How can I peacefully end a relationship my mother does not support?

[Wasomba]

There is this girl I met at my working place in the mid last year, we exchanged contact that day, and one thing led to the other and we started dating. We are really into each other and I can sense how much she care about me compared to other relationships I have been in the past.

But when my mum got to know about her, she said she's not in support with our relationship and she has never said such in my past relationship.

Please I want to seek advice from my fellow JF members here on how I can peacefully end the relationship without hurting her feelings.

And how can I justify myself so that she won't have a bad impression about me (and men in general) that I just use her and dump her.

 

[Cordy bnei shirk]

There is no peaceful way to end it,especially when she knows that your mum was behind the break up.

 

[Nyani Ngabu]

There is this girl I met at my working place in the mid last year, we exchanged contact that day, and one thing led to the other and we started dating. We are really into each other and I can sense how much she care about me compared to other relationships I have been in the past.

But when my mum got to know about her, she said she's not in support with our relationship and she has never said such in my past relationship.

Please I want to seek advice from my fellow JF members here on how I can peacefully end the relationship without hurting her feelings.

And how can I justify myself so that she won't have a bad impression about me (and men in general) that I just use her and dump her.

You really have to have your mom's imprimatur on who you date?

How old are you?

 

[Nokia83]

Mamaz boy

 

[stritglow]

Is your mother the one who is dating her, or you?
If not, then why end a good relationship just because of her.

 

[Taffman]

Hard to advice

 

[luckyline]

For sure u don't love that girl. The only way to end this, u need to discuss the matter with yo' mom.
ahaaaa yo age plzzzzz!!! only boys can do such stupid things.

 

[KikulachoChako]

Hii kama niliiona Nairaland forums

 

[tremendous]

You really have to have your mom's imprimatur on who you date?

How old are you?

By any chance he must be under eighteen.

 

[Lite]

There is this girl I met at my working place in the mid last year, we exchanged contact that day, and one thing led to the other and we started dating. We are really into each other and I can sense how much she care about me compared to other relationships I have been in the past.

But when my mum got to know about her, she said she's not in support with our relationship and she has never said such in my past relationship.

Please I want to seek advice from my fellow JF members here on how I can peacefully end the relationship without hurting her feelings.

And how can I justify myself so that she won't have a bad impression about me (and men in general) that I just use her and dump her.

Hii kitu ilinitokea. I really liked the guy.
*He is my good friend to this day. But alivyoniintroduce to his mother things didnt go well. Actually she welcomed me warmly but body language ilichange when she heard my surname. Just to confirm aliuliza kabila then nilivyomjibu that was it! Uchangamfu ukiisha na hakuonyshesha tena interest ya kutaka kuongea na mimi.
Tunatoka mkoa mmoja na huyo kijana/and his mother but kabila tofauti. And l came to find out kuna animosity between our two tribe and they rarely intermarry.

Well nilijiongeza and l slowly ended the relationship with him. I'm am now happily married with someone else. I dont regret moving on.
That is life sometimes things just dont work out despite the best intentions and its better to walk away.

 

[Designated]

Unfortunately you just copied this from somewhere, I'm sure you cant answer my question.

At least you can ask whoever you copied it from what was the reason that his mother wasnt in support of the relationship?

Bad question I guess, he only wants to dump her PEACEFULLY.

 

[shonkoso]

There is this girl I met at my working place in the mid last year, we exchanged contact that day, and one thing led to the other and we started dating. We are really into each other and I can sense how much she care about me compared to other relationships I have been in the past.

But when my mum got to know about her, she said she's not in support with our relationship and she has never said such in my past relationship.

Please I want to seek advice from my fellow JF members here on how I can peacefully end the relationship without hurting her feelings.

And how can I justify myself so that she won't have a bad impression about me (and men in general) that I just use her and dump her.

Parent's consent is of paramount importance,so you real need to listen to your mother, remember that our parents are always are well wishers of our lives no matter what coming to how you can end your love life with her, just tell her the truth that your parents are not in favour of the relationship.

 

[Smart911]

Muweke wazi bila kumficha kwamba mama yake hamkubali...

Sisemi vibaya about your mom, ila mama, as she being a women... wanawake kwa wanawake wanajuana...


Cc: mahondaw

 

[callmeGhost]

There is this girl I met at my working place in the mid last year, we exchanged contact that day, and one thing led to the other and we started dating. We are really into each other and I can sense how much she care about me compared to other relationships I have been in the past.

But when my mum got to know about her, she said she's not in support with our relationship and she has never said such in my past relationship.

Please I want to seek advice from my fellow JF members here on how I can peacefully end the relationship without hurting her feelings.

And how can I justify myself so that she won't have a bad impression about me (and men in general) that I just use her and dump her.

I can see some sentences that are grammatically wrong. drop that.

Listen up, the situation you are in is a storm. Believe me, I have been there. I will answer you according to my experience. But before you continue reading, just know my relationship failed.
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My mother didn't like my girlfriend because she came from a poor family, because her mother lives at Mbagala, because her tribe is Nyakyusa. Pretty lame excuses eee? Well tell you what, my mom was hot, she was direct, 'I don't want you to marry that girl!'.That's was my situation, you haven't mentioned why she doesn't like your girlfriend.

