Kwanini tunakuwa na mapenzi na watu wasiotupenda?

[Michelle]

Minadhani ni bora kutake time ya kumstudy mtu. Wanasema waswahili uking'atwa na nyoka ata ukiona jani utashituka,sa km ushakaa na mtu hakubadilika unapoachana nae huyo mwingine msome tabia yake kwanza including company yake. By the way m sure mtu km anakupenda ukimwambia cpendi hiki ukifanyacho ataacha tu.

Nakubaliana na wewe Rogi, je,uafikiri hao wanaonyanyasa wapenzi wao hawawaambii kwamba wanachukizwa na kuumizwa na matendo yao?

 

[LD]

Please, take not that;

1. No one is perfect..... every one is a cheater, and every one can be cheated on.... but the differences are styles, extents, aims, reasons, durations, and the ways you deal with it...
2. You are not created to trust a human being....! It is even very possible to trust a dog along the gate, but not a human being along her/his body.....! So, only God is the one to be trusted, and hence never trust any person, even yourself....!
3. Any challenge to happen on you should be taken as a lesson.....
4. Nobody is exactly perfect to be someone to anyone.... so, never expect to find a such person to you.... You must sort, tune, and prepare her/him to be the way you want....

Nimeipenda hii kitu. Dah, nitamuamini Mungu tu, siku zote.

 

[muhosni]

Hua inatokana na uoga!!

Uoga wa kutopenda/pendwa tena!!Uoga wa kutaka kizuri alafu matokeo yake akose hata kibaya alichonacho sasa hivi!!
Kuna watu wataongelea uvumilivu ila kuna hali ambazo hata hupaswi kumshauri mwanadamu mwenzako avumilie kwasababu hamna anaestahili kutendewa.

Ukichukulia mtu anaepigwa kila siku....mwenyewe atajidanganya labda hii ndo mara ya mwisho huku akijua fika hata juzi nilifikiria hivi hivi.

Mtu anakua hajithamini.... haoni kama vile anastahili zaidi ya anachopata!!!Hayo mawazo ya woga na kutokujithamini ni hatari sana maana siku ya siku utajikuta mpenzi mdanganyifu uliyemvumilia amekuletea magonjwa!!!

Mkorofi nae kakufanya chongo au amekuua kabisa!!!Kwa watu wajifunze kua na kiasi. fika mahali useme ENOUGH IS ENOUgh alafu nenda katafute furaha pengine!!!

Naunga mkono hii hoja, ila pia tukumbuke idadi kubwa ya wanawake hawajafika kiwango cha kufanya maamuzi ya namna hii. Maisha magumu Lizzy, wanawake wengi wako na waume wao siyo kwa sababu wanawapenda bali kwa sababu ya livelihood.

Kama umezunguka hii nchi utakubali kwamba kuna wanawake ambao ni slaves kwenye ndoa zao and they have no way out. Simply for economic reasons.

Lakini sasa kuna wale ambao hata huyo mwanaume hana msaada wowote, lakini anamnyanyasa na bado anakaa. Hao sasa sijui tatizo ni nini

 

[Michelle]

Point of correction, if you don't mind. Perfume is for women. For men it's cologne...

Peace....

ha ha ha ha haaaaaaaaaa Via Mobile....thank you for reminding me....some men use wome perfumes...does it change to be a cologne when a man use it? coz i said i will buy him a perfume,meaning i know from using them which ones will suit him....i do not use cologne....:wink2:

 

[Michelle]

Nimeipenda hii kitu.
Dah, nitamuamini Mungu tu, siku zote.

Umeona LD eeeh....? we tend to magnify human beings and trust them too much.....mimi nimeipenda sana....!!

swali...wanasema without trust in relationship......haitadumu...what do you think? can you date someone you do not trust?

 

[Nemo]

Kila siku najiuliza kwanini tunawapenda watu ambao wanatudanganya sana,wanatusaliti na kuendelea kuwa nao?


I think its because of us being complacent and fear of the unknown. Where will I go from here!??When faced with a situation instead of making decisions based on the current facts or reality, we tend to use the time invested and emotion we have thus far invested on the relationship. Along with fear comes denial, and plain old stupidity
Eg.
Guy cheats on you, becomes.....................unajua yule demu alikuwa anajipitisha, na vimini vyake and blah blah blah
Guy disrespects you, becomes........................Jamani hayuko hivyo ni leo tu mimi nimemuudhi , "unajua sikumpigia simu lunch"


My take; If your man ni muongo na msaliti, ni kijitabia chake mwenyewe. Pls know ITS NOT YOU BUT HIM. You can either accept him as he is, or move on. Ila pls stop this nonsense of "if only ningejipilikisha, or if only I did that". I have seen women going thousand extra mile instead of hundred, na still nodda, na wengine who did nothing na wako na mahusiano mazuri.

