Crossroads: Ex wa mke wangu wanaendelea kuwa karibu na wife hadi sasa

Zamazamani said:
Nashindwa ku comment kabisa...Yaani huu ni uboya wa hali ya juu...Yaani umedhibitisha mkeo anagegedwa kwa 100% lakini bado unataka ushauri, kweli?? Huyo mwanamke amesharudisha moyo kwa jamaa yake ndiyo maana hata simu yake anaicha free na hajali kabisa.....Kinachofuata ni kwamba atakutesa mpaka milele....na unasema jamaa anayekuibia anapata support toka kwa mama mkwe...huwezi kumkatalia kwenda likizo kwa ambako kimsingi anampelekea jamaa papuchi...............yHapo huna lako ndugu achana naye
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Huyu alinyang'anya girlfriend wa jamaa na kulazimisha mapenzi sasa anavuna alichopanda. ....(na bado ) in Bambo voice


Kwa kichina wanasema KARMA IS THE BITCH.

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Zamazamani said:
Nashindwa ku comment kabisa...Yaani huu ni uboya wa hali ya juu...Yaani umedhibitisha mkeo anagegedwa kwa 100% lakini bado unataka ushauri, kweli?? Huyo mwanamke amesharudisha moyo kwa jamaa yake ndiyo maana hata simu yake anaicha free na hajali kabisa.....Kinachofuata ni kwamba atakutesa mpaka milele....na unasema jamaa anayekuibia anapata support toka kwa mama mkwe...huwezi kumkatalia kwenda likizo kwa ambako kimsingi anampelekea jamaa papuchi...............yHapo huna lako ndugu achana naye
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jamaa kichwa ngumu sana anakuambia kuwa hayuko radhi kumpoteza mwanamke na anampenda sana. wewe mpka una ushahidi kuwa manzi wako kaliwa na bado uko tu. aise
 
BAFA said:
Mm sijui ww dini gani lkn kwa sisi waislam anasem mtume saw "dayuth(mtu asiekuwa na wivu na mkewe) haingii peponi". Kwahyo we ni dayuuth hakuna mana ya ww kuitwa mume au mwanaume kama heshima ya kutunziwa tendo la ndoa. Mana kama wajua mke anapakuliwa na ww bado uko nae huna tofauti na wasenge au mashoga . kuwa mwanaume kijana fanya maamuzi mwanamke yupo tu utamng'ang'ania je akifa utaendelea pia kung'ang'ana. Huyo unaemuita mke yuko tyr kufanya hata 3som kumfrahisha bwana wake halaf uko tyr kusema bado unamhitaji shame on yiy
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Jamaa kupitiliza kwake sijui ni limbwata la wapi!!

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Talk to her plain truth of what you have discovered, if she's not willing to give up on the guy, or you notice she's not telling you the truth,
Jus let her go!, imho

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so sorry ...Hamna kitu kigumu kama kushindana na mtu . hao wanahistoria yao so ww ni kama uliingilia ..so utakavoonesha kumpenda zaidi nadhan ndo atakavozid fanya madudu yu just keep ur self busy somewhere
 
Pole mzee baba. I can feel it. Hapo dawa namba moja ni kukusanya ushahidi wote na ukae naye kwa utulivu bila hasira na umwambue ukweli wote wa yote unayoyajua kuhusu mahusiano yao. Piga moyo konde brother, then kubaliana na maamuzi yoyote atakayochukua mkeo, iwe kuachana au yeye kukiri kosa na kuomba msamaha. Bila hivyo utakufa kwa pressure na stress brother.
Willy Wills said:
Honestly ni ufala sana. Wife aliteswa sana baada ya kugundua jamaa anamcheat na kumdump, the moment naanza naye relation alikua ameugua sana baada ya maumivu ya kulia sana takribani wiki nzima alilazwa....i saved her from that situation....i used a lot of money kumrudisha katika hali ya kawaida. Leo the guy aliyemtesa ndio ananicheat naye..... i never cried lakini wa mara ya kwanza
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Willy Wills said:
Hello guys!

Kama unasoma ujumbe huu naomba nikushukuru kwa kupoteza muda wa kusoma nyuzi zingine na kujua ni kipi hasa ninahitaji unishauri. Nitaanzia mbali kidogo ili upate mtiririko mzuri wa matukio na nitajaribu kuweka kila detail ya msingi ili ukiweza kunishauri, unishauri vyema. Yawezekana niko desperate kiasi cha kuonekana kuwa nauliza ushauri kwa ajabu ambalo ni la kawaida katika jamii.

