Naah…I mean the statement that "NDOA kama NDOA sio ngumu ila sisi binadamu kwa matendo na tabia zetu ndio tunaifanya NDOA kuonekana ni ngumu". As far as I know there is no ndoa without people. So how can there be ndoa kama ndoa by itself and then when you add the people dimension to it that's when you get all the complexities, confusions, issues, and whatnot?
That's what I wanted you to enunciate and delineate the difference(s). Of course, if you only don't mind otherwise you can pass.
Warmest regards.