Mwisho wa thread hii kuna picha moja ni Criss brown na Rihana wakati wakiwa katika mahusiano kwa wakati huo walikua na miaka 19. Picha zingine mbili ni picha zao kwa sasa criss ana miaka 36 na rihana ana 37.
Umegundua nini?. Criss brown bado kijana mbichi kabisa anaeweza kuvutia hata hawa mabinti wanaochipukia wakina Tyler, wakati Rihana tayari ni mshangazi. Hawezi tena kuvutia wanaume wenye status kubwa mfano Cristiano Ronaldo.
Rihana mwenyewe aligundua hilo ndio maana baada ya kumaliza kula ujana na badboys wakina criss brown, drake n.k. Aliona menopause hii hapa acha atafute sehemu ya kutulia hata kwa mwanaume ambae amemzidi kila kitu.
Akaingia kazini kutafuta retirement plan, ndipo simp mmoja ambae alikua amewekwa kwa friendzone kwa miaka mingi anaitwa ASAP Rock akajitokeza kununua gazeti jioni. Ni dhahiri ukirudi miaka 19 nyuma wakati Rihana yupo kwenye ubora wake asingengekubali ku-settle na mwanaume wa level ya ASAP rock, kwa sababu kwa miaka hiyo alikua na options bora zaid levels za jay z.
Nataka nikwambie nini kijana. Moja ya kosa utakalolifanya kwenye mahusiano ni ku-settle na mwanamke ambae ni agemate wako. Nakushauri settle na mwanamke ambae umemzidi miaka 8-15.
Sababu pekee ya kukufanya ku-settle na age mate wako ni ikiwa mlianza mahusiano yenu tangu mkiwa wadogo. Lakini hawa wa kukutana nao ukubwani achana nao. At 30's a woman passes her prime, she is done with almost averything, while a man you're just getting started.
Mbali na menopause na mwanamke kuwahi kuzeeka vilevile agemate wako amekuzidi uzoefu na tricks zote kwenye nyanja ya mahusiano. Hii ni kwa sababu wanawake wanaanza kujihusisha na haya mambo mapema sana. Ni rahisi kumpata kijana wa kiume mwenye miaka 22 na hajawahi kufanya mapenzi, kuliko kumpata binti wa miaka 18 akiwa bado bikira. Mwanamke hatakiwi kukuzidi uzoefu kwa sababu wewe ndie unaenda kuwa kiongozi ndani ya nyumba
Niggaz, dating a woman of 26-30+ is not romance, it's rescuing mission. By this stage most of them have been through men you can't imagine, different bedrooms, different positions, different calibles. They have tested alphas, betas, players, hustlers, broke boys, rich boys and after years of exploration they want to rebrand themselves as serious women. Don't be deceived, its atrap. She is not looking for love anymore, she is looking for a retirememt plan.
Kumbuka pia, kuna wanaume ambao tayari washaoa hao agemates wao.. Infact hata hapa kwenye uzi wanaweza wakaja kujitetea, lakini sio kwamba hawaoni mantiki ya kinachoandikwa, isipokua wanatetea maamuzi ambayo tayari washayafanya. Maana ndio option pekee waliyobaki nayo kwa sababu hawawezi kurudisha muda nyuma. Sikatai hoja zao wala sipo hapa kuwaambia waachane na wake zao.
Nipo hapa kukusanua wewe kijana ambae bado upo upo kwanza. Najua wengi mnacheza kwenye interval age ya 25-35. Kijana, pool ya single mother, agemate na wanawake wenye miaka kuanzia 30, achana nayo,kwa sababu ukifanya risk assessment, potential loss ni kubwa zaidi ya potential benefits.
Remember, after many years of partying, living recklessly and exporation in dating pool, in the name of having fun. She will start looking for a naive and safe man who will ignore her past, carry her baggage, fix her mistakes and secure her future. Don't be that man. Date a woman in her prime. You didn't build your life to endup with a leftover.
Don't be a simp