Nampenda lakini hanijali

mapenzi haya,inasikitisha kwa kweli.deep down unajua kabisa kama huyo mtu hana mapenzi na wewe.lakini bado tu umo na kuamini,ipo siku atabadilika.shosti,huyo sio mume wako,jipange maisha kivyako,pengine miaka yote hiyo na distance yenu,atakuwa ameshapata mtu.jaribu kukaa kimya na uanze maisha kivyako.utakuja kupata mtu ambae atakupenda.achana na huyo looser

mimi49 said:

Niko kwenye mahusiano ya Takriban miaka minne na mwanaume ambae nimezaa nae mtoto mmoja.Tulikutana ktk chat tukapendana..baada ya kuonana Nikabeba ujauzito wake which is irresponsible i know coz tunaishi sehemu Tofauti.
Hanisaidii kwa huduma yoyote coz hana kazi thats fine Ila hata nikiwa nae hanisaidii hata ktk malezi ya mtoto(tupo nje ya nchi),anasema anataka kunioa na ananipenda lkn tatizo hanijali wala hajali feelings zangu akinikera,haoneshi mapenzi na mimi na Sifeel kama ananipenda coz hata nikiumwa hanijulii hali nampigia Simu mimi ananikemea Eti namuamsha usingizini na kuumwa naumwa mimi!!yaani kuna vituko vingi sana amenitendea huyu mwanaume siwezi kuvieleza vyote!!
sasa nimeamua kuachana nae Ila bado nampenda sana na namuwaza saa zote!!mnadhani nimechukua uamuzi mzuri kuachana nae au nifuate moyo wangu niendelee kuwa nae na niendelee kuumia?

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Just try to have some few things on practise,kutokujua kama hawajali ni kosa kubwa ambalo wanaume wengi hulifanya bila kujua coz attending a females' needs is the great pillar in affair lakini pia jua kwamba men periodically bolt for cover under different circumstances at this time they become unapproachable,demanding to be left alone on their own and to be allowed not to express their feeling or whats happening.So just get him a space for a litle while an he'l spring back,dont give too much space coz it may indicate letting go

mimi49 said:

Nimeshaongea nae sana lakini habadiliki nimeshaongea na watu wake wakaribu Pia wakaongea nae lkn bado hali ni ileile.Najua miaka minne ni mingi na tunafahamiana vizuri usemavyo ni kweli Ila nafeel we r nt meant to be together ndio maana hatuendani na ndio maana hajali!na ana ile tabia ya kununa,nikimkera mimi atanuna nimbembelezee weeee lakini akinikera mimi Pia atanuna yeye na niombe msamaha mm wala hajali yaani kama nimekerekwa mimi!!

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Huyu anajua umemfia, anajua hupindui kwake ndio maana nafanya haya. Hatua uliyochukua ya kumwacha inafaa.

mimi49 said:

Niko kwenye mahusiano ya Takriban miaka minne na mwanaume ambae nimezaa nae mtoto mmoja.Tulikutana ktk chat tukapendana..baada ya kuonana Nikabeba ujauzito wake which is irresponsible i know coz tunaishi sehemu Tofauti.
Hanisaidii kwa huduma yoyote coz hana kazi thats fine Ila hata nikiwa nae hanisaidii hata ktk malezi ya mtoto(tupo nje ya nchi),anasema anataka kunioa na ananipenda lkn tatizo hanijali wala hajali feelings zangu akinikera,haoneshi mapenzi na mimi na Sifeel kama ananipenda coz hata nikiumwa hanijulii hali nampigia Simu mimi ananikemea Eti namuamsha usingizini na kuumwa naumwa mimi!!yaani kuna vituko vingi sana amenitendea huyu mwanaume siwezi kuvieleza vyote!!
sasa nimeamua kuachana nae Ila bado nampenda sana na namuwaza saa zote!!mnadhani nimechukua uamuzi mzuri kuachana nae au nifuate moyo wangu niendelee kuwa nae na niendelee kuumia?

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Hakuna kupendana penye mapenzi ya upande mmoja. Kwa bahati mbaya sasa mahusiano mazuri yanakuja kwenye kupendana. Kwa maana hiyo hapo hakuna mahusiano mazuri, kwani daima wewe uwe mshiriki peke yako kwenye uhusiano wenu? Kupenda upende peke yako, kulea ulee peke yako, kwenye tabu na maradhi peke yako. Utaendelea mpaka lini na kubeba mzigo wa watu wawili peke yako? Achana nae na utafute mbia atakaetowa hisa sawa kwenye mahusiano!

