okoyoko
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- Jun 15, 2014
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Hello guys
Kuna mdada mmoja nlimtongoza halafu akaonesha kunikubali, like ananipigia simu, anani-text, she is sweet and charming etc..isipokuwa tu kila nikimwita aje gheto, au nikimwomba ni-spend time pamoja nae, anadai kuwa yuko busy, sana sana atanialika kwao nikamtembelee.
Alichonimaliza ni pale aliponiomba nimkopeshe elf 30 ya kwenda saluni, akiahidi kunirudishia hiyo hela baada ya wiki mbili (of course we all know there is 98% probability kuwa asingenirudishia) na mdada nahis alijua nisingemdai hiyo hela kwasababu nampenda..so technically ni kwamba aliniomba hela indirectly.
Sasa nkajiuliza na kufikiria mambo kadhaa:
1) Hajui ku-manage hela, hata nkimuoa si atakopa kopa aweke familia kwenye madeni ili aende saluni?
2)Muda wa ku-spend time na mimi hana, ila muda wa kwenda saluni kusuka anao..
3)Kanikopa hela Siku ya 3 tu baada ya kufahamiana nae, which to me is a huge red flag, najua ni jukumu la mwanaume kumpa hela mpenzi wake (mke au girlfriend), na mimi nakubaliana hilo jukumu, ila huyu mdada nahisi ananipendea hela , nina uwezo wa kumpa hata mara 10 ya hela alioniomba, ila mmh hapana..I don't want her to use me financially.
Sasa nimemwambia usijali utapata hiyo hela, ila kiukweli simpi hela, sitakaa nimtembelee kwao, niwasiliane nae au niongee nae tena, wala calls na SMS zake sitojibu, nimekaa zangu kimya kama jogoo aliemwagiwa maji ya baridi..bora fedha kuliko fedheha..
Kuna mdada mmoja nlimtongoza halafu akaonesha kunikubali, like ananipigia simu, anani-text, she is sweet and charming etc..isipokuwa tu kila nikimwita aje gheto, au nikimwomba ni-spend time pamoja nae, anadai kuwa yuko busy, sana sana atanialika kwao nikamtembelee.
Alichonimaliza ni pale aliponiomba nimkopeshe elf 30 ya kwenda saluni, akiahidi kunirudishia hiyo hela baada ya wiki mbili (of course we all know there is 98% probability kuwa asingenirudishia) na mdada nahis alijua nisingemdai hiyo hela kwasababu nampenda..so technically ni kwamba aliniomba hela indirectly.
Sasa nkajiuliza na kufikiria mambo kadhaa:
1) Hajui ku-manage hela, hata nkimuoa si atakopa kopa aweke familia kwenye madeni ili aende saluni?
2)Muda wa ku-spend time na mimi hana, ila muda wa kwenda saluni kusuka anao..
3)Kanikopa hela Siku ya 3 tu baada ya kufahamiana nae, which to me is a huge red flag, najua ni jukumu la mwanaume kumpa hela mpenzi wake (mke au girlfriend), na mimi nakubaliana hilo jukumu, ila huyu mdada nahisi ananipendea hela , nina uwezo wa kumpa hata mara 10 ya hela alioniomba, ila mmh hapana..I don't want her to use me financially.
Sasa nimemwambia usijali utapata hiyo hela, ila kiukweli simpi hela, sitakaa nimtembelee kwao, niwasiliane nae au niongee nae tena, wala calls na SMS zake sitojibu, nimekaa zangu kimya kama jogoo aliemwagiwa maji ya baridi..bora fedha kuliko fedheha..
