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Keep the spark in your sex life
If you'd rather be stuffing dirty laundry into the washing machine on a Friday night than getting down and dirty in the horizontal position, your sex life may be stuck in a rut.
But, before lapping up the vino and blasting the weepy tune, All By Myself, over the stereo system (so tragically Bridget Jones and nobody needs that), bust a move and resolve to make 2008 the year of steamy, satisfying, irresistible, sex.
Achieving a solid and pleasing sex life may not be the most essential thing in life, but it is an important one.
If you're feeling too sluggish, tired, undesirable, or fear that the sexual flame between you and your sweetheart is starting to flicker, it's time to take stock and undress the issues that may be standing in the way.
Clear the mental clutter:
Sometimes our to-do-lists seem to have reproductive genes of their own and it's so easy to get bogged down by the mental weight of it all that the very idea of carving out time for a night of bedroom play may seem impossible.
Stress can literally send even the most potent of libidos downward spiralling quicker than Boxing Day shoppers can drop their cash on holiday bargains.
That said, prioritizing regular sex doesn't just re-ignite the intimacy embers, but also helps quash life's stressors at the same time by increasing levels of oxytocin and stimulating feelings of relaxation.
To get out of a sexual slump, consider penciling play dates at the top of your list. I know, it's not as sexy as getting frisky while cooking dinner, but it will add some sizzle to your sex life and, in time, perhaps even to your kitchen!
Body image:
The more you get, the more you want -- exercise, that is.
Without a doubt, feeling body confident helps boost desire. Hitting the treadmill, heading out for long walks or pumping up your biceps at the boxing gym will have you holding your head higher and give you more energy to play with.
Think about it this way: When you feel great about your body, you'll be all the more eager to show it off by stripping down to your birthday suit.
Drive past the drive-thru:
A burger and side of fries may be quick, easy and relatively cheap, but the costs of a poor diet can wreak havoc on your waistline and sex drive. Heavy, high-fat meals often leave us feeling lethargic -- and there's nothing sexy about that.
Instead of ordering up the combo meal, get your circulation stirring by choosing healthy dishes and snacks such as salmon (also high in Omega-3 fatty acids), granola, chickpeas, nuts and stocking up on those veggies.
Sex-ercise:
Not only do regular romps offer positive therapeutic benefits such as reducing stress and producing germ-fighting antibodies, they also build greater connections between partners, add extra heart-pounding exercise to your cardio routine and improves flexibility, muscle tone and strength. Now talk about a fun workout!
Better sex, better sleep:
Before uttering the words, "Not tonight honey, I am tired," consider this: Sex leads to a deeper state of relaxation, which means a better night's rest for the both of you.
What do you want for 2008?
If you're keeping your sexual wish-list shrouded in secrecy, it's time to open up the verbal vault and communicate your wants and needs.
Be willing to try new positions, locations, share fantasies, slap on the handcuffs, role play, or slip in a skin flick, should the mood strike. The more you share, the closer and more comfortable you'll become. The result? A hotter sex life for 2008.
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Keep the spark in your sex life
If you'd rather be stuffing dirty laundry into the washing machine on a Friday night than getting down and dirty in the horizontal position, your sex life may be stuck in a rut.
But, before lapping up the vino and blasting the weepy tune, All By Myself, over the stereo system (so tragically Bridget Jones and nobody needs that), bust a move and resolve to make 2008 the year of steamy, satisfying, irresistible, sex.
Achieving a solid and pleasing sex life may not be the most essential thing in life, but it is an important one.
If you're feeling too sluggish, tired, undesirable, or fear that the sexual flame between you and your sweetheart is starting to flicker, it's time to take stock and undress the issues that may be standing in the way.
Clear the mental clutter:
Sometimes our to-do-lists seem to have reproductive genes of their own and it's so easy to get bogged down by the mental weight of it all that the very idea of carving out time for a night of bedroom play may seem impossible.
Stress can literally send even the most potent of libidos downward spiralling quicker than Boxing Day shoppers can drop their cash on holiday bargains.
That said, prioritizing regular sex doesn't just re-ignite the intimacy embers, but also helps quash life's stressors at the same time by increasing levels of oxytocin and stimulating feelings of relaxation.
To get out of a sexual slump, consider penciling play dates at the top of your list. I know, it's not as sexy as getting frisky while cooking dinner, but it will add some sizzle to your sex life and, in time, perhaps even to your kitchen!
Body image:
The more you get, the more you want -- exercise, that is.
Without a doubt, feeling body confident helps boost desire. Hitting the treadmill, heading out for long walks or pumping up your biceps at the boxing gym will have you holding your head higher and give you more energy to play with.
Think about it this way: When you feel great about your body, you'll be all the more eager to show it off by stripping down to your birthday suit.
Drive past the drive-thru:
A burger and side of fries may be quick, easy and relatively cheap, but the costs of a poor diet can wreak havoc on your waistline and sex drive. Heavy, high-fat meals often leave us feeling lethargic -- and there's nothing sexy about that.
Instead of ordering up the combo meal, get your circulation stirring by choosing healthy dishes and snacks such as salmon (also high in Omega-3 fatty acids), granola, chickpeas, nuts and stocking up on those veggies.
Sex-ercise:
Not only do regular romps offer positive therapeutic benefits such as reducing stress and producing germ-fighting antibodies, they also build greater connections between partners, add extra heart-pounding exercise to your cardio routine and improves flexibility, muscle tone and strength. Now talk about a fun workout!
Better sex, better sleep:
Before uttering the words, "Not tonight honey, I am tired," consider this: Sex leads to a deeper state of relaxation, which means a better night's rest for the both of you.
What do you want for 2008?
If you're keeping your sexual wish-list shrouded in secrecy, it's time to open up the verbal vault and communicate your wants and needs.
Be willing to try new positions, locations, share fantasies, slap on the handcuffs, role play, or slip in a skin flick, should the mood strike. The more you share, the closer and more comfortable you'll become. The result? A hotter sex life for 2008.
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