You must be above 18 and if you are it's your decision on who you marry since your parents will leave you on Earth and you gonna be living with your partner of choice. Better be your choice and not your parents, because in the long run you will regret it big time. Therefore I continued the relationship, my girlfriend was aware of the situation. Why did I continue? Because the excuses were lame. But if in your case it's because the girl is a stripper or something, I suggest you listen to your mama and run.

My life was a living hell. My mother did all the type of things to ruin the relationship. Mothers. I swore to God I would never leave this woman and the more stones were thrown on my way, I kept on the faith. But eventually my girlfriend broke even. She simply gave up, and she started causing trouble now. She would flirt with men in front of me, she would start a fight in public over nothing, she would start demanding expensive stuff. This showed I loved her more than she loved me. Mind you! I used to say sorry even if I found her cheating ukipenda maovu huoni. So I had two wars, one from my mom and another from my girlfriend. We had to fight one war, now I am fighting two war. Slowly I began to break. This is when she came in front of me and told me it's over.

Conclusion

The moral of my story is, if you two love each other and your mom's objections are not straight, please with all force, stay with that woman. But so far from what am reading, it looks like you don't even love the woman if you even think of using her and bouncing. So my very good advice is, save the woman a rough life ahead and leave her now. You not loving her + your mom's pressure=someone hanging herself. Let's just say you love her, then find a way to bring them close to your mom, or else your marriage will be a living hell. Unless you leave 50000km away from your mama.

Ps: next time try not introducing your women early to parents, learnt that the hard way. They will do anything to break the relationship if they don't like your partner. If you are sure you will marry the girl in 4-6 months, that's the right time to introduce. Goodluck brother.

#callmeGhost

 

[Wasomba]

Unfortunately you just copied this from somewhere, I'm sure you cant answer my question.

At least you can ask whoever you copied it from what was the reason that his mother wasnt in support of the relationship?

Bad question I guess, he only wants to dump her PEACEFULLY.

I am the one who put it everywhere you see even in Kenya talk though with different I'd.

 

[callmeGhost]

Hii kitu ilinitokea. I really liked the guy.
*He is my good friend to this day. But alivyoniintroduce to his mother things didnt go well. Actually she welcomed me warmly but body language ilichange when she heard my surname. Just to confirm aliuliza kabila then nilivyomjibu that was it! Uchangamfu ukiisha na hakuonyshesha tena interest ya kutaka kuongea na mimi.
Tunatoka mkoa mmoja na huyo kijana/and his mother but kabila tofauti. And l came to find out kuna animosity between our two tribe and they rarely intermarry.

Well nilijiongeza and l slowly ended the relationship with him. I'm am now happily married with someone else. I dont regret moving on.
That is life sometimes things just dont work out despite the best intentions and its better to walk away.

I can see the girl who dropped me getting married... Sounds like you kabisaaaa. I don't know how your relationship was with that guy of yours, but Mimi wa kwangu sitomsamehe aisee.. kwanza sio swala la kusamehana. What she did to me was nilikuwa namtetea, taken good care of her and even beyond. Najinyima ili tu ajisikie furaha and out of nowhere she dropped my a**. Tulienda sijui makanisa mangapi, a few weeks back went to one wakaniuliza about our relationship nikabaki nasema tunaendelea vizuri nilitamba sana. To this day some of my friends think we are together maana wale wanaojua ukweli kimebaki kicheko. Kila mtu anasema nimerogwa. At the end akaniambia she can't continue.

Ila nyie wanawake sio poa. Anyway we create our own monsters. Mungu naomba uniondolee hii roho. Siendi church tena cause I used to go with her every single day ananidanganya tunapigana bla blah nyingi mwisho ananiacha kwenye mataa. Enough said sitojiroga kupenda tena. Now naona nikula good time and hitting the road. You women are never serious when you are truly loved.

Am sorry to drop this on you. Umenikumbusha machungu. Sms to all parents... Msiharibu relationship za watoto wenu Kama ni sababu za kifedha na kabila. Mengine sawa.

I have loved and I have lost. Now it's time to transform the good girls into freaks

-callmeGhost

 

[Designated]

I am the one who put it everywhere you see even in Kenya talk though with different I'd.

So you claim, but then why avoid the obvious question?

 

[jwhizzy]

C'mon, trust your Own instincts.

 

[Wasomba]

Napata changamoto sana kwa kweli.

 

[Evelyn Salt]

Napata changamoto sana kwa kweli.

Kudate na mamaz boy ni shughuli, ila shughuli zaidi itamkuta atakaekubali kuolewa na wewe, huwa mna akili za kushikiwa sana huyo mke atakua mke wake familia mama yako ndo atakua mwamuzi wa kila kitu kwenye maisha yako, huna tofauti na diamond na mama dangote. Pole mtoto wa mama