Utafanyaje utakapogundua ya kuwa mkeo kumbe ni msagaji.....utamvumilia............utamkanya.........utamwacha.................Hebu soma hii hadithi hapo chini................ When 'the other man' in your wife's life is a woman By Shirley A common statement nowadays is that everybody cheats. So what do you do if someone cheats on you? A few days ago I got a letter from Paul. He is 35 and married with a son. He has been married for five years and although the marriage was relatively happy, he always felt like his wife was holding something back from him. Whenever he got suspicious, he would ignore the little voice telling him to do some digging. Ever since he can remember, his wife has had a best friend called Nelly. It didnt really bother him when they were dating. In fact, they would often go on dates as a threesome. His wife was always bringing her along and he put up with it because he believed that after marriage, this friendship would end. But five years later, his wifes best friend was still hovering around. She was there for every occasion from his birthday to his sons birth. Christmas vacation If Nelly was not sleeping over, she and his wife were always talking on the phone. Whenever he went to see his wife at her office, Nelly would be there. When he came home from work Nelly would be at home helping his wife with something. During a trip to the coast for the Christmas vacation, his wife did not find it strange to invite Nelly. Feeling a little tired of constantly having a third factor in his marriage, he suggested to his wife that they try and get Nelly a man. His wife was against it but she later changed her mind, probably after talking to Nelly. So he went on a search for the perfect mate for Nelly. However, every person he chose for her happened to have a problem. She would go for only a single date. Got mad When that did not work he asked his wife to reduce the number of times Nelly was around them because it was getting to him. His wife got mad at him for even suggesting it, so Paul withdrew his request for the sake peace. He soon found a way to ignore Nelly he came home a little later or and found things to do with his friends over the weekend because he thought it was silly fighting with Nelly for his wifes time. Two weeks ago he went to Kisumu on a business trip planning to stay for a week, but he managed to finish things earlier. Wanting to surprise his wife, he did not tell her he would be coming home early. When he arrived home at around 10pm on Friday, he opened the door with his spare key and went straight to his bedroom. What he found there made his blood run cold. There in their marital bed were his wife and Nelly. His wife begged him for forgiveness but he left home and slept at a friends house. Paul says he is traumatised and does not know how to handle the situation. I told him that even though the other man happened to be a woman in his wifes case, it was still cheating. The truth is if his wife had been cheating on him all these years, chances are she will never stop. There will always be another Nelly.