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Habari zenu wana JF, Napenda kuomba msaada wenu wa mawazo ili na mimi nipate ushauri wenye hekima. Nina rafikiangu alipata mchumba wakati yule kaka anamuomba dada huyo awe mchumba wake mungu akijalia wawe mke na mume dada alikataa akawa haamini kama nikweli, lakini baada ya huyo kaka kumfwatilia kwa muda mrefu dada akaona the guy was serious akakubali then akamuomba wakapime kaka akakubali wakakutwa salama.

mahusiano yameanza mpaka ndugu pandezote mbili wakajua imebaki wazazi kutambulishwa, shida inakuja huyo kaka anaongea sana kupita kiasi yani wakikaa sehem yeye ndo aongee kupingwa hataki, chochote atakachokiona au kufanya lazima aseme, akinunua zawadi ya mchumba wake lazima rafiki wa dada huyo na wa kaka huyo watajua,

kunawakati dada huyo aliumwa sana tumbo huyo kaka akamwambia ntakuijia home nikupele hosptl, dada alivopona anakutana na rafiki zake kaka huyo wanampa pole na kumwambia jamaa alitwambia uliumwa na ametumia pesa nyingi sana kukutibisha wakati haikua kweli, dada akanyamaza, akimtoa kwa dinner or lunch lazima dada huyo ataambiwa flani alisema juzu mlikua sehem kwa dinner huezi pata mwanaume anakupa good time hivo, anasahau kunamuda hakua vizuri dada huyo alimsaidia sana bila kulalamika pamoja nakua mwanaume anaumri mkubwa kuzidi msichana,

akipata pesanyingi dada anamshauri nunua hata kiwanja jenga punguza kula life anamgombeza anamwambia mi ni msomi sana najua ninacho kifanya kwanza nipe muda ninamambo mengi, anapotea haonekani dada akaamua kuchukua makosa yeye na kumuomba msamaha ili tu abadilike ache kuongea kila kitu pia wapendane na wafanye maendeleo yao kwaajili ya future zao akasema sawa pia ntajirekebisha, baada ya siku dada anataniwa na rafiki wake na wamskaji nasikia ulimlilia jamaa unamuomba msamaha ili mpendane hiyo ika m put down sana huyo dada, na nimsichana anaejiheshi sana na anahofu ya mungu, kaka kaona mambo si mazuri na dada hana mpango tena au kapata matatizo anarudi kuomba msamaha

sasa dada huyo kanishirikisha ni mshauri amtimue? Au amvumilie? Anauliza mtu wa hivyo anaweza kuwa mume mwema? Au nikukaribisha maumivu aibu na umaskini kuishi bila maendeleo, mimi nilimwambia aamuombe mungu ampe huyo kaka mtu mwingine ili yeye apewe na mungu mume mwema anaemstahili huyo hamfai na hawezi acha mdomo.wenye mawazo yenye kueleweka nisaidieni tumsaidie kijana mwenzetu jamani.
 