Mimi ni mwanaume wa miaka 31 ni mzaliwa na mkazi wa mkoa wa DSM. Nimeoa na mke wangu ana mtoto mmoja. Ni mtumishi wa umma katika 'ofisi kuu' ya Nchi yetu.

....ilipoanzia....

Miaka mi4 iliyopita nilifahamiana na binti mmoja(wife) yeye akiwa ni mtumishi katika ofisi moja ya 'uchunguzi' HQ. Frankly nilimoenda sana at glance na hadi leo nikiri ninampenda sana, sina hakika kama niko tayari kumpoteza. Nikaanza kumfuatilia na kugundua yuko kwenye relation na jamaa mmoja ambaye ni mwanafunzi wa law SAUT mwanza, na binti alikua deadly in love with the guy ambaye wamekaa for almost 3 years back then since wakiwa High school. Jamaa anatoka mkoa mmoja na binti(lake zone). Hivyo nikaona ugumu ulipo kumpata. Nikaendelea na hustle za kumfuatilia ili nijue vita ikoje, nikichukua advantage kuwa binti niko naye dar na jamaa yuko huko mwanza. Nikaja gundua pia jamaa angalau twice per month huwa anakuja dar kwa binti na alikua akifikia nyumbani kwa binti ambapo wanaishi na sista yake. Pia nikaja gundua financially jamaa hakua vibaya sana (though hakunizidi) kwani mzee wake alikua ni 'kigogo' wa council moja huko kusini, na alikua akisimamia projects kadhaa za ujenzi za mzee wake hapo Mwanza, pia alikua na mkopo chuoni. sources ziliniambia jamaa alikua akimpiga tafu binti kwa issues nyingi kama house rent kidogo, issues mbili tatu za kimaisha. Nikagundua pia binti alikua akimumini sana jamaa, ingawa jamaa alikua ni player wa siri sana na mtu wa pombe sana... nilihisi kushindwa pambano....

...2015 march nipata info kuwa jamaa ameenda weekend kuspend uganda na ameondoka na rafiki yake na madem wawili bila kumuambia binti. Nikafanya makeke taarifa zikamfikia binti. Hapa binti akaanza kuloose trust na jamaa. To me ilikua ni point tatu. Aliporudi Uganda jamaa akaja dar, kisha binti akagundua messages za mapenzi na dem mmoja wa jamaa.. sikujua what happened next.

....few days later nikapata taarifa binti yuko frastruated na anaumwa baada ya kugundua nasty things za jamaa yake. I took advantage na nikawa close na binti nikamcare sana....siku moja tuko naye jamaa kapiga dem akamjibu dry kuwa yuko namimi hawezi ongea na simu. I told myself that im about to win... Nikawa close na binti finally nikamtia mimba na punde nikatangaza ndoa, binti aka convert kufuata dini yangu and we married. from then hakua binti tena bali wife and she gave me baby girl.....Thanks God shem zangu hawakua na shida na Mimi wala mama mkwe wangu 2015-2017 things were cool na nilijiridhisha kuwa binti hakua na mawasiliano na binti...

bahati mbaya tuliingia kwenye quarrels kadhaa baada ya kunigundua red handed mara kadhaa kuwa nina mcheat. We peacefully solved shida zetu...

But i started kunote tofauti fulani fulani. Wife hakutaka tena nishike simu yake on ground kuwa mimi sitaki ashike yangu. Mwaka huu mwanzoni nikakuta namba fulani imempigia, nikampigia na nikapokelewa na mwanaume, nikamwambia mpigie fulani (wife) alikua anakutafuta, jamaa akanijibu yeye anayo namba yangu kwanini asinipigie mwenyewe. Nikakata simu.

baada ya wiki kadhaa, nikaona namba ya jamaa imeweka d.p picha ya wife kilichonistua ni kuwa that pic sikuwahi iona..it was like my wife selfied herself and sent a pic straight to the guy. Nikachat na jamaa na kumtumia picha za wife zingine na kumuambia... weka na hizo profile....but hakunijibu chochote cha kumfanya nione kuwa wako naye kimahusiano. Jamaa alikua smart sana kwenye majibu yake akiavoid kuwa caught, nikampigia simu wife kumlalamikia kuwa kwanini mtu anaweka picha zako dp. wife akaniambia mimi ndio nina makosa zaidi na kama ningekua namuheshimu nisingemtumia picha zake zingine. Nikawa mpole i deleted those pic i sent to the guy...
some few minutes dp ya jamaa ikabadilishwa na kuwekwa pic ya dem mwingine. Namba nikainote kuicheck mpesa ina jina la kike. Nikachukua jukumu la kutrace msgs za jamaa using my position, sikuona kitu cha maana chochote zaidi ya salam. Na kuna mgs za kushukuru wife ametumiwa pesa na jamaa. Nothing shocking i noticed. Baada ya kama mwezj ile namba haikuwa hewani tena..

