Why do we repeat generational cycles, from time to time!

Mallerina

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Why do i find generation patterns scary!

Tell me why we repeat same cycles from every now and then its like same script plqyed by different people

Mfano.... if one is raised in an emotionally unvailable family attrcts emotionally unavailable partner and the cycle continues

Kwa mwanaume kama baba yake alikuwa hatunzi familia uwezekano wa yeye kutotunza yake ipo juuu au kuwa mlevi au malaya,

Sawa ancestors are living in us tumekubali they continue to live through us and cycle continue when we fail to break them from time to time

We have to break the cycles because it heals your entire lineage, past, present and future but how can we break them?

Its hard and takes time

Ive come to realize we dont choose whats good for us bt what we are familiar with probly because of repeated cycles

Anyway tuishi tu
Born to suffer
 
Ubongo wa binadamu hujifunza kwa haraka sana vitu vilivyo karibu yake, na kutoa maamuzi kwa uzoefu wa nyuma.

Hivyo hatua ya kwanza ya kukabiliana na hali hiyo ni kutambua kuwa ipo na kuanza kuifunza akili michakato mipya ya kupambana na changamoto
 
Hoja yako ina ukweli fulani. Malezi na mazingira ya utoto yanaweza kufanya tabia au mifumo ya maisha ijirudie katika vizazi. Mtu anayekulia katika mazingira fulani mara nyingi huyaona kuwa ya kawaida hata akiwa mtu mzima, ndiyo maana wakati mwingine watu hujikuta wanachagua maisha au mahusiano yanayofanana na yale waliyoyaona kwa wazazi wao.
Hata hivyo, naamini pia binadamu ana uwezo wa kujitambua na kufanya maamuzi tofauti. Kupitia elimu, uzoefu na kujitafakari, mtu anaweza kuvunja hiyo mizunguko na kuanzisha mwelekeo mpya kwa ajili yake na vizazi vijavyo.
 
Break generational curse! Hii shida iko karibu kila ukoo, vunja maagano (maroho) kama yapo! Ukiyakataa wewe utaokoa kizazi chako! Huo mzizi unahitaji mtu kujitambua kama ulivyotambua wewe dear, wokovu ni gharama! Hebu ba mchungaji Iceberg9 njoo msaidie mdogoetu huku mi nasinzia sijui😵‍💫
 

Our brains are wired to prefer what is familiar over what is healthy. Ulivyokuzwa utotoni ndiyo inashape attachment styles, how we love, regulate emotions, behave, work, and define what is acceptable or not. Vitu vichache sana hasa vya kitabia na kihisia tunajifunza ukubwani.

Kama umekulia mazingira ambayo siyo mazuri, step ya kwanza ni awareness; mfano “mzazi wangu ambaye hakunilea, hakua mtu mzuri na mimi inabidi nijitahidi kutokuwa kama yeye" watu wengi huwa hawafiki hapo, watalaumu kidogo, halafu wanaona sawa tu, mbona wameishi.

Mtu kama huyu na yeye anaenda kuzalisha watoto na mama tofauti na watoto wanakaa kwa mama zao labda anawaona mara moja kwa mwaka au pale anapoweza. Akijitahidi kuwa tofauti na baba yake, basi atatuma pesa za matumizi kwa watoto na atajiaminisha hapo yeye amelea kikamilifu na inatosha kabisa. Why? possibly kwa sababu hajawahi kuona mfano wa malezi bora ya present father inabidi aweje au anafikiri kama mama yake aliweza kumlea, basi na hata hawa wanawake wengine watalea tu hao watoto wake.

Breaking patterns requires conscious effort to unlearn harmful behaviors and consistently practice healthier ones, sometimes that means kuwacut off watu au family members wanaokutrigger au kukufanya urelapse kwenye old patterns (ndugu, marafiki, wapenzi etc.).

Many of us avoid that difficult work (often subconciously) and instead cope by telling ourselves that “if those before us survived these patterns, we will too”.
 
👏👏👏
 
ni kweli unachosema ma mchungaji ipo hivi.
TUNAPASWA KUTAZAMA KINACHO ITESA ASILI YA KUZALIWA KUNQ JAMBO HUJURUDIA KWA KILA MTU NDANI YA FAMILIA MFANO UMASIKINI,ULEVI,KUACHIKA KWENYE NDOA,KUFUKUZWA KAZI,MAGONJWA MFANO UKIMWI,PRESHA,SUKARI KILA MTU ANAIRITHI KILICHOUMUA BABU,BIBI,BABA AU MAMA YAKE, AU PIA KUTOELEWA UKIONA VITU KAMA HIVI KILA MWANAFAMILIA WENU ANAPITIA BASI UJUE HIYO NI GENERATION CURSE (LAANA),JAMBO NI MOJA NI KUIVUNJA HIYO MADHABAU YA LAANA NDANI YA UKOO ILI ISENDE KWA KILA MTU NA KWA WATOTO WAKO, KILICHOFUNGWA KWENU YAKUPASWA KUIVUNJA HIYO LAANA INAYOTAFUNA UKOO NA KUTAABISHA WANAFAMILIA