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Habari zenu wana JF, Napenda kuomba msaada wenu wa mawazo ili na mimi nipate ushauri wenye hekima. Nina rafikiangu alipata mchumba wakati yule kaka anamuomba dada huyo awe mchumba wake mungu akijalia wawe mke na mume dada alikataa akawa haamini kama nikweli, lakini baada ya huyo kaka kumfwatilia kwa muda mrefu dada akaona the guy was serious akakubali then akamuomba wakapime kaka akakubali wakakutwa salama, mahusiano yameanza mpaka ndugu pandezote mbili wakajua imebaki wazazi kutambulishwa, shida inakuja huyo kaka anaongea sana kupita kiasi yani wakikaa sehem yeye ndo aongee kupingwa hataki, chochote atakachokiona au kufanya lazima aseme, akinunua zawadi ya mchumba wake lazima rafiki wa dada huyo na wa kaka huyo watajua, kunawakati dada huyo aliumwa sana tumbo huyo kaka akamwambia ntakuijia home nikupele hosptl, dada alivopona anakutana na rafiki zake kaka huyo wanampa pole na kumwambia jamaa alitwambia uliumwa na ametumia pesa nyingi sana kukutibisha wakati haikua kweli, dada akanyamaza, akimtoa kwa dinner or lunch lazima dada huyo ataambiwa flani alisema juzu mlikua sehem kwa dinner huezi pata mwanaume anakupa good time hivo, anasahau kunamuda hakua vizuri dada huyo alimsaidia sana bila kulalamika pamoja nakua mwanaume anaumri mkubwa kuzidi msichana, akipata pesanyingi dada anamshauri nunua hata kiwanja jenga punguza kula life anamgombeza anamwambia mi ni msomi sana najua ninacho kifanya kwanza nipe muda ninamambo mengi, anapotea haonekani dada akaamua kuchukua makosa yeye na kumuomba msamaha ili tu abadilike ache kuongea kila kitu pia wapendane na wafanye maendeleo yao kwaajili ya future zao akasema sawa pia ntajirekebisha, baada ya siku dada anataniwa na rafiki wake na wamskaji nasikia ulimlilia jamaa unamuomba msamaha ili mpendane hiyo ika m put down sana huyo dada, na nimsichana anaejiheshi sana na anahofu ya mungu, kaka kaona mambo si mazuri na dada hana mpango tena au kapata matatizo anarudi kuomba msamaha sasa dada huyo kanishirikisha ni mshauri amtimue? Au amvumilie? Anauliza mtu wa hivyo anaweza kuwa mume mwema? Au nikukaribisha maumivu aibu na umaskini kuishi bila maendeleo, mimi nilimwambia aamuombe mungu ampe huyo kaka mtu mwingine ili yeye apewe na mungu mume mwema anaemstahili huyo hamfai na hawezi acha mdomo.wenye mawazo yenye kueleweka nisaidieni tumsaidie kijana mwenzetu jamani.
jamani kila m2 anatabia yake japo zingine zinakera kamaya huyo jamaa, ila huyo dada acmwache, aone kuwa Mungu amempeleka pale ili amrekebishe huyo njemba aendelee kumuomba Mungu ili jamaa ajirekebishe
 

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cjui kama Mamushka nimekupata vizuri, kwamba ishu ya huyu kaka ni macfa,hana la kuongea zaidi kujicfia...cjui kama nimekuelewa.
 

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mbona sioni tatizo la huyo jamaa..he is just a big mouth buddy.. mie nilizani ana-mademu kumi kila siku anamfumania halali nyumbani..hiyo kuongea na kujisifia ni kipaji cha mtu wake... na ashukuru jamaa muongeaji...wapo wengine hawaongei kimya-kimya ila actions zao mpaka unajuta kumfaahamu....

kingine nahisi jamaa anamzimia sana huyo demu kiasi kila kitu anachomfanyia lazma awa-ringishie washkaji zake.... mwambie hoyo shosti wako silaha pekee ya ku-mcontroll huyo mbwiga wake ni ku-mpimia penzi na kumpa-ushirikiano wa kupima..akiropoka tu kwa watu jana tulifanya 1,2,3 ...penzi wiki nzima hakuna penzi wala maluv-davi akajitafutie wa bei nafuu kona baa....

kingine nahisi huyo jamaa "umri mdogo" unamsumbua.... na may b ni aina ya makabila yetu haya-anshomile mpaka fomu fooo... wanaji-proud vibaya sanaaa...amwelewe tuu.
 

