elishaezekiel
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- Oct 16, 2016
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She Doesn’t Call You Back!!!
Things sure have changed, man.
Back in the day, there weren’t any “dating games”.
Dating was simple and straightforward.
A man saw a woman he found attractive, approached her, they dated, and got married.
There was no “playing hard to get”, no waiting before responding to a text, and no mind games.
People today over analyze EVERYTHING when dating.
They make things so complicated.
Where did things go wrong?
Dating use to be fun and easy!
One of the biggest concerns men have is what to do if they call a woman and she doesn’t answer or call him back.
If you have this worry, I have a simple solution for you.
First, understand one thing…
When a woman is into you, she’s into you.
Period.
If she really wants to date you, she will.
Sure, she might play a "little hard to get" but she just wants you to desire her.
And you should make a little effort if you’re truly interested.
But…
There’s a HUGE difference between making effort and not respecting yourself.
So, let’s use the example of her not calling you back.
You met, hanged out, everything went great, gave her a follow up call, but she didn’t answer or call you back.
What do you do now?
You wait.
She could have a million reasons for not answering or calling back.
She’s shopping, out with friends, lost her phone, sleeping, and oh yeah…maybe just not interested in you.
Does it matter?
No.
Should you be mad, sad, or disappointed?
You could, but it’s pointless.
Here’s the correct way to handle this.
First of all, you only called her ONCE.
Yes, in today’s day and age, calling more than once is considered desperate(from Latin desperatus= lacking Hope)
Obviously, I’m exaggerating here, but it’s to prove a point.
Now…
Since you called and she didn’t reply, allow her two days to get back to you.
If she hasn’t returned your call after two days, call her one FINAL time.
What does this do?
By waiting 2 days, you communicate all the right things.
1) You show persistence in case she wanted you to prove you’re really into her.
2) You handle the situation like a man.
You went out with her, liked her, called her back and got no answer.
So what did you do?
You called her again because you know she either didn’t receive your call or she wanted you to make a little extra effort.
You didn’t start calling or texting her desperate things like:
“Hey I called you, everything OK?
“Are you mad?”
“Did I do something wrong?”
Instead, you gave her a chance to get back to you.
If she didn’t get back to you, you tried one final time.
Before I continue, it’s important not to take the word “final”, lightly.
I really mean it.
There’s no excuse for a woman not to return your call after you’ve called her twice.
She’s either not interested or is acting like a child.
And unless that’s what you’re looking for, you should avoid her at ALL cost.
What To Do When She Calls Back
When she calls back, don’t ask why she didn’t answer your call.
She’ll tell you if she wants to.
Keep the conversation short and make plans to see her again.
After talking for a few minutes, say something like:
“Hanging out the other night was fun, let’s do it again Friday”
I always recommend keeping the conversations short on the phone when first getting to know a woman.
Why?
Because it allows for plenty of conversation when you guys are out together.
Leave the long and intimate phone conversations for when you guys are a couple.
For now…
Let’s keep things short, fun, and drama free.
The way dating should be.
If she returns your call a week later and has a GOOD reason, make plans to see her.
Returning your call a week later without good reasons is unacceptable.
Remember, you want to be a gentleman and show interest.
…But you do not want to allow ANY type of disrespect!
Just like you respect her and her time, she should do the same.
Things sure have changed, man.
Back in the day, there weren’t any “dating games”.
Dating was simple and straightforward.
A man saw a woman he found attractive, approached her, they dated, and got married.
There was no “playing hard to get”, no waiting before responding to a text, and no mind games.
People today over analyze EVERYTHING when dating.
They make things so complicated.
Where did things go wrong?
Dating use to be fun and easy!
One of the biggest concerns men have is what to do if they call a woman and she doesn’t answer or call him back.
If you have this worry, I have a simple solution for you.
First, understand one thing…
When a woman is into you, she’s into you.
Period.
If she really wants to date you, she will.
Sure, she might play a "little hard to get" but she just wants you to desire her.
And you should make a little effort if you’re truly interested.
But…
There’s a HUGE difference between making effort and not respecting yourself.
So, let’s use the example of her not calling you back.
You met, hanged out, everything went great, gave her a follow up call, but she didn’t answer or call you back.
What do you do now?
You wait.
She could have a million reasons for not answering or calling back.
She’s shopping, out with friends, lost her phone, sleeping, and oh yeah…maybe just not interested in you.
Does it matter?
No.
Should you be mad, sad, or disappointed?
You could, but it’s pointless.
Here’s the correct way to handle this.
First of all, you only called her ONCE.
Yes, in today’s day and age, calling more than once is considered desperate(from Latin desperatus= lacking Hope)
Obviously, I’m exaggerating here, but it’s to prove a point.
Now…
Since you called and she didn’t reply, allow her two days to get back to you.
If she hasn’t returned your call after two days, call her one FINAL time.
What does this do?
By waiting 2 days, you communicate all the right things.
1) You show persistence in case she wanted you to prove you’re really into her.
2) You handle the situation like a man.
You went out with her, liked her, called her back and got no answer.
So what did you do?
You called her again because you know she either didn’t receive your call or she wanted you to make a little extra effort.
You didn’t start calling or texting her desperate things like:
“Hey I called you, everything OK?
“Are you mad?”
“Did I do something wrong?”
Instead, you gave her a chance to get back to you.
If she didn’t get back to you, you tried one final time.
Before I continue, it’s important not to take the word “final”, lightly.
I really mean it.
There’s no excuse for a woman not to return your call after you’ve called her twice.
She’s either not interested or is acting like a child.
And unless that’s what you’re looking for, you should avoid her at ALL cost.
What To Do When She Calls Back
When she calls back, don’t ask why she didn’t answer your call.
She’ll tell you if she wants to.
Keep the conversation short and make plans to see her again.
After talking for a few minutes, say something like:
“Hanging out the other night was fun, let’s do it again Friday”
I always recommend keeping the conversations short on the phone when first getting to know a woman.
Why?
Because it allows for plenty of conversation when you guys are out together.
Leave the long and intimate phone conversations for when you guys are a couple.
For now…
Let’s keep things short, fun, and drama free.
The way dating should be.
If she returns your call a week later and has a GOOD reason, make plans to see her.
Returning your call a week later without good reasons is unacceptable.
Remember, you want to be a gentleman and show interest.
…But you do not want to allow ANY type of disrespect!
Just like you respect her and her time, she should do the same.