 

[LD]

Halafu pamoja na yote, Muda unaponya na kujibu maswali mengi sana. Bora kutulia, kabla ya kuingia kwenye uhusiano mwingine. Mi huwa nafikiria kama usipotulia hata huyo Mungu hapati nafasi moyoni mwako.

Utabeba huyu atakuacha, utabeba yule atakuacha, utabeba wangapi? Hata ukifika ule muda ambao Mungu amekupangia kukutana na mtu wako wa ukweli, unakuta umeshalamba majasho ya watu mia na kidogo, na malengo yako yameshapinda pinda kabisa.

MI nadhani ni vizuri kutulia kwa kweli.

 

[Nyani Ngabu]

ha ha ha ha haaaaaaaaaa Via Mobile....thank you for reminding me.... Some men use wome perfumes...does it change to be a cologne when a man use it?

coz i said i will buy him a perfume,meaning i know from using them which ones will suit him....i do not use cologne....

Uuum.... I'm not sure if any red blooded manly man would choose to wear women's perfume. If your man wears women's perfume then to me that's one of those things that make me go hhmm.....

'Memba that song 'things that make you go Hhmm?

 

[Michelle]

Naunga mkono hii hoja, ila pia tukumbuke idadi kubwa ya wanawake hawajafika kiwango cha kufanya maamuzi ya namna hii. Maisha magumu Lizzy, wanawake wengi wako na waume wao siyo kwa sababu wanawapenda bali kwa sababu ya livelihood. Kama umezunguka hii nchi utakubali kwamba kuna wanawake ambao ni slaves kwenye ndoa zao and they have no way out. Simply for economic reasons.

Lakini sasa kuna wale ambao hata huyo mwanaume hana msaada wowote, lakini anamnyanyasa na bado anakaa. Hao sasa sijui tatizo ni nini

Nakubaliana na wewe na ndo maana nikasema,kama wanafikiri hakuna maisha bila wao....je hao wanaume wao wakifa?? huoni kwamba tunajifunga sana kwa visingizio vya we can not survive/manage family without them abusive husbabds????

 

[Michelle]

Kila siku najiuliza kwanini tunawapenda watu ambao wanatudanganya sana,wanatusaliti na kuendelea kuwa nao?


I think its because of us being complacent and fear of the unknown.

Where will I go from here!??When faced with a situation instead of making decisions based on the current facts or reality, we tend to use the time invested and emotion we have thus far invested on the relationship. Along with fear comes denial, and plain old stupidity

Eg.

Guy cheats on you, becomes.....................unajua yule demu alikuwa anajipitisha, na vimini vyake and blah blah blah
Guy disrespects you, becomes........................Jamani hayuko hivyo ni leo tu mimi nimemuudhi , "unajua sikumpigia simu lunch"


My take; If your man ni muongo na msaliti, ni kijitabia chake mwenyewe. Pls know ITS NOT YOU BUT HIM. You can either accept him as he is, or move on. Ila pls stop this nonsense of "if only ningejipilikisha, or if only I did that". I have seen women going thousand extra mile instead of hundred, na still nodda, na wengine who did nothing na wako na mahusiano mazuri.

You are amazing.....super amazing.....wengine hata kwa waganga wameenda,wamefanya vitendo kinyume na maumbile just to stop someone from cheating....its insane....yes, insane....

Inafika wakati wanajilaumu as if ni makosa yao kumbe ni tabia za wanaume wenyewe...na wanaume/wanawake wengine walivyo na roho mbaya utasikia,wanasema ungekuwa hivi,sijui vle ili mradi tu aweze ku-justify matendo yake machafu.....it does not worth it sometimes lets be honest kama Nemo and Lizzy!!

 

[Michelle]

Uuum.... I'm not sure if any red blooded manly man would choose to wear women's perfume. If your man wears women's perfume then to me that's one of those things that make me go hhmmmmm.....

'Memba that song 'things that make you go hhmmm'?

ha ha ha ha haaaaaaaa........kazi kweli kweli......!!!

 

[CPU]

CPU

Kwahiyo unafikiri tuvumilie tu,tukisubiri paradiso? wewe ukipata mwanamke anakupiga na kukuletea wanaume ndani,utakaa ukisema unasubiri paradiso,duniani shetani ataendelea kumjaribu mwanadamu tu ? kweli ?