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mbona sioni tatizo la huyo jamaa..he is just a big mouth buddy.. mie nilizani ana-mademu kumi kila siku anamfumania halali nyumbani..hiyo kuongea na kujisifia ni kipaji cha mtu wake... na ashukuru jamaa muongeaji...wapo wengine hawaongei kimya-kimya ila actions zao mpaka unajuta kumfaahamu....

kingine nahisi jamaa anamzimia sana huyo demu kiasi kila kitu anachomfanyia lazma awa-ringishie washkaji zake.... mwambie hoyo shosti wako silaha pekee ya ku-mcontroll huyo mbwiga wake ni ku-mpimia penzi na kumpa-ushirikiano wa kupima..akiropoka tu kwa watu jana tulifanya 1,2,3 ...penzi wiki nzima hakuna penzi wala maluv-davi akajitafutie wa bei nafuu kona baa....

kingine nahisi huyo jamaa "umri mdogo" unamsumbua.... na may b ni aina ya makabila yetu haya-anshomile mpaka fomu fooo... wanaji-proud vibaya sanaaa...amwelewe tuu.
Huu ni mtambowa kurekebisha tabia , nimekukubali
 

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Kwa haraka haraka huyo jamaa anapenda sifa, so mshauri rafiki yako atumie hiyo weakness yake, amsifie saaaana: kwa mfano Mmh yani wewe mpenzi wangu me nakuaminia ile mbaya najua safari hii lazima ununue kiwanja jinsi unavyopenda maendeleo yani kwa hilo sina wasiwasi, hopo ni instead ya kumwambia nunua kiwanja. Kuhusu hayo masifa yake amwambie kuna mtu kaniambia eti wewe ulikuwa unaongea .... kuhusu mimi au kuhusu maisha yetu, nimemtimua nimemwambia mimi mpenzi wangu hana hizi tabia za kujionyesha unyesha mbele za watu mambo yetu tunayajua wenye... nakwambia akiwa anamsifia badala ya kumpa fact anaweza kushangaa jinsi atakavyobadilika pia tatizo jingine la huyo jamaa ni insecurity, hajiamini
 

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kwa haraka haraka huyo jamaa anapenda sifa, so mshauri rafiki yako atumie hiyo weakness yake, amsifie saaaana: Kwa mfano mmh yani wewe mpenzi wangu me nakuaminia ile mbaya najua safari hii lazima ununue kiwanja jinsi unavyopenda maendeleo yani kwa hilo sina wasiwasi, hopo ni instead ya kumwambia nunua kiwanja. Kuhusu hayo masifa yake amwambie kuna mtu kaniambia eti wewe ulikuwa unaongea .... Kuhusu mimi au kuhusu maisha yetu, nimemtimua nimemwambia mimi mpenzi wangu hana hizi tabia za kujionyesha unyesha mbele za watu mambo yetu tunayajua wenye... Nakwambia akiwa anamsifia badala ya kumpa fact anaweza kushangaa jinsi atakavyobadilika pia tatizo jingine la huyo jamaa ni insecurity, hajiamini
ashangedere nimeipenda hii
 

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a style za usiku pia anazianika?
Huyo jamaa hadi hizi habari anaweza akazianika. Cha kufanya kama walivyosema wengine, asimuache ajitahidi kuongea nae na amweleze si vizuri kuanika mambo yao nje kwa watu wasiohusika! Kama jamaa ni muelewa atabadilika!
 

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mbona sioni tatizo la huyo jamaa..he is just a big mouth buddy.. mie nilizani ana-mademu kumi kila siku anamfumania halali nyumbani..hiyo kuongea na kujisifia ni kipaji cha mtu wake... na ashukuru jamaa muongeaji...wapo wengine hawaongei kimya-kimya ila actions zao mpaka unajuta kumfaahamu....

kingine nahisi jamaa anamzimia sana huyo demu kiasi kila kitu anachomfanyia lazma awa-ringishie washkaji zake.... mwambie hoyo shosti wako silaha pekee ya ku-mcontroll huyo mbwiga wake ni ku-mpimia penzi na kumpa-ushirikiano wa kupima..akiropoka tu kwa watu jana tulifanya 1,2,3 ...penzi wiki nzima hakuna penzi wala maluv-davi akajitafutie wa bei nafuu kona baa....

kingine nahisi huyo jamaa "umri mdogo" unamsumbua.... na may b ni aina ya makabila yetu haya-anshomile mpaka fomu fooo... wanaji-proud vibaya sanaaa...amwelewe tuu.
Nimekukubali!!!!
 

