Labda mtapata la kujifunza mlio kwenye ndoa

[Nyani Ngabu]

Not yet...lol...

You are naughty:A S wink:

Ila siezi chiti kwa kuwa its wrong na si sababu ya kumuhurumia yeye...ni kwa vile najiheshimu siezi vulia vulia kila mwanaume sketi...

​Safi sana hususan hapo nilipopakoleza.

 

[kukumega]

Ukishasema ni mwanaume ndio mkosaji basi jua ndoa imeshavunjika...
Kwa hiyo it doesn't matter kama ni kweli au uongo, ku blame the other woman is the sign of readiness to fight for what is yours...

Ni katika ku find reasons to forgive ndio unaanza kutafuta makosa kwa intruder na si kwa mumeo...

Kwa hiyo msishangae sana hiyo ni health situation kuliko kusema..'janamume malaya tu ....kunguru afugiki...etc...' maana kauli kama hizi hazitoi second chance...ndio kuishia kubomoa ndoa kama hii just because of your ego...i have a good job I can take good care of myself and my kids without you...only to realize that you could fight when it is already too late...

Ona watoto wanavyoumia....

I have been there...and almost wanted to kill somebody (the other woman) lol...but it worked...

Mwenye ufahamu hulinda chake

 

[kui]

Nilikuwa nabadilika kama kinyonga...sasa hivi nikikumbuka hadi najicheka mwenyewe...sijui ni shauri ya mimba...

Nakumbuka kuna siku nilimpigia huyu other woman simu nikamwambia namuachia nyumba...afu nikamkebehi mbona mume wangu amegoma kuhamia kwako...huna utamu....(it was true sababu ya mihasira nilimwambia hubby ahame else nahama mimi...kagoma)

Baada ya siku mbili nikamtwangia simu tena nikamwambia nimegairi...mume wangu simuachi kamwe maana naona umeanza kushangilia; endelea kuwinda kwingine...ha ha ha... I was crazy....na mdada alijuta kukutana na mke kichaa...laiti angenijua before...

Wow!, salute gal!

 

[Raynavero]

Nilikuwa nabadilika kama kinyonga...sasa hivi nikikumbuka hadi najicheka mwenyewe...sijui ni shauri ya mimba...

Nakumbuka kuna siku nilimpigia huyu other woman simu nikamwambia namuachia nyumba...afu nikamkebehi mbona mume wangu amegoma kuhamia kwako...huna utamu....(it was true sababu ya mihasira nilimwambia hubby ahame else nahama mimi...kagoma)

Baada ya siku mbili nikamtwangia simu tena nikamwambia nimegairi...mume wangu simuachi kamwe maana naona umeanza kushangilia; endelea kuwinda kwingine...ha ha ha... I was crazy....na mdada alijuta kukutana na mke kichaa...laiti angenijua before...

ulikua unamrushaje roho sasa?!!yaani huyo asa hv anajua kabisa jinsi ulivyo mtata

 

[The Monk]

If you could read again nimesema it doesn't matter...

Na sijasema mkosaji ni the other woman...

Na usijedhani watu wana fight afu wanarudi home kuwabusu na kuwa hug waume zao...nyumbani kunakuwa hakukaliki hakulaliki lakini hatoki mtu (si mume wala mke)

Sasa mama yangu mimi alikuwa opposite...alivumilia mpaka tukawa hatumuelewi...

Hakuna formular but when it is time to walk away or to run utajua tu...my marriage was not at that stage...(at least not yet)

And I love my family for that kwani niliwahusisha lakini kwa busara zao waliniacha niamue mwenyewe wakati walikuwa na uwezo wa kunambia nitimue mbio kwani nina kazi nzuri na ningeweza kulea mwanangu na mimba (by then)...
Nakumbuka mdogo wangu na kaka yangu walinambia whatever I decide they would be by my side...lakini walinikumbusha this is marriage wewe si wa kwanza wala wa mwisho ku face hiyo situation...if you love your husband think twice...na mume wangu nampenda saaaana...ingawa that time nilimchukia kupita kiasi...now It is over...I love him even more...