.....shida kubwa ikaja hapa miezi kama miwili imepita.....

as u all know public offices zinahamia dom, na mimi niko huku almost 4 months now. Nilichokuja gundua wife ananicheat. Na ananicheat kwa mtu mmoja tu, naye ni yule yule jamaa yake aliyemuacha na mimi kumuoa.

kama wiki 3 zilizopita, jamaa yangu alinitaarifu kuwa shem nimemuona lodge fulani magomeni kwa nje its like anampigia simu mtu, bahati mbaya hakujua kinachoendela sababu alikua kwenye shughuli za kiofisi. Kumpigia simu wife kumuuliza alipo, akajibu yuko ofisini. Nikamuuliza informer wangu pale ofisini kwake, akanijibu yeye hayupo ingawa gari yake ipo. i took it easy. Siku 4 baadae nikarudi dar, sikunotice shida yoyote kwa wife. nikaka kama wiki 1 pale dar nikifanya upelelezi wangu pale lodge aliyofikia. Nikipata msaada wa binti mmoja nikaonyeshwa Cctv footage ya ile hotel. Niliumia sana niliyoyaona. wife amefika pale mara tatu. Ya kwanza ndio ile aliyoonwa na jamaa yangu, second one ilikua saa 11 asubuhi na kutoka saa 3. Nikajiuliza ina maana siku hiyo hakwenda kazini. nikafuatilia na kugundua siku hiyo alitoka nyumbani saa 11 na kisha kureport kazini saa 3. What hurted me the most ni mara ya tatu... Hii ilitokea a day before, nami nikiwepo. Siku hii nakumbuka nilimuaga wife naenda town kurekebisha gari by saa 10 jioni nitakua nimerudi, mida hiyo ni saa 6. Nikiwa garage wife alinipigia sim kuwa atatoka for almost 2 hours ana issue kazini, nikamuambia poa. footage ilinionyesha kuwa aliingia pale saa 7 na ilimuonyesha akitoka saa 9 na robo. alitoka akiwa anasindikizwa na jamaa kavaa vest na boxer tu kutoka floor ya 3 hadi ground floor na jamaa akarudi. Siku hii kilichonishangaza wife alitumia uber. Bila shaka nikathibitisha wife ananicheat, na ananicheat kwa mtu ambaye yule yule niliyemdhania miaka mingi..

But nature i dont take quick judgement. Nilijipa muda wa kutafakari na kujua how deep wako na huyo jamaa this time around.

Nikafanikisha kupata namba ya jamaa. kwanza imesajiliwa kwa jina la kike.

nikagundua wana chat zaidi whatsapp hii sikuweza kung'amua kipi ni kipi. Ikabidi nicheck text messages. niliyoyakuta, hurted me the most.

1. wife na jamaa walikua wakikumbushiana ni jinsi gani walivyokua wana enjoy sex. Kila mmoja akimsifia mwenzake kuwa yuko vizuri. Lakini wife ndiye aliyekua akimsifia zaidi jamaa kuwa ni mwanume pekee anayemjua vyema na kipi cha kufanya kuwa the guy knows how to satisfy a woman. This pained me much

2. walikuwa wanazungumzia sexual fantasies zao. kila mmoja akimwambia kipi wanatamani wafanyiane. hapa paliniumiza sana, kwani wife alimuambia jamaa wakikutana atampa vyote anavyotamani na ambavyo hawakuvifanya. wife pia amemuambia jamaa they have to arrange for threesome na jamaa amekua tasked atafute dem ambaye anamuona anafaa and they guy promised to work on it.

3. wife na jamaa wanasaidiana mambo mengi hasa financially, mfano jamaa alimuongezea wife 1 M ya kununua kiwanja huko kwao, pia jamaa alimnunulia sim wife, ambayo nilijua kwa kazi yake wife simu kununua sio issue kubwa. na vitu vidogo vidogo vingi jamaa anafinance wife. Pia maza wake na wife jamaa ana msupport sana as wanaishi the same town. wife anakiri kwa jamaa kuwa yeye ndiye mwanaume pekee ambaye yuko free sana kumuambia chochote na akamsikiliza.