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huyo jamaa hadi hizi habari anaweza akazianika. Cha kufanya kama walivyosema wengine, asimuache ajitahidi kuongea nae na amweleze si vizuri kuanika mambo yao nje kwa watu wasiohusika! Kama jamaa ni muelewa atabadilika!
jamaa dully sykes.....wa hivyo kuacha mmh!
 

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cjui kama Mamushka nimekupata vizuri, kwamba ishu ya huyu kaka ni macfa,hana la kuongea zaidi kujicfia...cjui kama nimekuelewa.
nyamayao kwa kiasi flani umenielewa masifa kwakweli anayo hata mi nimeshamshuhudia maranyingi sana mkiwa kikundi mmekaa ataongea pia lazima aseme mi msomi bwana, inabore.
 

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Habari zenu wana JF, Napenda kuomba msaada wenu wa mawazo ili na mimi nipate ushauri wenye hekima. Nina rafikiangu alipata mchumba wakati yule kaka anamuomba dada huyo awe mchumba wake mungu akijalia wawe mke na mume dada alikataa akawa haamini kama nikweli, lakini baada ya huyo kaka kumfwatilia kwa muda mrefu dada akaona the guy was serious akakubali then akamuomba wakapime kaka akakubali wakakutwa salama, mahusiano yameanza mpaka ndugu pandezote mbili wakajua imebaki wazazi kutambulishwa, shida inakuja huyo kaka anaongea sana kupita kiasi yani wakikaa sehem yeye ndo aongee kupingwa hataki, chochote atakachokiona au kufanya lazima aseme, akinunua zawadi ya mchumba wake lazima rafiki wa dada huyo na wa kaka huyo watajua, kunawakati dada huyo aliumwa sana tumbo huyo kaka akamwambia ntakuijia home nikupele hosptl, dada alivopona anakutana na rafiki zake kaka huyo wanampa pole na kumwambia jamaa alitwambia uliumwa na ametumia pesa nyingi sana kukutibisha wakati haikua kweli, dada akanyamaza, akimtoa kwa dinner or lunch lazima dada huyo ataambiwa flani alisema juzu mlikua sehem kwa dinner huezi pata mwanaume anakupa good time hivo, anasahau kunamuda hakua vizuri dada huyo alimsaidia sana bila kulalamika pamoja nakua mwanaume anaumri mkubwa kuzidi msichana, akipata pesanyingi dada anamshauri nunua hata kiwanja jenga punguza kula life anamgombeza anamwambia mi ni msomi sana najua ninacho kifanya kwanza nipe muda ninamambo mengi, anapotea haonekani dada akaamua kuchukua makosa yeye na kumuomba msamaha ili tu abadilike ache kuongea kila kitu pia wapendane na wafanye maendeleo yao kwaajili ya future zao akasema sawa pia ntajirekebisha, baada ya siku dada anataniwa na rafiki wake na wamskaji nasikia ulimlilia jamaa unamuomba msamaha ili mpendane hiyo ika m put down sana huyo dada, na nimsichana anaejiheshi sana na anahofu ya mungu, kaka kaona mambo si mazuri na dada hana mpango tena au kapata matatizo anarudi kuomba msamaha sasa dada huyo kanishirikisha ni mshauri amtimue? Au amvumilie? Anauliza mtu wa hivyo anaweza kuwa mume mwema? Au nikukaribisha maumivu aibu na umaskini kuishi bila maendeleo, mimi nilimwambia aamuombe mungu ampe huyo kaka mtu mwingine ili yeye apewe na mungu mume mwema anaemstahili huyo hamfai na hawezi acha mdomo.wenye mawazo yenye kueleweka nisaidieni tumsaidie kijana mwenzetu jamani.
Dada,