Sijui wanawake wote wako hivyo au ni huyu tu?

Ninaweza said:

Sijui wanawake wote wako hivyo au ni huyu tu?

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Unamaanisha nini?

mimi49 said:

Niko kwenye mahusiano ya Takriban miaka minne na mwanaume ambae nimezaa nae mtoto mmoja.Tulikutana ktk chat tukapendana..baada ya kuonana Nikabeba ujauzito wake which is irresponsible i know coz tunaishi sehemu Tofauti.
Hanisaidii kwa huduma yoyote coz hana kazi thats fine Ila hata nikiwa nae hanisaidii hata ktk malezi ya mtoto(tupo nje ya nchi),anasema anataka kunioa na ananipenda lkn tatizo hanijali wala hajali feelings zangu akinikera,haoneshi mapenzi na mimi na Sifeel kama ananipenda coz hata nikiumwa hanijulii hali nampigia Simu mimi ananikemea Eti namuamsha usingizini na kuumwa naumwa mimi!!yaani kuna vituko vingi sana amenitendea huyu mwanaume siwezi kuvieleza vyote!!
sasa nimeamua kuachana nae Ila bado nampenda sana na namuwaza saa zote!!mnadhani nimechukua uamuzi mzuri kuachana nae au nifuate moyo wangu niendelee kuwa nae na niendelee kuumia?

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Mpendwa pole sana kwa yote, mimi nakushauri kama ifutavyo; najua unakereka na tabia unazosema, upande wa pili labda nae angekuwepo angeweza kujitetea kutokana na kila unachosema. Siku zote siangalii upande mmoja, wanawake huwa tuna kero ambazo zinaweza kumfanya mwanaume akimbie majukumu yake au akae kimya kukupa wewe chance ya kurekebisha pale ulipokosea, kama huna Roho mtakatifu akakuongoza kujua makosa yako utaendelea kufanya yale yale yanamfanya asikujali.

Kuachana siyo suluhu, kwa sababu huko utakakokuwa unasubiri au kwenda siyo rahisi sana kama tunavyofikiri au kuchukulia mambo kijujuu. Una mtoto tayari, ebu mpe chance huyo mtoto kufurahia maisha na baba yake. Anza kuchunguza kasoro zako, rekebisha, ukimuomba Mungu ambadilishe mzazi mwenzako muishi salama.

Sikushauri kumwacha wakati roho yako inampenda. Huitendei haki nafsi yako.

All the best!

bdo said:

Bahati mbaya umejaribu kutufahamisha uhusiano wenu ukiwa katika hali mbaya, na hatufahamu mlipoanza relation ilikuwaje? (nzuri au mbaya), was the guy taking care since the first day ila akabadirika? au alikuwa na tabia hii tangu mnaanza uhusiano? ila ulichoonyesha tangu awali ni kuwa huyu jamaa hana kazi! hebu nisaidie kwa hayo kwanza.

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Tangu awali hakuwa na kazi..tulipoanza uhusiano alikuwa akijali kiasi ila akabadilika na muda ulivyokwenda..ndio kinachoniuma haswa ni kujua kwamba anajua kujali na nilikuwa nikifeel napendwa by then lakini si sasa tena na nahisi kadiri ninavyomwambia hajali ndio hajali zaidi yaani kama ananipuuzia na pia anajitafutia excuses nyingiii!!

Jiweke pembeni uepushe msongamano, yanini mateso? Upate pressure kisa mwanaume.... hebu uko mie...!!!!!!

mimi49 said:

Nimeshaongea nae sana lakini habadiliki nimeshaongea na watu wake wakaribu Pia wakaongea nae lkn bado hali ni ileile.Najua miaka minne ni mingi na tunafahamiana vizuri usemavyo ni kweli Ila nafeel we r nt meant to be together ndio maana hatuendani na ndio maana hajali!na ana ile tabia ya kununa,nikimkera mimi atanuna nimbembelezee weeee lakini akinikera mimi Pia atanuna yeye na niombe msamaha mm wala hajali yaani kama nimekerekwa mimi!!

