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Why a man should understand abortion

Discussion in 'Mahusiano, mapenzi, urafiki' started by Prime Dynamics, Apr 5, 2011.

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    Prime Dynamics JF-Expert Member

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    Yesterday I was ago between, trying to resolve a conflict between my friend and his girlfriend. The subject was abortion. The guy started showing his dubious acts to his girlfriend when she told her that she's pregnant. Due to such situation she took a very strong decision "abortion". After a few days she called his boyfriend and told him that she decided to abort since she was not ready for parenting. The guy fumed, and he asked me to escort him up to where she puts up. For sure I had never seen such a strong lady like her. (kama wanawake wote wange kua hivi basi 95% ya wanaume katika mapenzi adabu wange shika). When I told her, shemeji, you did a very bad decision. She narrowly raised dust on me, I had to position myself ready for hundred meters race! She replied kwa hasira; "you men, you are so ignorant, you are speaking out against something you have no first hand knowledge or experience with. How can anyone of you who've never had an abortion even know of the emotional trauma a woman goes through before and after she makes the decision to kill the thing growing inside of her? By the way, aren't you men, as a matter of fact, the reason we women have abortions in the first place?" duh! Nilikosa la kujibu. Tulienda wababe wote tukanywea. Nika mwambia jamaa yangu man, we can't amend anything here and we can't bring back the life of that fetus, the only thing is to try make sure that this doesn't happen again.
    I just wanted to share with you guys that when a lady decides to take an abortion it's not an easy venture. Anyone or anything that gets in the way of an already dicey and slippery situation is not necessarily helping. By asking a woman to wait, you are just making her desperate for a solution. Men we should never make women desperate in the first place. It's just not fair.
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    Dena Amsi R I P

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    Ngoja nitafute kamusi mie kidhungu chanipa taabu kha sijui nitakijua lini??? Natamani kweli kujua kidhungu
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    Tuko JF Bronze Member

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    Kwa mimi leo na milele, abortion ni hapanaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa. Na kitu kizuri na cha kujivunia ni kuwa niliwahi kuokoa mtoto mmoja masaa machache kabla mama yake hajafika kwa 'dokta' kumuua kwa abortion. The truth ni kuwa you can convince them to change their decisions
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    Msambaa Member

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    Most women opt for abortion either because they see lack of seriousness/commitment in their men or she has got plans that a baby who comes along will hinder. If the reason is the latter, it will take guts to convince them otherwise. But it happens sometimes mwanamke ameshika ujauzito afu boifrendi hana hata mpango wa kuoa, kwahiyo huyo mwanamke anaona hapo itakuwa ni kujifungua afu ndoa yenyewe inaweza isiwepo anaona afanye abortion.

    To women: Don't get pregnant if you are not sure of the aftermath. Afu hamna cha bahati mbaya.
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    seniorita JF-Expert Member

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    Life is precious and life has to be protected by all means yes...so if you are not ready to raise a child, don't endeavor to have unsafe sex....if sex out of marriage is not a moral question any way. The issue of abortion is a very sensitive issue and I think to say no or yes is the right way. It depends on which angle the issue is addressed, by whom etc....The best choice you can make is not to procreate when you can handle or not ready to raise a child. Once created, that fetus is already a being with rights, apart from the one who is carrying it; whether it is one week old or three months, it is already a human being. So if you don't want a human being to be born by you, then don't pro-create it....
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    Mahai JF-Expert Member

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    Yes, if you don't want a baby then don't get pregnant, period! There are so many ways to prevent it for Pete sakes!!!
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    Lizzy JF-Expert Member

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    To me....unless the reason for abortion is pysical problems as in a risk of loosing either the mother or the child abortion is wrong.There is no justifying it.
    Huyo dada alivyokua anajifanya kuwaka kwamba hamjui mnachokiongelea and all that BS about emotional trauma mngemuuliza je
    kua na huyo mtoto kungeongeza au kungepunguza hiyo trauma???
    Kufanya maamuzi ya kutoa mimba ni mazito kuliko ya kukubali matokeo na kua na mtoto???
    And how lame could she really be to accuse men of the reason for her sinful act ehhh??
    Kwani huyo mwanaume alimbaka mpaka aseme ndio chanzo??

    Kwenye mahusiano she as a woman was careless and that's how she ended up pregnant.As if that was not enough she refuses to take responsibility for her actions and punish the little innocent one huku akikataa kabisa kukubali kwamba yeye ndo chanzo na kumsingizia mwanaume.Na kama huyo kaka ndo angekua amemsukuma kwenda kutoa ningeelewa anapotoa hayo maneno....ila kama mwenzake hajafurahia that means hawapo kwenye ukurasa mmoja.It's all on her.

    Nwy kwa wadada....kama hutaki mimba either usifanye ngono au ukifanya kua muangalifu.Ikitokea ukapata ujauzito ukienda kutoa usijifanye kulia lia uonewe huruma as if wewe ndo victim!Own up to what you are doing na usisahau kujiuliza na wewe ungetolewa leo hii ungekuwepo hapo ulipo??
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    Blaki Womani JF-Expert Member

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    Ukikubalima kuingia kwenye mahusiano ya mapenzi kubali na matokeo
    Abortion haikubaliki ana tofauti gani na wauwaji wengine
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    Ennie JF-Expert Member

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    Abortion ni uuaji labda iwe imeshauriwa na daktari kama inahatarisha maisha ya wote wawili ikiachwa ikue
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    Prime Dynamics JF-Expert Member

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    We all know that abortion is horribly painful, but sometimes a woman never heals from the emotional scars. There are those who do not want to become mothers and so they will do it freely. But that does obscure the fact that such ladies are all just victims of their nature since they have suffered the consequences of sex with a man with whom they cannot start a family.
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    pmwasyoke JF-Expert Member

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    Abortion ni kuua mtoto. Mazingira pekee yaliyo halali kufikiria abortion ni iwapo afya ya mama iko hatarini.

    Tafadhali tuwalinde watoto tusiwaue.