Heaven Sent
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I hope your lil girl will grow to become a better person than I am. Mlee tu vizuri, muombee, then mengine ni kwa Neema tu ya Mungu
I hope your lil girl will grow to become a better person than I am. Mlee tu vizuri, muombee, then mengine ni kwa Neema tu ya MunguNkipata mtoto wa kike ntakutafuta ummpe shule ... you have what a lady is supposed to have!!!
Kaboom kakuza vizuri
The thing is most people due to social influences,get married before 30 but ask them why really?They have no answer.Some get married to wrong people,some realize there are some things they couldn't achieve before they put a ring on. I believe women should stop rushing to get married.I agree and disagree with this.I agree with her because most early marriage below>18 to 22yrs old end after 3-4 years while mature marriage mostly are permanent.
"Women need real moments of solitude and self reflection to balance how much of ourselves we give away"-Barbara De AngelisMaturity has nothing to do with age. Everyone grows old, but not everyone is growing up...Maturity is all about self realization,.. It comes out of Awareness . Some people attain their maturity at a very young age, while certain people never attain maturity
We can't choose our ages, but we can choose what our actions are. So it's one's choice to be mature or not. Be wise enough to take responsibility of your life
Everyday life teaches us something new, but few people learn from the lessons taught. Some people never learn from their mistakes and experiences. They keep on doing same things over and over again. Only an Experience /mistake with a lesson learnt can take someone's maturity into a high level
You know you are mature enough to get married once you come to realize some of the following things;
*when you are able to differentiate real love from infatuations
*love is not enough reason to get married.
*there is nothing like a perfect man or relationship. You just need a "good enough" man to build life with
*know and understand yourself, what you want in your partner, as well as what you can offer him
*understand what it means to get committed to one person for a lifetime
*when you are able to sacrifice immediate pleasures for long term values etc.
OSHO
Nobody is every prepared for what happens in marriage cause no marriage is the same,I also don't agree that maturity starts after 30 either cause maturity is a choice, an awareness that you transit intoDoes getting into marriage (especially for women) needs preparation? what kind of preparation is that? Haya, ngoja niwasome kwanza nisije kuwa nimekurupuka tu
Hahahaa, kaka angu we umeanza...imelenga watu wote bana ni vile tu nilishindwa kutohoa maneno nikaona nisichanganye lugha..tehUsiniambie ndo na wewe lugha imeishia hapo!! mbona kiswahili umaandikaga mareeeeefu!?
Halafu hebu muulize brenda18 hii mada kawalenga watu wa class gani? usikute tunadandia tu tren kwa mbele sista, may be it's meant for the likes of Heaven Sent
Hahahaa nimecheka..Atoto we ni kichomi..Hahahaaaaaa!! Chezea kinglish wewe! Nimewaza hadi njaa imeuma hicho ndicho kimekuja, mada za kidhungu humu huwa hazichangiwi sana, muulize Paulo Sergio De Souz atakuambia, ila za kishambega tunajimwagaje sasa!!
Nashangaa Heaven Sent leo sijui kakigugo wapi hicho alichoandika!
Nooo, according to her marriage should come when you are 30 or after.....She didn't say wait till you are 30.She said don't let society pressure get to you,that's according to my understanding though..
Kabisa hiii ni changamoto..lakini bado kama mzazi atahitaji kumfunza mwanae hata kwa mda mchache anaoupata anaweza bado kumfunza mwanae...tatizo wazazi nao wako busy,nanii atawafunza hawa watoto?I am not a lady, ila nakubaliana na huyo dada, ila najiuliza katika hii modern life, watoto wetu muda mrefu wapo boarding watajifunza vipi baba na mama wanavyotatua matatizo ya kifedha katika familia, uhusiano na relatives pande zote, approach ya ku solve conflicts za hapa na pale nyumbani....ni tofauti kabisa namaisha ya kijima, baba alipata muda kwenda kumfundisha kijana kazi za kuwinda kulima biashara kwa ukaribu zaidi....mtoto wa kike ali-observe kwa karibu kabisa shuguli zote azifanyazo mama, jinsi mama anavyo handle emotions kukabiliana na challenges mbalimabali ku manage nyumba, chakula wageni watoto, mzee, na shughuli nyingine za kijamii....
Kutokana na wazazi kwasasa kuwa bize, nadhani wapo vijana wachache sana, females in particular, wanao faidi matunda ya kujfunza ndani ya familia mambo muhimu for early maturity.
Haha kaka go deeper,there is something more than that..ama mimi ndio najielewesha vibayaNooo, according to her marriage should come when you are 30 or after.....
She says that is the time you have accumulated enought experience to handle marriage issues......ndo nilivyomuelewa mimi kwa kidhungu chake
Kwakiasi kikubwa naamini a woman at 30, kama ni msomi atakua tayari ameshafanya kazi at least 4 years, enough ku-envision mwelekeo wake kiuchumi na kuwa independent, Kijamii at least pia ana 4 years amesha deal na ndugu na jamaa katika maswala ya kusaidia kifedha na kutoa michango ku resolve conflicts, na pia ana kama 10 years za experience na interactions katika mahusiano na male friends (her love life too), social networks, and a trusted cycle of closer friends...Nooo, according to her marriage should come when you are 30 or after.....
She says that is the time you have accumulated enought experience to handle marriage issues......ndo nilivyomuelewa mimi kwa kidhungu chake