4. hakuna point hata moja niliyonote kuwa walishawahi kunizunguzmia, hilj linanipa shida sana. je wife hajamwambia jamaa kuwa hajaolewa? au jamaa

Guys, nimenote mengine sana, ingawa naamini kuwa mengi zaidi yapo kwenye whatsapp. nikiwa na wife, i never doubted wala openly noticing kuwa ananicheat, sim yake yuko free nayo muda mwingi na usiku hata nikiwa naye haipigiwi.. mimi ni as a man i know how hard it is to cheat na kuficha, hivyo i trusted wife 100%.


I deeply seek a wise advice from you guys on basisi kuwa siko tayari kumuacha wife, najua kiasi gani ninavyompenda, i believe she loves me, na she respects me sana, anaihandle family yangu vizuri na mtoto also family businesses.

Ninachoomba kujua ni kuwa nitafanya vipi ili aachane na jamaa, huu ndio mtihani mkubwa kwani it seems wife ni sex addicts kwa jamaa, mwezi huu ana likizo ya kwenda kwao, na jajamaa yuko the same town wife ndiyo kwao, je nimzuie asiende?... niko njia panda.. sijamuambia wife chochote na hajanotice chochote kuwa najua nini kinaendelea.. thanks guys kwa time yenu, nitashukuru kupata ushauri wenu.. Na ninaahidi kuufanyia kazi.

NOTE:KULINDA HESHIMA YANGU, KAZI YANGU I HAD TO COME WITH THIS ID
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Kaka utapata tabu sana huyo jamaa labda yeye ndiyo akatae kuendelea kusex nae kwani wanawake ni watu wa ajabu sana. Mimi kuna dada nilikuwa nae nae akapata jamaa akamuoa na mimi nikaridhia kwani na mimi nina mke. Cha ajabu huyu dada alinitafuta mwenyewe na kuniomba tuendelee kuwa tuna sex kwani sasa yeye ana mume na mimi nina mke. Mimi nikamwambia sioni haja ya kuendelea kwani umepata mtu anaekupenda na kakuoa sioni kama tutamfanyia sawa. Lakini wapi yeye bado anahitaji sana tuendelee imagine
 
Kuna faida kubwa sana ukiachana naye, kwanza wewe utakuwa mchepuko wake kama atakuja kuolewa tena na wewe ukiridhia kwa sababu wew tayari ni mzazi mwenzake na ndipo hapa utakapokuja kukumbukwa, nafikiri ni asilimia kubwa wanawake wanawakumbuka wanaume waliozaa nao watoto wa kwanza.

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Hornet said:
Kiukweli ni wanawake wachache sana wanaofumania na kusamehe totally!

Wengi hulipiza!
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Akuna chakisasi wala nini, niukahaba unawasumbua. Wejiulize kwanini mwanaumeume ukimfumania mwanamke wako unamuacha, lakini wao wakikufumania awakuachi wanachokifanya nikukuonesha umalaya hadha nahopo ndipo unaposema analipiza kisasi. Ila kiukweli ankua anafanya kitambo.
 
konda msafi said:
Mkuu kwanza pole. Ushauri wangu ni mfupi sana lakini umejaa uhalisia 100%. Wife wako anampenda huyo jamaa na hilo huwezi kulibadilisha hata kama utampa ulimwengu huu tunaoishi na vyote vilivyomo. Moyo wa mtu ukipenda hakuna utakachoweza kukifanya ukaubadilisha huo upendo. So cha kufanya ongea tu na wife ili ajue kuwa unajua kinachoendelea. Akishajua kuwa unaujua mchezo mzima ataogopa. Nasema ataogopa tu, kwa hiyo anaweza kumuacha huyo jamaa on the grounds za kuogopa tu na si kwamba upendo kwa huyo jamaa utakwisha. Conclusion, hiyo njia ya kumuogopesha ikishindikana basi hakuna cha zaidi utakachokifanya ili kuwatenganisha "wawili wapendanao". Ukimpenda mtu na yeye akawa anakupenda kuachana haiwezekani. Kifo tu ndio kitakachowaachanisha.
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Daah kuua tena huko mbali sana .roho ya MTU ni hatia kubwa
 
100 Likes said:
Kiukweli ndoa yenu ni changa na imekutana na kesi kubwa sana.

Utakuja kugundua baadae sana kwamba it is not reconcilable, utakuwa ushapoteza focus sana.

1. Wife anampenda jamaa
2. Mama mzazi wa wife anamkubali jamaa
3. Jamaa atakuwa ni rafiki mzuri sana kwa wife wako

So, hiyo ndoa itakutesa sana, anza kujiandaa kukaa pembeni, 31 ni mapema sana kuharibu maisha yako kwa stress za ndoa.
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Naunga mkono
 
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