Letter to African parents

mwengeso

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"Dear All- Let's be real.

I wish to start by adding the benefit of my time as a student and then resident in the UK. Living in Abuja now. The first thing that I discovered about UK-born, white, English undergraduates was that all of them did holiday or weekend job to support themselves – including the children of millionaires amongst them. It is the norm over there – regardless of how wealthy their parents are. And I soon discovered that virtually all other foreign students did the same – except status – conscious Africans.

I also watched Richard Branson (owner of Virgin Airline) speaking on the Biography Channel. To my amazement, he said that his young children travel in the economy class – even when the parents (he and his wife) are in upper class. Richard Branson is a billionaire in Pound sterling. A quick survey would show you that only children from Africa fly business or upper class to commence their studies in the UK. No other foreign students do this. There is no aircraft attached to the office of the Prime Minister in the UK. He travels on BA. And the same goes for the Royals. The Queen does not have an aircraft for her exclusive use.

These practices simply become the culture which the next generation carries forward. Have you seen the car that Kate Middleton (the wife of Prince William) drives? VW Golf or something close to it. But there’s one core difference between them and us (generally speaking), they (even the billionaires among them) work for their money, most of us steal ours.

If we want our children to bring about the desired change we have been praying for on behalf of our dear continent, then please, please let’s begin now and teach them to work hard so they can stand alone and most importantly be content and not having to “steal” which seems to be the norm these days.

We have African Children who have never worked for 5 minutes in their lives insisting on flying “only” first or business class and using the latest cars fully paid for by their “loving“ parents.

I often get calls from anxious parents” my son graduated 2 years ago and is still looking for a job, can you please assist!”

“Oh really! So where exactly is “THIS CHILD?” is my usual question. “Why are you the one making this call dad/mum?"

I am yet to get a satisfactory answer, but between you and i, chances are that the big boy is cruising around Abuja with a babe dressed to the nines, in his dad’s sparkling new SUV with enough “pocket money” to put your salary to shame. It is not at all strange to hear a 28 year old who has NEVER worked for a day in his or her life in Nigeria but “earns” a six figure “salary” from parents for doing absolutely nothing.

I see them in my office once in a while, 26 years old with absolutely no skill to sell apart from a shiny CV, written by his dad’s secretary in the office. Of course, he has a driver at his beck and call and he is driven to the job interview. We have a fairly decent conversation and we get to the inevitable question- so, what salary are you looking to earn? Answer comes straight out – N250,000.00. I ask if that is per month or per annum.

“Of course, it is per month”

“Oh, why do you think you should be earning that much on your first job?”

“Well, because my current pocket money is N200,000.00 and I feel any employer should be able to pay me more than my parents.”

No wonder corruption continues to thrive. We have a society of young people who have been brought up to expect something for nothing, as if it were a birthright. Even though the examples I have given above are from parents of considerable affluence, similar patterns can be observed from Accra to Abuja.

Wake up mum! Wake up dad! This syndrome – “my children will not suffer what I suffered" is destroying your tomorrow. You are practically loving your child to death.

I learnt the children of a former Nigeria Head of State with all the stolen (billions) monies in their custody, still go about with security escort as wrecks. They are on drugs, several time because of the drug, they collapse in places. The escort will quickly pack them and off they go. What a life! No one wants to marry them.

Henry Ford said, “Hard work does not kill.” We are getting everything wrong in Nigeria now, including family setting. It is time to prepare your children for tomorrow, the way the world is going, only those that are rugged, hard working and smart working that will survive. How will your ward fare?

Please forward this to all the parents you know and love. We must begin to save our young children from unintended consequences of "too much love" and weak parenting. It is the only way out. Lets not leave everything to spirituality and say God help us.
*Shalom...*"
 

mwengeso

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It's a shame that this post is in shortage of replies, despite its well presented message and mere facts!
Most of JF members are interested in gossip, sex and the like posts. The rest will engage in criticising the Government or its officials.

Hence, the contents of the main post are the truth, nature and characteristics of us Africans. Even the so called senior and expert JF members are victims.
 

Gibeath-Elohimu

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Jan 5, 2014
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Such a nice article for "every parent and parents-to-be" to read,for it is genuinely clear that we are having a generation of youth which fits precisely in what you have captured in there.......thanks brethren for sharing this with us.....
 

-KANA-

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Apr 17, 2017
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Most of JF members are interested in gossip, sex and the like posts. The rest will engage in criticising the Government or its officials.

Hence, the contents of the main post are the truth, nature and characteristics of us Africans. Even the so called senior and expert JF members are victims.
Poor Africans, we really need to change our mindsets!
 

mwengeso

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Nov 27, 2014
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Poor Africans, we really need to change our mindsets!
If we were brought up in a reading environment we African would be very innovative and creative.

However, we were brought up near a firewood sitting listening to storries from our granies. The new generation is copying what is put in the media and is trying to outsmart each other for the best copyier level.

Poor us Africans, for we are reaping what was sown, ending up in an awkward situation, reflected by the poor response to the main post.
 

torvic

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Mar 9, 2016
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Most of JF members are interested in gossip, sex and the like posts. The rest will engage in criticising the Government or its officials.

Hence, the contents of the main post are the truth, nature and characteristics of us Africans. Even the so called senior and expert JF members are victims.
yes most of jf members likes that non beneficial things you said about! but also you forget to mention language barrier...
we are tanzanians mkuu.. dont expecting as all of us we understand the language...
 

Poise

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May 31, 2016
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This's the greatest message before we start a new financial year 2017/2018 I hope will be soon in this week.

Receive a big like.
 

steveachi

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Nov 7, 2011
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Rich African parents have this syndrome as a results their children ends to be dop dealers because their parents didn't teach them to be hard workers legally
 

steveachi

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Nov 7, 2011
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The queen's language will chop chop you and your life. (just kidding ) .

Still you can learn and make it, don't be ashamed to admit you're failure and keep learning.

This language even if it's not of our mother tongue,we have to keep on trying to use it regardless of our weakness on its application
 

kasweswe

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Aug 25, 2018
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It's really pain to most African parents having this shit parenting, thinking the sign of love while killing them slowly.
 

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