My Tanzanian lady is always suspicious and it is ruining relationship

My Tanzanian lady is always suspicious and it is ruining relationship

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Ladies and Gentlemen,

Allow me to introduce myself to you. My name is Idris Aiden from Kenya. Currently I live here in Arusha with a lady I met few months ago in Nairobi at Bougainvillea hotel where Dr Fabian Seuss was giving a series of semina about entrepreneurship in Africa for 5 days.

This lady called Naomi (not a real name to protect her confidentiality) works as a social entrepreneur for 4 years now. She owns two companies one in tourism industry and the other company is dealing with production of school bags from waste materials. She is a hardworking woman and intelligent all the success she has achieved so far is because of her own efforts and determination.

Well, having introduced Naomi to you now allow me to share what is actually going on between me and her because i think the issue has gotten to the point that i must seek advice.

The issue is this, about a week ago Naomi and I got a visit at our house at Njiro her young sister called Lyn came from Dar where she lives and study. Also her mother and dad works in Dar so Lyn visit her sister during holidays and stay till school is open.

So about four days ago when I came home from work in the evening period around 4, Lyn came in my room (the room I share with her sister) to tell me that she was about to go to town so she asks some money because I promised her yesterday night while having dinner and her sister Naomi was there.

I told Lyn she should wait outside I have few things to sort out first I won't break my promise to give her some dough. As I continued to talk I noticed Lyn was not listening she was like not interested with my response because I asked her to step out of the room.

Also another thing I was actually not aware about is that Lyn wore a very transparent skirt which I could see everything and you know as a man sometimes it's really tough to go through such kind of temptations so I was not sure what this beautiful young lady want. So again I asked Lyn to leave because there possibility her sister Naomi would find us in that situation which is not respectful.

Now as I insisted Lyn to leave because her clothes were not decent and its not respectful Naomi her sister came in the room a thing I didn't expect because all i knew Naomi come home not before 6 pm but today its different.-

So dear JF members the issue now has gotten very bad Naomi is so angry she suspects there is something going on and that day she found me and her young sister i didnt tell truth all I said was a lie.

I have tried so hard to tell I didnt do anything bad to her young sister but she seem unsatisfied and now I'm tired I can't live with a woman so suspicious its boring. I plan to break this relationship, close my business and go back to Nairobi.

But before I proceed with my decision I would love to hear your advice should I really break this relationship?
 
Nyang'a.u katafute manzi ya Mount Kenya ikunyoroshe hiyo tabia yako ya kupenda made.m
 
Just to remind u,Use M-pesa to send ur money to Kenya...Looks like Ur 'business' is over.
 
As a lady, has all the right to be doubtful! try to be humble and tell her what exactly happened with her young sis around! to clear the misunderstanding! All the best
 
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Ladies and Gentlemen,

Allow me to introduce myself to you. My name is Idris Aiden from Kenya. Currently I live here in Arusha with a lady I met few months ago in Nairobi at Bougainvillea hotel where Dr Fabian Seuss was giving a series of semina about entrepreneurship in Africa for 5 days.

This lady called Naomi (not a real name to protect her confidentiality) works as a social entrepreneur for 4 years now. She owns two companies one in tourism industry and the other company is dealing with production of school bags from waste materials. She is a hardworking woman and intelligent all the success she has achieved so far is because of her own efforts and determination.

Well, having introduced Naomi to you now allow me to share what is actually going on between me and her because i think the issue has gotten to the point that i must seek advice.

The issue is this, about a week ago Naomi and I got a visit at our house at Njiro her young sister called Lyn came from Dar where she lives and study. Also her mother and dad works in Dar so Lyn visit her sister during holidays and stay till school is open.

So about four days ago when I came home from work in the evening period around 4, Lyn came in my room (the room I share with her sister) to tell me that she was about to go to town so she asks some money because I promised her yesterday night while having dinner and her sister Naomi was there.

I told Lyn she should wait outside I have few things to sort out first I won't break my promise to give her some dough. As I continued to talk I noticed Lyn was not listening she was like not interested with my response because I asked her to step out of the room.

Also another thing I was actually not aware about is that Lyn wore a very transparent skirt which I could see everything and you know as a man sometimes it's really tough to go through such kind of temptations so I was not sure what this beautiful young lady want. So again I asked Lyn to leave because there possibility her sister Naomi would find us in that situation which is not respectful.

Now as I insisted Lyn to leave because her clothes were not decent and its not respectful Naomi her sister came in the room a thing I didn't expect because all i knew Naomi come home not before 6 pm but today its different.-

So dear JF members the issue now has gotten very bad Naomi is so angry she suspects there is something going on and that day she found me and her young sister i didnt tell truth all I said was a lie.

I have tried so hard to tell I didnt do anything bad to her young sister but she seem unsatisfied and now I'm tired I can't live with a woman so suspicious its boring. I plan to break this relationship, close my business and go back to Nairobi.

But before I proceed with my decision I would love to hear your advice should I really break this relationship?

Do you have any other reason to go back to Nairobi? I mean do u really wanna close your business and go back to Nairobi becaue of your girlfriend's insecurity???
 
As a lady, has all the right to be doubtful! try to be humble and tell her what exactly happened with her young sis around! to clear the misunderstanding! All the best

I've told her everything she doesn't want to listen. Now the house is like hell she complains every time I'm tired.
 
I've told her everything she doesn't want to listen. Now the house is like hell she complains every time I'm tired.

she is just a girlfriend right? dump her and get another one....rather than close your business and go back to Nairobi!
 
Do you have any other reason to go back to Nairobi? I mean do u really wanna close your business and go back to Nairobi becaue of your girlfriend's insecurity???

Umeniwahi PRONDO...wanted to ask the same question. Kisa tu mpenzi wako anahofu na uaminifu wako ndio ufunge biashara???? hebu aeleze vyema, kuna jambo kubwa zaidi ya hili aliloleta hapa jukwaani.
 
Do you have any other reason to go back to Nairobi? I mean do u really wanna close your business and go back to Nairobi becaue of your girlfriend's insecurity???

Yes that's the only reason I have and I think it's good one because even I decide to stay I won't do business peaceful here.
 
Typical Tanzanian Ladies behavior, always at your nose thinking of being cheated. I hate this habit, you are on the same boat as me, even looking around when driving causes lot of trouble. Utasikia unaangalia madem zako kwa barabara thats nonsese!!
 
I just write stories for people to read and I know through my stories people learn something so i won't complicate my mind for a few people who try to kill my vibes.

mwelewa at work! Then if so, at the begining of the story be specific dat its not u! Right? Watu hawakuelewi kila siku hili mara lile. Too boring
 
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