemea sijauishi, but all in all, kama umeumbwa mzima why usijitafutie kipato chako na ukaishi kulingana na income yako? Women, you matter kuliko unavyodhania, and the women:man ratio is just perfect for everyone to find that special man of your dreams. While unasubiri don't shut down ndoto zako, jiendeleze kielimu, panua biashara zako, fanya maendeleo yako nyumba gari kila kitu is possible, hakuna sababu ya kusubiri mwanaume aje akufanyie hayo. Teach young girls kupenda elimu na kujitegemea, be that agent for change, zama za kusubiri kuhongwa zimepita, this country is extremely exciting for women economic revolution, jifunze kutambua fursa ziko wapi, nasisitiza kipato maana kina direct relation na uhuru wa mwanamke kuchagua nani awe mume wake, la sivyo mnajikuta mnaangukia kwa hayo madungaembe mkafanye ndoa kuwa vilio. Good men wapo, you just need time and space kuwatambua. Bye