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Mimi49, hata hivyo nakupongeza umemvumilia sana, mimi nakushauri achana nae huyo, utakufa na kihoro cha mapenzi dear. Mimi asiponisms tu kuanzia asbh hadi jioni pressure inapanda leo niugue usiniulize mpenzi unaendeleaje? ndo naweza pelekwa wodini kabisa, huyo mimi simuwezi kabisa ningeshaepusha msongamano nadhani mwaka wa kwanza tu

mimi49 said:

Tangu awali hakuwa na kazi..tulipoanza uhusiano alikuwa akijali kiasi ila akabadilika na muda ulivyokwenda..ndio kinachoniuma haswa ni kujua kwamba anajua kujali na nilikuwa nikifeel napendwa by then lakini si sasa tena na nahisi kadiri ninavyomwambia hajali ndio hajali zaidi yaani kama ananipuuzia na pia anajitafutia excuses nyingiii!!

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hapo sidhani kama kuna mapenzi ndugu yangu, may be anafanya hivyo ili ujiondoe mwenyewe au:flypig: inawezekana anogopa kukuambia ukweli kwa mdomo wake. achana naye na uishi maisha yako ingawa ni ngumu ila just do it for ur happiness n ur child.

Basing on my xperience he wants u no more, anajaribu kukuacha kistaarabu coz hana reason, and u av neva been a bad couple, so anatafuta 7bu ili ujiondoe mwenyewe autmatical..just move on.

mhhhhhhhhh kasheshe hilo... bt its true hakupendi mayb jtahdi labda u`ll win his hat again dr:A S-heart-2:

Kilahunja said:

Basing on my xperience he wants u no more, anajaribu kukuacha kistaarabu coz hana reason, and u av neva been a bad couple, so anatafuta 7bu ili ujiondoe mwenyewe autmatical..just move on.

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Mbona nikijiondoa anakuja kunibembeleza weee kuwa ananipenda sasa mimi simuelewi!

mimi49 said:

Niko kwenye mahusiano ya Takriban miaka minne na mwanaume ambae nimezaa nae mtoto mmoja.Tulikutana ktk chat tukapendana..baada ya kuonana Nikabeba ujauzito wake which is irresponsible i know coz tunaishi sehemu Tofauti.
Hanisaidii kwa huduma yoyote coz hana kazi thats fine Ila hata nikiwa nae hanisaidii hata ktk malezi ya mtoto(tupo nje ya nchi),anasema anataka kunioa na ananipenda lkn tatizo hanijali wala hajali feelings zangu akinikera,haoneshi mapenzi na mimi na Sifeel kama ananipenda coz hata nikiumwa hanijulii hali nampigia Simu mimi ananikemea Eti namuamsha usingizini na kuumwa naumwa mimi!!yaani kuna vituko vingi sana amenitendea huyu mwanaume siwezi kuvieleza vyote!!
sasa nimeamua kuachana nae Ila bado nampenda sana na namuwaza saa zote!!mnadhani nimechukua uamuzi mzuri kuachana nae au nifuate moyo wangu niendelee kuwa nae na niendelee kuumia?

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hahaha I wanna know the progress of the matter

Hata ukifata moyo wako akiendelea na vtuko hiv hata huo moyo utachoka

Smtym kumwacha mtu c solution jaribu kwanza kuongea nae nakumpa yale yanayotesa moyo wako na vilevile t depends ktk mahucano yenu b4 hujazaa mlikua mnaish vp

mimi49 said:

Mbona nikijiondoa anakuja kunibembeleza weee kuwa ananipenda sasa mimi simuelewi!

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Basi jitahidi umuelewe kuwa ndivyo alivyoumbwa kwenye upande wa mapenzi hawezi kukujali ila anakupenda kuna watu wapo hivyo wanapenda ila hawana muda wa kumjali anayempenda so huyo ni mmoja wapo mchukulie kama alivyo

mimi49 ebu tupe mrejesho!

bdo said:

wewe unamuongopea mwenzio ampige chini! mwenzio kasema kamuacha ila bado anampenda so hawajaachana, utaonekana mmbeya - mpe confidence mwenzako aendelee kumpenda mwenzake coz bado anampenda, pia, I thought ungemshauri azidi kumvumilia coz she had him for over 4 years, kwa nini amshindwe sasa? Mwambia nadhani huyo shemeji yetu hana kazi, so ukiwa too demanding kwa vitu vikubwa ambavyo ni zaidi ya uwezo wake ataona kama unamcheka/unamsanifu - hasa hayo mambo ya matibau kwake una maanisha bill na anatakiwa kulipa, awe anamwambia kuwa anaumwa ila "I have gone for medical check up and dr. kasema nitapona kama nitamaliza dose", keep praying for him apate kazi, and mind you sijasikia anasema huyo shemeji anam-cheat...mshauri avumilie please ni mambo ya uchumi tu hayo[/LEFT][/RIGHT][/LEFT]

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