Ila timbwili nililianzisha kote kote...sa sijui kama ita work na kwa wengine...ila kwangu ili work...mume alikuwa na wakati mgumu zaidi ya miezi sita hadi nilipoanza kusahau...so its not that easy... 'baby come back' ...hell no...na HIV alipima

But next time (GOD Forbid) sitegemei kutumia same strategy...once bitten twice shy....na wala sita panic ila mume wangu ndio atajua mke alooa ana rangi gani... though I believe kwa sasa ashanjua vizuuri... maana heshima alonayo baada ya tukio mpaka imepitiliza...

Tatizo JF wameweka like moja tu, inabidi ikiwezekana mtu unalike hata mara kumi hivi.

 

[The Monk]

You are naughty:A S wink:

​Safi sana hususan hapo nilipopakoleza.

Najua msimamo wako kwenye hili suala mkuu,ndio maana hapo pa kutovulia kila mtu nguo umepapenda, watu wanajiendekeza sana! Ila kweli hii ni nyumba kubwa!

 

[tracy]

If you could read again nimesema it doesn't matter...

Na sijasema mkosaji ni the other woman...

Na usijedhani watu wana fight afu wanarudi home kuwabusu na kuwa hug waume zao...nyumbani kunakuwa hakukaliki hakulaliki lakini hatoki mtu (si mume wala mke)

Sasa mama yangu mimi alikuwa opposite...alivumilia mpaka tukawa hatumuelewi...

Hakuna formular but when it is time to walk away or to run utajua tu...my marriage was not at that stage...(at least not yet)

And I love my family for that kwani niliwahusisha lakini kwa busara zao waliniacha niamue mwenyewe wakati walikuwa na uwezo wa kunambia nitimue mbio kwani nina kazi nzuri na ningeweza kulea mwanangu na mimba (by then)...
Nakumbuka mdogo wangu na kaka yangu walinambia whatever I decide they would be by my side...lakini walinikumbusha this is marriage wewe si wa kwanza wala wa mwisho ku face hiyo situation...if you love your husband think twice...na mume wangu nampenda saaaana...ingawa that time nilimchukia kupita kiasi...now It is over...I love him even more...

Ila timbwili nililianzisha kote kote...sa sijui kama ita work na kwa wengine...ila kwangu ili work...mume alikuwa na wakati mgumu zaidi ya miezi sita hadi nilipoanza kusahau...so its not that easy... 'baby come back' ...hell no...na HIV alipima

But next time (GOD Forbid) sitegemei kutumia same strategy...once bitten twice shy....na wala sita panic ila mume wangu ndio atajua mke alooa ana rangi gani... though I believe kwa sasa ashanjua vizuuri... maana heshima alonayo baada ya tukio mpaka imepitiliza...

Bold part..kudos
Unajua mi naona tofauti ya kwenye story na yako ni kwamba:
you had a husband who was willing to change..sio kahamia in five years
I always tell my friend kuwa,cheating ni mbaya and inaondoa trust ILA how a person aliyekucheat treats you is another thing
kama mtu amecheat na yuko remorseful,thats different ila tatizo ni kwa wale wanaocheat na mwisho wa siku anatreat like sh*t yani hajifunzi na anakuona wa nini,na dharau plus kashikwa kashikika
mtu unabanana baadae unaona yaishe tu
your dignity is far more important maana kama ulivyosema,huezi kumvulivulia mtu tu sasa mwisho wa siku hizi situation ikikuaffect zaidi utaona sawa tu kuvua ili ufill that gap ndo yale ya good girl gone bad
Na kama ni maombi basi ushafanya ya kutosha.
i have seen watu waliofight wakashinda and waliofight wakashindwa.
Nimependa your spirit ya fighting for whats yours,when it IS yours.You deserve kuitwa nyumba kubwa.