ila mtoto ukimchapa kila wakati mwisho anazowea, anakua haogopi tena
Corporal punishment on children is child abuse in my view.
There are so many other ways to discipline a misbehaving child that are effective.
Bila ya kuchapwa nsingefika hapa nilipo, wenzako wengi walikua hawachapwi saivi maisha sio mazuri kwa upande wao
For real!, The Boss
Mkuu you're one of those who, spanking worked!, and you ended up to be a good kid, mbona hata kuna wanaochapwa mpaka kuumizwa and still!, hawakusikia!
Corporal punishment on children is child abuse in my view.
There are so many other ways to discipline a misbehaving child that are effective.
Sina maana kwamba utampiga kila siku, ila kila siku ukimgomba kwa mdomo inafika hatua kwwmba anaakuzowea wewe ni msemaji. Ndio maana kuna watoto wengine ukiwatishia paka tu wanalia, ila kuna wengine wanacheza nae. Mtoto ukimfanya aogope kitu gani basi atakua ivo ivo, kucheka cheka na mtoto mpaka hata akiharibu laptop yako bila ya adhabu yoyote kunasababisha tabia mbaya kwa mtoto. Ndio maana unamkuta mtoto hata akienda kwa jirani utaletewa taarifa mara ameharibu hiki mara kile. Na jirani akimgomba kidogo anakuja nyumbani kusema amepigwa na wewe unagombana nao
Kuna watoto ni very manipulative...na very tricky....akijua hakuna kuchapwa..ni usumbufu 24/7....nina relative ambao hawachapi watoto...hawawezi hata kuongea na wageni kwa kitulia...watoto wanataka attention all time...
Igeni tu wazungu, watoto wenu msiwachape mtaona tu huko mbele.
bora kuchapwa kuliko kugombezwa, kwasababu kugombezwa ni psychological torture mbaya sana. viboko vinasaidia na ukiona mtu anasema viboko ni child abuse ujue umagaribi umemharibu.....sikumbuki kuchapwa mkuu!, nakumbuka kugombezwa sana but si kuchapwa, and I came out pretty good...lol!
binti yako atakuwa mojawapo ya mambulula wakubwa baadaye, na itamgarimu. acha kuiga mambo ya wazungu, ndio maana watoto wa kizungu wanafikia miaka 18 analeba boyfriend/girlfriend home na anajitangaza bwabwa na wazazi hawala la kumfanya kwasababu uhuru umepitiliza, mwanadamu kwa asili kama asipobanwa na kufinywa kidogo lazima atapotea tu au dunia itamfunza na ni bora afunzwe na mzazi kuliko kufunzwa na dunia kwasababu kufunzwa na dunia atakuja kustuka shuka kumekucha na yeye ameshapata madhara makubwa kabisa. hata wewe unayejiona uko bora, pengine ni kwasababu umefinywafinywa sana na dunia/walimwengu/maisha hadi ukawa experienced. acha kuishi katika nadharia, mlee mtoto katika njia impasayo naye hataisahau hata akiwa mzee, na imeandikwa usimnyima mapigo...fimbo hata vitabu vitakatifu vimeruhusu. you are a duty to raise your child well, otherwise if they get lost you will be the one to blame.I've never raised my hand to hit my daughter. Matter of fact I've never even remotely come close to it.
Mimi naamini kuwa ukijenga uhusiano mzuri na mwanao tokea akiwa mchanga basi hata kazi ya kumrudisha kwenye mstari endapo inatokea anatoka, inakuwa rahisi.
Lakini pia wakati mwingine haya mambo huwa ni mambo ya mzunguko (cycle). Binafsi sikuwahi kuchapwa wala kupigwa na wazazi wangu.
Nilipokosea waliniambia vizuri tu tena bila hata kunifokea na nilielewa nilichoambiwa nimekosea na sikurudia tena.
Hiyo ni kwa sababu nadhani baba alikuwa kajenga uhusiano mzuri sana na mimi tokea nikiwa mdogo na hivyo nilikuwa namwamini sana.
Sasa unakuta mtu anakapiga katoto ka miaka minne utadhani anapigana na mtu mzima.
That's just not right. Sasa huyo mtoto naye akija kuwa na wanae huo mzunguko wa violence si utazidi kuendelea tu.
Kupiga watoto si sawa hata kidogo.
binti yako atakuwa mojawapo ya mambulula wakubwa baadaye, na itamgarimu.
acha kuiga mambo ya wazungu, ndio maana watoto wa kizungu wanafikia miaka 18 analeba boyfriend/girlfriend home na anajitangaza bwabwa na wazazi hawala la kumfanya kwasababu uhuru umepitiliza,
mwanadamu kwa asili kama asipobanwa na kufinywa kidogo lazima atapotea tu
au dunia itamfunza na ni bora afunzwe na mzazi kuliko kufunzwa na dunia kwasababu kufunzwa na dunia atakuja kustuka shuka kumekucha na yeye ameshapata madhara makubwa kabisa.
hata wewe unayejiona uko bora, pengine ni kwasababu umefinywafinywa sana na dunia/walimwengu/maisha hadi ukawa experienced.
acha kuishi katika nadharia,
mlee mtoto katika njia impasayo naye hataisahau hata akiwa mzee,
na imeandikwa usimnyima mapigo
...fimbo hata vitabu vitakatifu vimeruhusu.
you are a duty to raise your child well, otherwise if they get lost you will be the one to blame.
bora kuchapwa kuliko kugombezwa, kwasababu kugombezwa ni psychological torture mbaya sana. viboko vinasaidia na ukiona mtu anasema viboko ni child abuse ujue umagaribi umemharibu.
mankachara sio kwamba sikubaliani na adhabu kabisa, I don't agree with physical punishment kwa watoto, na nilisema kitu muhimu ni bora kutafuta njia nyingine ambazo ni non physics kuadhibu watoto kama vile kumpunguzia uhuru wa kucheza au kufanya kitu alichozoea kwa muda fulani, na watoto walivo akiona wenzie au wanacheza au wana enjoy kufanya something they're not allowed to kwa sababu wamekosea, they'll learn from their mistakes. Wanazo akili pia za kufikuria.