Inapotokea vipaumbele vimetofautiana, what next?

[nosspass]

Am happy ila najiuliza y kudifer, wote hivi au sisi tu

kaka hawa jinsia B wako the same....hauko pekee....tunaugulia kimya kimya....zingua nikuzingue...shidaaa.....hata ukimnunlia mtoto nguo.....na yeye anauliza wapi ya kwangu........eti unampenda mtoto kuliko mie,,,na mie ndo nilimzaa...duh....Mola tusaidie wewe.....msaidizi uliyetupa mgogoro.....

 

[Tarime one]

Uko ndani ya ndoa au bado ?tushauri tukijua mazingira halisi.

 

[sam2000]

Wadau habarini za asubuhi,

Jamani nsije nkazidi haribu maana uwezo wangu wa kufikiri umeishia hapa, nitafurahi nikipata experience,

Hua mnafanyaje na wenziwenu inapotokea interst zenu au vipaumbele vimetofautiana, Maana kuna mda napinga mawazo bt nahofia kuonekana mbinafsi.

Kuna mda naamua nifatishe mawazo yake lakini kiukweli hapa moyo huuma ila sina jinsi ye anaenjoy me naumia naishia kumuona mbinafsi. Tukisema tudiscus tutamaliza wiki kwa ubishi yaani iwe ile hakuna kupendelea kila mtu atakuja na hoja tunashindwa amua kipi kiwe basi tabu tupu,.

Sasa nimeshindwa elewa endapo ntatetea point yangu tu the maximum anakua mpole indirectly sipendi hilo basi nikaja na uamuzi wa ndio mzee kumkubalia kila afanyacho endapo atanipa chance ya kuniuliza nayo imekua tatizo ananiambia nimemuachia kuamua kilakitu, nifanyaje wadau, nafanya haya kumfanya aridhike maana nimegundua interest zetu ni tofauti kabisaaaaaaa.


Wadau nyie na wenziwenu wote mna interest sawa, na ikitokea zimedifa mwafanyaje?

Depends you guys have disagreements on what issues, kama ni issue tu za kawaida hapo hakuna problem lakini kama ni important goals you guys have set to accomplish then mnashindwa kuleweana the direction you need to take get there, then there is a serious problem ad you both need to sit and resolve it early enough before it snowball into something beyond repair. My two cents!!!

 

[Suprise]

Kaka, huw mnadiffer kwenye mambo gani? Wakinamama wengi huwa wana misimamo iyenye mwelekeo wa maendeleo ya mapema wakati sisi wanaume huwa tunapenda kusubiri eti pesa zipatikane nyingi. Hizo pesa nyingi unazitoa wpi, labd ukaibe. Kama ni masuala ya maendeleo je, unapomfuata mnafnikiwa au la? Kama mnafanikiwa kuwa Mr yes, kama hamfanikiwi wewe nimkichwa unapswa kutoa uamuzi mwafaka na lazima atafuata hata kwa nuna

Nahisi umenielewa kwa kiwango kikubwa sana

 

[Himidini]

Some differences needs both a matured mind and a character of humbleness.

 

[Miss Neddy]

Ndio maana home kwangu nimeweka pasiwedi hadi kwenye visimbusi...

aiseeeeee unamtesaje bibi yangu

 

[Watu8]

aiseeeeee unamtesaje bibi yangu

Na yeye anazo pasiwedi zake...

 

[Miss Neddy]

Na yeye anazo pasiwedi zake...

hahahahaha passiwedi tofauti kisimbuzi kimoja

 

[Watu8]

hahahahaha passiwedi tofauti kisimbuzi kimoja

Haswaaa!!!

 

[Kinyau]

Theres a saying “ A man will always be aman and woman a woman” Kila mtu ana vitu anavyoona ni prioritykwake ila katika urafiki na uchumba mnatakiwa kuongelea mambo yote muhimu ; Juamwenzio ana perpective gani kuhusu dini, fedha, ajira, ujasiriamali , nk Kwenyeurafiki utagundua mambo mengi sana – hata mkiwa kwenye gari ukiona rafiki hatuliibarabarani, kumpisha dereva mwingine hawezi, anatukana akichomekewa , anavisasi kwa walimuovertake ujue hiyo ni reflection ya personality. Au mathalanikuna taarifa inatangazwa redioni- kuna viwanja vipya –ukaona walau ana interestbasi utajua hii ni reflection ya ambitions zake. Ni vyema kuangalia mambo muhimu wakati wa uchumba and Itell u, wanaume huwa hawabadili sana kutoka alivyokuwa rafiki (kama kwelimlispend enough time hawezi kupretend kwenye key issues). Jua likes anddislikes za mwenzio na pia kama ni maudhi madogo –ujue jinsi ya kuji-accommodatekatika hayo. Ndoa ni sadaka kubwa sana inayojengwa juuya Upendo; Sasa hivi ndoa chache sana zipi juu ya upendo . Misingi imekuwastatus na Mali. Turudi kwenye usemi wangu wa awali kuwa “Mwanaume ni mwanaumena mwanamke ni mwanamke”, sina maana mbaya ila tuangalie historia na mafundishoya dini , clearly there are things a man needs to take control (don’t mean todictate) and the woman takes the advisory role- oxford dictionary inadefineadvisory as “Having orconsisting in the power to make recommendations but not to take actionenforcing them:” . Hivyo basi wanawake wamepewa Power kubwa sana ya ushawishikuwa washauri. Samahani , wakristowaliosoma kitabu cha Esther watakumbuka how Queen Esther alitumia nguvu kuu ya ushawishi kwamfalme kwa maneno na maombi hadi akapewanusu ya ufalme. Mwanamke amepewa lugha laini , ushawishi kuweza kumgeuza mumeweili hizo priotity ziwe kwa malengo ya familia. Isije ikawa ushawishi wako ni wakukemea na kufoka na kununa , katu hutashinda. Na nguvu hii ya ushawishiikitumika vyema mwanaume hana ujanja wa kukiuka- mara nyingi atakumbuka upolena maelezo yakinifu ya mkewe na watajadili vyema na kufikia maamuzi.


Sasa basi , turudi kwa mleta hoja; umesema mnatofautiana malengo; Jeunahisi malengo ya nani ni objective na constructive towards the two of you?Maana kama mna ndoa lazima kuna malengomuhimu kama chakula, makazi, malezi ya watoto nk ambayo kama wote wawilimmejicommit kuwa wanandoa lazima muwe driven na common goals hata kama hupendi. Katika ndoa tunatoa ubinafsi kwa kujali malengo ya wote. Je mmeanisha malengoyenu ya ndoa na familia (tunarudi kwenye urafiki, uchumba na malengomliyoweka?) au mnaenda ili mradi siku zinapita tu? Kama hamjafanya hivyohujachelewa, ni muhimu kujadili what the two of you want as a couple and how toget that.
Na kama priorities hizi ni TVprograms, where to go on the next holiday , etc – basi Mmoja ajishushe mara yakwanza (I advise uanze wewe ) na tumialugha laini na mbinu nyepesi za ushawishi kumsihi kwa nini na wewe unapendausikilizwe in the next selection.