Ezekieli 16:2-3
[2]Mwanadamu, uujulishe Yerusalemu machukizo yake,
[3]useme, Bwana MUNGU auambia Yerusalemu hivi; Asili yako na kuzaliwa kwako kwatoka katika nchi ya Mkanaani; Mwamori alikuwa baba yako, na mama yako alikuwa Mhiti.
Matatizo mengi yanayotesa maisha ya watu chimbuko lake ni minyororo ya LAANA za asili,ulipozaliwa upande wa baba au mama,unakuta kama baba alikua mlevi basi mtoto nae atakua mlevi,kama baba alioa na akamuacha mama yako basi ujue kijana wao nae atakua na tabia hiyo hiyo, kama changamoto za ndoa zipo utakuta kila mwanafamilia ndoa yaje kuba changamoto ,kama kwenye hiyo familia kupata kazi kubwa zenye kipato kikubwa basi hiyo chain itaenda kizazi mpaka kizazi itaka mpaka mtu abomoe hiyo madhabau za kale
 
Amen! amen! Mallerina soma hapa mama
 
mkuu ulipotea upo,unaendeleaje?

ipo hivi mtu wangu, mfano

Kipindi ambacho Taifa la Israel walipokuwa utumwani mwa wamidian, watu walikuwa wanaonewa sana na kunyang’anywa mali zao hata mazao yao yalikuwa yakiharibiwa.

lakini ili Mungu awatoe utumwani alimtafuta kijana Gedion akasimame kupigana vita hivyo,lakini Gideon yeye hukuamini anaweza kuwa na ujasiri wa kuweza kuwaokoa wanaisrael, anakiri udhaifu wake anasema yeye familia yake ni masikini atawezaje? unaona hiyo ilikua ni laana na ameishi akiamini hivyo,sasa Mungu anamuagiza Gideon vunja hiyo madhabau ya baali ya baba yake na ashera na amjengee ingine ndipo gedion akafanikiwa,vifungo vilishafungwa tangubtu siku hile amezaliwa kwenye hile familia ya umasikini ila ili afanikiwe anatakiwa kuvunja hiyo madhabau

soma kitabu Waamuzi 6:14-15
[14]BWANA akamtazama, akasema, Enenda kwa uwezo wako huu, ukawaokoe Israeli na mkono wa Midiani. Je! Si mimi ninayekutuma? [15]Akamwambia, Ee Bwana, nitawaokoa Israeli kwa jinsi gani? Tazama, jamaa zangu ndio walio maskini sana katika Manase,
 
Baba usiwe unabold mwanzo mwisho, nashindwa kusoma kwa utulivu 🥹
 
MUNGU anawambia wana wa ISRAEL chimbuko la matatizo yao ni asili yao ya kuzaliwa,yani WAAMORI NA WAHITI WALIKUWA KABILA LENYE WATU WAKOROFI SANA. HII NDIYO MAANA HATA LEO TUNAONA VITA HAVIISHI KATI YA WANA WA ISRAEL NA MAJIRANI ZAO.


ni kwanini sasa asili yako ya kuzaliwa inaweza kufuatilia hatima ya maisha yako ya kiroho na kimwili??? jibu ni kwamba, ni Kwasababu haki ya mtoto yeyote katika familia anayozaliwa huwa ni agano la urithi,


ukisoma Warumi 8:17 na kama tu watoto, basi, tu warithi;
Swali la kujiuliza,JE wewe umerithi nini katika ukoo au familia uliyozaliwa??
 
Ugumu wa hyo ngoma,unabadilisha hata DNA ili hyo laana isambae kizazi kimoja mpaka kingine...

Uzuri wake ukisha ivunja kwa usahihi,hata zile DNA huchange pia..hivyo kizazi kinacho fuata hakitakuwa na zile chembe chembe za laana,maana zimeshafutwa kuanzia kwenye DNA. Cc Seran
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There are ways of speaking, sitting, looking, acting, reacting, that are inherited from childhood.Some are lucky to be born in families that left them with behaviors that create a virtuous circlearound them. They’ve got a great behavioral inheritance.

Some are totally unlucky; they inherited behaviors that create a negative loop in a vicious circlea round their life. They are constantly met with failure regardless of their efforts and goodwill. They are barely aware of why they keep failing or struggling. They’ve got a bad behavioral inheritance.

The first group of people succeeds almost effortlessly while the second is hindered regardless of their efforts.

Imagine, boys who have never had a father figure in their life but have to assume a father figure role when they have children. They have no model in mind nor experienced the exercise of a father figure. They’ve got no behavioral inheritance here. They desperately look up to books on parenting and hearsay, and often struggle very much as
fathers.

Imagine girls who grew up with their single mom, whose values were fierceness, independence,
impertinence, forcefulness, defiance... all values which are adaptive behaviors to cope with raising kids alone.

Those girls might grow up taking those values as normal behaviors for a woman even when they wish to build a normal couple. Unfortunately they would fail, because those behaviors would constantly antagonize their partners.

Our behavioral inheritance could be a great asset or a burdensome liability. Behavioral inheritance most important areas are:
  • Body language
  • How to speak according to circumstances and get your way
  • Purposefulness in life
  • How and when to subordinate
  • How and when to lead
  • How to fight in public and in private
  • Sacrifice to bear with
  • Money and career

It’s important to take an account of your behavioral inheritance and consciously chart our own special life. Otherwise you are on autopilot left to repeat the life of your parents.

Behavioral Loops are almost destiny. They are difficult to break if they are negative, and also difficult to lose if they are positive. We mostly inherit our place in the world, leave a great behavioral inheritance to your progeny. It starts with you.
 
Kwakweli hili ni tatizo kabisaa, tumsaidie mwenzetu huenda akaweza kuondoa hiki kitu kwenye maisha yake!
-Nmesoma kundalin nimeokota kidogo🥹
 
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