Michelle

Kwa sababu kila binadamu ni kiumbe dhaifu, basi yatupasa tuwe wavumilivu. Upendo wa kweli unaonekana wakati wa shida, mateso na matatizo, bila kusahau kuwa mvumilivu.

Glasi inabeba maji, lakin maji yasizidi uwezo wa glasi, la sivyo yatamwagika

Hivyo basi hata binadamu anavumilia lakin bila kuzidi uwezo wake wa kuvumilia. Kama napigwa naweza kuvumilia lakin siwezi kuvumilia kupigwa kila siku au kila mara. Tukifahamu haya tutaepuka matatizo mengi sana

 

[Michelle]

Halafu pamoja na yote, Muda unaponya na kujibu maswali mengi sana.
Bora kutulia, kabla ya kuingia kwenye uhusiano mwingine.
Mi huwa nafikiria kama usipotulia hata huyo Mungu hapati nafasi moyoni mwako.

Utabeba huyu atakuacha, utabeba yule atakuacha, utabeba wangapi???
Hata ukifika ule muda ambao Mungu amekupangia kukutana na mtu wako wa ukweli,
unakuta umeshalamba majasho ya watu mia na kidogo, na malengo yako yameshapinda pinda kabisa.

MI nadhani ni vizuri kutulia kwa kweli.

nakubaliana nawe LD, sasa huko kutulia kunakupa guarantee ya kumpata wa tofauti? lets say umetulia miaka yako mitano,then ukampata,do you have any guarantee he will be different from the ones you had before?

je unafikiri hao walioko kwenye abusive relationship hawakusali my sister?

je abusive partners nao wanastahili kupendwa?:A S 13:

 

[Michelle]

Michelle

Michelle

Kwa sababu kila binadamu ni kiumbe dhaifu, basi yatupasa tuwe wavumilivu.
Upendo wa kweli unaonekana wakati wa shida, mateso na matatizo, bila kusahau kuwa mvumilivu.

Glasi inabeba maji, lakin maji yasizidi uwezo wa glasi, la sivyo yatamwagika

Hivyo basi hata binadamu anavumilia lakin bila kuzidi uwezo wake wa kuvumilia. Kama napigwa naweza kuvumilia lakin siwezi kuvumilia kupigwa kila siku au kila mara.

Tukifahamu haya tutaepuka matatizo mengi sana.

sasa tuko pamoja CPU.....tusijilazimishe kubeba zaidi ya uwezo wetu....!!!!!!!!

True love requires tender passion and faithful devotion to triumph beyond a feigned heart.

 

[LD]

Umeona LD eeeh....? we tend to magnify human beings and trust them too much.....mimi nimeipenda sana....!!

swali...wanasema without trust in relationship......haitadumu...what do you think? can you date someone you do not trust?

Mtu nitamwamini kwa kiasi Michelle, yani simpi maisha yote yani, Nafungua kurasa naacha nyingine, nafasi ya Mungu ibaki pale pale, Sio kila kitu ndiyo, lazima nifikirie kabla ya kuamua, hata nimpende vipi, sifanyi jambo bila kufikiria mara mbili mbili.

Amani ya moyo wangu iamue sana......

 

[charger]

There is no any system under the sun which is 100% efficient,leaving the one you think he/she is not perfect doesn't mean that you are perfect,inawezekana kabisa yapo mambo yanayomkera pia, thats why we are suppossed to have some degree of torrelance and tying to accept other people's weakness.

Sio kwamba hakuna wazuri zaidi but nature ya mwanadamu ni kutoridhika na alichonacho, hata huko kwingine unaweza ukakuta tu yasiyokupendeza.

 

[Michelle]

Michelle,

unakumbuka ule wimbo unasema "I'll be there...he better be good to you.....cause if he doesn't....I will be there..."

sweet....will be forever grateful and honoured to have you....not because you are perfect but because you are sensitive enough and you understand!!

 

[Nyani Ngabu]

sweet....will be forever grateful and honoured to have you....not because you are perfect but because you are sensitive enough and you understand!!

You are on it today!!!!

 

[Michelle]

Mtu nitamwamini kwa kiasi Michelle, yani simpi maisha yote yani, Nafungua kurasa naacha nyingine, nafasi ya Mungu ibaki pale pale, Sio kila kitu ndiyo, lazima nifikirie kabla ya kuamua, hata nimpende vipi, sifanyi jambo bila kufikiria mara mbili mbili. Amani ya moyo wangu iamue sana......

Pamoja sana LD....nimejifunza hilo!!

 

[Michelle]

You are on it today!!!!

on what?:A S 13::decision: