The real strength men need (it's NOT what you think)

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Introduction: From a young age, we're taught that "real men" are stoic and silent. But this myth of strength has only served to stifle our emotions and isolate us from each other. It's time we dismantle this harmful ideal and embrace a new definition of courage - one rooted in empathy, honesty and community.

The Burden of Silence
For too long, we've shouldered our struggles alone. John, successful yet silently suffering, is one of many carrying the unspoken weight of depression, addiction or worse. By bottling up our feelings, we fuel rising rates of mental health issues and early deaths among men. This isn't individual weakness - it's a systemic problem that will only change when we start to listen.

Breaking the Mold
Thankfully, a wave of change is building as more men defiantly reject the old script. By sharing stories of struggle and triumph over silence, pioneering organizations are providing spaces where we can support each other through vulnerability instead of isolation. Imagine a world where asking for help is seen as the ultimate display of strength.

Starting the Journey
If keeping feelings locked away is your self-preservation tactic, change requires courage. But small steps, like opening up to a trusted friend, can help tame emotions instead of letting them control us. With time and community, we can redefine strength as the radical act of listening within, then lifting each other up through honesty and compassion.

Reframing Courage
This work dismantles the myth that your worth depends on being a rock - you are enough just as you are. Choosing vulnerability, asking for help, is how we build healthy relationships and communities of care. Here, real courage lies.

Taking Action
If you see yourself in this struggle, ask what emotions you're pushing down and how they manifest physically. Then seek out local groups, helplines or therapists specializing in men's well-being. Every step of openness strengthens us - so celebrate your quiet courage, for it will inspire others to do the same.

Conclusion
Change begins within yet is strengthened between us. By embracing vulnerability instead of silence, we forge stronger, healthier connections - and in turn stronger, more just societies. Let's build a world where the courage to open up is celebrated, not stigmatized. Our shared humanity calls us to listen and lift each other up.
 
To Be A Man (feat. Darius Rucker) - Dax

I can't hide myself
I don't expect you to understand
I just hope I can explain, what it's like to be a man
It's a lonely road
And they don't care 'bout what you know
It's not 'bout how you feel, but what you provide inside that home

Real man is what you make it
You can't always live up to expectation
You try to please everybody while you struggle, so you fake it
And end out of balance, comprising situations
As a good man huh, do what you should man
I'll give everything he has, and do everything he could, men
You migt find yourself feeling all alone
Inside the house you built that you don't recognise as home

And thats what my daddy told me, and I'll tell my son the same
Now that I'm older, I relate and I actually feel his pain
He never cried, he might have lied but he did not complain
And he son, said oneday you'll have to do the same
I get emotional when I stop and thinking, I look around
Be on the county line of my small town
I think about all the men out there who feel like I do now
Who are screaming on the inside, but won't never make us proud

I can't hide myself
I don't expect you to understand
I just hope I can explain, what it's like to be a man (what is like to be a man)
It's a lonely road (its a lonely road)
And they don't care 'bout what you know (care 'bout what you know)
It's not 'bout how you feel, but what you provide inside that home

Don't give up, keep fighting, as a man our son is our horizon
And our father's action play a role and we end up like 'em
So they can't let us see them hurt, 'cause we'll embody what they do
And start a generational curse
No wonder most men are so depressed
All the things that they can't express
They go to war, get thrown on the shelf
Then go back to war with a mental health

Then grab that bottle and ask for help
Try to pull themselves out of hell, then fall back down and
Then realize that they gonna have to do it themselves
It's the circle of life, as a man you provide
They don't know what you worth
Till the day that you die and that's when they start crying (oh)
Then move onto a man to confine them

That's why we feel we can't hide ourselves (we can't hide ourselves)
We don't expect you to understand (oh understand)
We just hope we can explain (we can explain)
What it's like to be a man (oh, what it's like to be a man)
It's a lonely road (It's a lonely road)
And you don't care 'bout what we know (care 'bout what we know)
It's not 'bout how we feel (how we fell, how we feel)
But what's we provide inside that home (inside that home)

That home (that home)
It's not 'bout how we feel (not about how we feel)
But what's we provide inside that home (inside that home)

Songwriters: Alex Nour, Daniel Nwosu
Credit: Musixmatch
 

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