Wanaochangia sana kuharibu mapenzi ya wapendanao ni watu wa nje. Chunga sana unapomshauri mwenzio kuhusu masuala ya mapenzi usiweke msimamo wako, jaribu ku-touch angles mbalimbali na mwisho wa siku mwache mwenyewe afanye maamuzi ya kunyoa au kusuka. Utakuja kuumbuka pale umemshauri aachane na huyo Domo Kaya wake then unawakuta wote pamoja wanafurahia malavi dave yao, siku hiyo utatamani ardhi ipasuke uingie wasikuone.

Ushauri wangu ni huu:
Kugundua source ya tatizo ni mwanzo mzuri wa kupata jawabu, sishauri akimbilie kwenye kuachana na jamaa kwani hizo tabia zinarekebishika. Kwa vile DomoKaya Wake amegundulika ni mtu wa kupenda misifa, basi mwana mama nae inatakiwa ampe complements za kutosha. Ikiwezekana amsifie vitu vya kijinga mpaka jamaa ajistukie kwamba mmmmh hapa kuna jambo mbona binti kabadilika.......taratibu jamaa ataanza kujirudi.
Anaweza pia kutumia marafiki wa huyo huyo mwanaume ( wenye busara lakini) kwa kuwauliza maswali kama vile; hivi ninyi mnaona rafiki yenu anafanya jambo jema kwa ku-expose mambo yetu ya ndani??? au Mbona jamaa huwa haji kunihadithia mambo mliyowafanyia wapenzi wenu?? yaani msg itamfikia tu huyo DomoKaya.

Asanteni!
 

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sasa uyo bnt amnasubiri nin?
masifa wanaboa bora ata ukae na m,anyigu ndan yakuume utapona lakin masifa boy dah ...mbaya sana
ajiandae kutolewa habar za ktandan pia uenda ashazmwaga sema ao marafiki tu wanamwonea aibu kumwambia
--wakioana apoa ajiandae ata akiacha ela ya matembele home ataenda kutangaza ma wife daily anakula baga za steers...AMKIMBIZE--
--no one z pafect lakin uyo mhh mtu si makosa aliyonayo ni manyanyaso zaid alyonayo
--afu hana heshma wala utu ..kitu cah hsptali nacho mpk ukatangaze....sasa nini maana ya bf?????ata km ni rafiki wa kawaida tu akikusaidia akatangaza utajiskiaje?????
AMKIMBZE
 

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Huyo jamaa hadi hizi habari anaweza akazianika. Cha kufanya kama walivyosema wengine, asimuache ajitahidi kuongea nae na amweleze si vizuri kuanika mambo yao nje kwa watu wasiohusika! Kama jamaa ni muelewa atabadilika!

ha ha ha ha ha ha ha kwamba hata hizi habari atazianika lol
katavi has just made my day!
 

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sasa uyo bnt amnasubiri nin?
masifa wanaboa bora ata ukae na m,anyigu ndan yakuume utapona lakin masifa boy dah ...mbaya sana
ajiandae kutolewa habar za ktandan pia uenda ashazmwaga sema ao marafiki tu wanamwonea aibu kumwambia
--wakioana apoa ajiandae ata akiacha ela ya matembele home ataenda kutangaza ma wife daily anakula baga za steers...AMKIMBIZE--
--no one z pafect lakin uyo mhh mtu si makosa aliyonayo ni manyanyaso zaid alyonayo
--afu hana heshma wala utu ..kitu cah hsptali nacho mpk ukatangaze....sasa nini maana ya bf?????ata km ni rafiki wa kawaida tu akikusaidia akatangaza utajiskiaje?????
AMKIMBZE

looh rose hapo umechukua hatua kali mno, huyo inawezekana ni utoto tu akikua atatulia huyo amvumilie tu
 

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