Men are cruel to single women

[mimi mkali]

anasemaje huyu dada?sijaekewa kitu

 

[Castr]

So ladies (and gents), why are we single?
I really don't know. Could it be that the men around us are officially blind? Could it be that their minds are saturated with retouched instagram/facebook pics of women with perfect bodies, gorgeous skin, thin waist, perky breasts and butt. That for real they wouldn't spot a normal natural good looking woman even if an angel descended on earth and personally pointed towards the girl's direction?.

"Sonnet"

There is this thread, some guy wrote about what to do and what not to if you want to be head hunted by men, among the what to do included being natural, normal, avoiding wearing too much make up and the like.
And here there is this thread pointing out that even being natural won't help.

I don't know what to call this.

 

[Nyalotsi]

i dont care whether i am single or not because i choose not to love or trust any man also am not a sex toy.so please guys stay away from me

Majuto haya. Ulivyowakurupukia ulijua ni wenzio. BTW unaweza ukatafuta tu mwanaume akukupa mimba ukaendelea kuishi

 

[Nyalotsi]

Hata single mum anaweza kuwa alitoa mimba kadhaa kabla ya kuamua kuzaa, u never know.

Huwa wanadanganya kwa Lugha hiyo.
Man!! Kuna mimba inatokea anaamua kuzaa tuu maana hata daktari anayemtoa kamchoka.

 

[City Owl]

Kweli psychologists hawadanganyi.
Hii case ina majibu yote kwa Erick Erickson: 'Intimacy vs Isolation'.
You choose your side.

 

[silasc]

How- be a woman that a man needs and not a woman that needs a man, otherwise you will be subject to 'hit & run'
Where- wherever you are stay you stay true.

 

[mpuko]

Its alarming ..
labda tuanze kuzikemea

but usisahau wanaume wa dar pia tunatukanwa humu daily
kuna wanawake wa kichaga pia walikuwa hawana raha humu
ni trend tu labda itaisha
but....tushirikiane kukemea

Kila dhoruba huja na madhara yake, kila upepo huja na takataka zake. Wavumilie tu msimu utapita!

 

[mpuko]

Sijui kwanini tu, ila mostly wanawake ndio huwa tunakuwa victims. The world isnt fair.

If you always end up being victim, think twice, may be your too weak.

 

[mpuko]

Kabla sija reply, nilianza kwanza kuangalia your profile niangalie unapenda kutumia lugha gani. Anyway I thought haujui kiswahili. Kwasababu umetumia kiingereza, nitakujibu hivyo hivyo.

To start with, I am extremely sorry you feel that way. I can imagine what you are going through. Now to make this short as possible. Its not like, men are cruel to single women, maybe you are sending the wrong signals.

The way you described yourself, you sound like a beautiful woman. I don't know of any men who wouldn't be attracted to you. Seriously, I am literally attracted to you now, just by the style of your writing.

To give a short description about my relationship. When I asked her to date me, guess what she asked. "I want you to promise me, you will marry me." That was a huge thing to promise. But I did, because I saw what successful woman she would become. This is why I can imagine what you are feeling like right now.

With all those features you have, I can tell you this, with confidence "You are a total package". I am pretty sure someone who will see deep inside your 'left boob'(heart) will come sooner than you know it.

Thirty it is, your age? Well I tell you, age is just a number. And you are pretty much young. Don't rush it, great days are ahead of you. My advice; try and have a more open body language. Perhaps you look too serious and guys are scared away. Talk more, if you go to church, that's a great way to meet people. Join clubs(GYM, Yoga..etc). SMILE, I would approach a girl who looks happy any day.

Tl;DR you are a huge magnet. The objects around you are plastics, keep on the force, the perfect metal will be attracted soon. Have a nice day, will you.

-callmeGhost

You have nailed it dude! If she will take what you have said. No sooner things will get into her pipe line!

 

[mpuko]

i dont care whether i am single or not because i choose not to love or trust any man also am not a sex toy.so please guys stay away from me

Signs of frustrated single mother!

 

[LadyRed]

Hata single mum anaweza kuwa alitoa mimba kadhaa kabla ya kuamua kuzaa, u never know.

Ipi afadhal, mana mimba ukitoa kasheshee,ukizaa ndo balaa

 

[LadyRed]

There is this thread, some guy wrote about what to do and what not to if you want to be head hunted by men, among the what to do included being natural, normal, avoiding wearing too much make up and the like.
And here there is this thread pointing out that even being natural won't help.

I don't know what to call this.

Hahah ts called love has no formula

 

[mockers]

Language is a bitter problem to many participants in this forum as many members couldn't argue and bring views on a trended topic , real sorry.

 

[Castr]

Hahah ts called love has no formula

Absolutely

 

[mputamaseko]

Weka picha

 

[Solwa Yangu]

There I said it, its a cruel world for a single woman. I know that for a fact because I am one.

This post is not a "I am looking for a husband post", I already wrote such a post about a year ago, right here at Jamii Forum, with sad, disheartening results. Not one serious man responded, my inbox was full of jokers, pranksters and alas the married man...

This post is for fellow single women and for some men to have a glimpse of what it feels like to be single. To watch your friends and relatives get married and to have the rest of the world mock you for being single, as if it were your fault, as if you wouldn't change that in an instant if you could. (wouldn't you ladies)

So ladies (and gents), why are we single?
I really don't know. Could it be that the men around us are officially blind? Could it be that their minds are saturated with retouched instagram/facebook pics of women with perfect bodies, gorgeous skin, thin waist, perky breasts and butt. That for real they wouldn't spot a normal natural good looking woman even if an angel descended on earth and personally pointed towards the girl's direction?

Could it be that we girls love too deeply and we trust too much? Tell me what is wrong with loving someone? With believing him when he tells you he loves you and wants to spend the rest of his life with you. Is it our fault that all we get instead is a broken heart and a wet pillow from crying ourselves to sleep?

There must be something wrong with me, you wonder; I am a born again Christian woman who embraces her imperfections and acknowledges that through Christ everyday I become a better me.
Maybe I am too old? Age is nothing but a number so a woman can never be too old. Since you wondered I am thirty years old.
Maybe I am a single mother? I am not. I have never been married and I don't have children. (However even if I was, WHAT IS WRONG WITH BEING A SINGLE MOTHER? why can't you look past that and see the wonderful woman in-front of you?)
Maybe I am always asking a man for money? Nope - I have my own. With a university education and a good highly satisfying job that pays me around 2 million or so per month, I can pay my own bills thank you.
Maybe I can't cook you think? I can cook in a way that would put Jamie Oliver to shame
Maybe I don't clean or wash? Nope that isn't it, I'm clean as clean can be .
Maybe I am short, fat and ugly? I am not bad on the eyes I would like to think, thin body (with an athletic build thanks to aerobics, swimming and some weightlifting here n there to keep me toned), shoulder length hair, good skin and I am ever so comfortable being seen without makeup on my face.

So why am I single? I don't know. But what I do know is Tanzanian men should spot judging us from our marital status but from who we are as human beings. Look at my heart not my body, look at my mind not my ass, look at my education and job accomplishments and for heaven sake stop judging me from my age, or whether or not I have children.

If you dear reader want to be helpful, maybe you can give us single women some pointers on how and where we can meet available men.

As a concluding remark, if Prince Harry can fall in love with a black, divorced woman three years his senior, maybe just maybe there is hope for the rest of us.

"Sonnet"

Uko na point nzuri tu, tatizo uinglishi mwingi. Sasa hapo kama upo bongo lazima uendelee kuwa single woman rafiki yangu. Jitahidi ama kutumia zaidi Kiswahili kama uko na wabongo au ukae karibu na wenye lugha yao hiyo watakuelewa na utapata mume. Umri sio chochote.......

 

[mwengeso]

i dont care whether i am single or not because i choose not to love or trust any man also am not a sex toy.so please guys stay away from me

God created man and woman and all living things in pairs.

If you believe in God, then you know wha I mean and that thinking and stance of yours is against God's creation.

Reflect upon yourself Miss Natafuta, definitely you'll qualify towards 'Madame Nimepata'.

Leeyooo watajiju... just be you.

Bado ulimwengu huu ni wa wanaume (man's world) na Marekani imeonesha hivyo kwa kumteua Trump (a better devil).

Kama mnadhani wanaume watajiju, mtabaki 'single' kama mleta mada kuu. Mtabaki 'sex toys' kama machangu doa. Uamuzi ni wenu.

 

[double R]

Lady, the world isn't fair.
And at this side of the world most of men are cruel. It is not because you are single, even if you are married you might face that. Again you may experience the same kind of intimadation from women. That is how the world works.

Learn to rule your world to be happy.

About marriage, being perfect is not a credit. Being yourself is credit. Don't live to impress everybody.

As of what you said you are, I might be less than a half. A bunch of men mentioned before my face that they could not marry me of the fact that (in their words, "mbishi sana, sijakaa kike, naringa, much know mchafu, hata weza kuspend na mimi, nazunguka na wanaume tu). At the same time i attracted many and of course i have so many close male friends than females. To stamp on that I am married to a man who was attracted to see a lady who is confident and conversant among men.

My little secret compare as a lady who stand in middle of men, I have never tried to be like men. I enjoy being woman and yes a strong woman. Be yourself. No body is perfect. Improve your weakness to make a better you rather than impressing humans. Be picky because everybody choose.
Wema ndo unaotafutwa jitahidi uwe mwema.

 

[RRONDO]

Ipi afadhal, mana mimba ukitoa kasheshee,ukizaa ndo balaa

Ukipata mimba zaa, mtoto ni baraka.

 

[lnx]

Hahah ts called love has no formula

Currently where are you living?
And are you ready to shift from where you are to follow the guy in any region around tz?