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- May 6, 2013
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Gossip frequently has a bad reputation. It is often
seen as vindictive and time wasting. Often though
it serves a valuable role. It helps people let off
steam, vent negative emotions and manage
stress. It is also a way of people reinforcing their
relationships with each other and increasing the
closeness of their group. People can use gossip
as a way of discussing their problems amongst
each other to help explore options and find
solutions.
Gossip provides different things for men and for
women. In the main, men and women are able to
appreciate that being clear as to what they want,
being more assertive and voicing those views is
crucial to a happy, fulfilled life. Any issues need to
be talked about, discussed and maybe even
gossiped about with friends first to help those
views become articulate and sound.
- Women often gossip as a way to process their
thoughts and deal with their emotions. Surveys
and studies have revealed that while men tend to
gossip about four main topics (work, sports, jokes
and women), women regularly discuss as many
as forty subjects that are often far removed from
small talk and frivolous matters. They will often
discuss a range of topics that affect them directly
and those can include house prices, childcare,
politics and pregnancy.
But gossip for women is also an important way to
solve problems and manage stress. They share
opinions and discuss options together and this
can provide a valuable counselling service to the
group as talking through feelings is an important
part of understanding what is happening and
exploring how to resolve matters. Women process
their feelings and emotions differently to men and
are better equipped to translate feelings into
language. This enables them to support each
other with empathy.
- Men like to gossip because it helps them feel
superior. They enjoy the sense of knowing
something that their colleagues do not know.
Often they will call gossiping networking, touching
base, and they regard it as important by
implication. By revealing something that only they
know to colleagues they are able to demonstrate
a sense of being in a position of power or
importance.
Often gossip for men provides a pat on the back,
a way of revealing to others how well they are
doing, or how successful they are. Also by
commenting on anothers behaviour they can
deliver a moral judgement that allows others to
appreciate how righteous they are. Gossiping for
men often has an air of competition about it, they
often discuss who is winning and losing, who has
hit hard times.
- Younger men are getting better about talking
about their feelings. Being strong and silent is
becoming an outdated attitude and as such,
viewed as self contained and distant. Men now
appreciate the importance of being in touch with
their feelings, needs and wants and also the
importance of communicating those to others.
They are also becoming more aware of the
importance of understanding how others are
feeling too. Raising their children to be able to
communicate effectively with others and have
good relationships is a powerful incentive for men
to learn to talk about personal matters more
openly.
- Gossiping about others provides a strong
connection through social interaction. People get
to know more about each other and through this,
strong bonds are able to be formed. Often the
person being talked about is known well by all the
people discussing them and they are usually
absent from the discussion.
- Gossip in a work environment is useful. It can
air problems and cause undercurrents, but it is
also unavoidable and allows people to vent
negative emotions and let off steam. Problems
can occur when people are asked to keep secrets.
Many people find that an impossible situation as
they are in possession of important knowledge
and often want to prove that they have that
knowledge. Gossip in these situations can be
irresistible.
Gossip can, on occasion, be nasty and vindictive,
but it can provide a valuable role in many areas
of communications and relationship building.
seen as vindictive and time wasting. Often though
it serves a valuable role. It helps people let off
steam, vent negative emotions and manage
stress. It is also a way of people reinforcing their
relationships with each other and increasing the
closeness of their group. People can use gossip
as a way of discussing their problems amongst
each other to help explore options and find
solutions.
Gossip provides different things for men and for
women. In the main, men and women are able to
appreciate that being clear as to what they want,
being more assertive and voicing those views is
crucial to a happy, fulfilled life. Any issues need to
be talked about, discussed and maybe even
gossiped about with friends first to help those
views become articulate and sound.
- Women often gossip as a way to process their
thoughts and deal with their emotions. Surveys
and studies have revealed that while men tend to
gossip about four main topics (work, sports, jokes
and women), women regularly discuss as many
as forty subjects that are often far removed from
small talk and frivolous matters. They will often
discuss a range of topics that affect them directly
and those can include house prices, childcare,
politics and pregnancy.
But gossip for women is also an important way to
solve problems and manage stress. They share
opinions and discuss options together and this
can provide a valuable counselling service to the
group as talking through feelings is an important
part of understanding what is happening and
exploring how to resolve matters. Women process
their feelings and emotions differently to men and
are better equipped to translate feelings into
language. This enables them to support each
other with empathy.
- Men like to gossip because it helps them feel
superior. They enjoy the sense of knowing
something that their colleagues do not know.
Often they will call gossiping networking, touching
base, and they regard it as important by
implication. By revealing something that only they
know to colleagues they are able to demonstrate
a sense of being in a position of power or
importance.
Often gossip for men provides a pat on the back,
a way of revealing to others how well they are
doing, or how successful they are. Also by
commenting on anothers behaviour they can
deliver a moral judgement that allows others to
appreciate how righteous they are. Gossiping for
men often has an air of competition about it, they
often discuss who is winning and losing, who has
hit hard times.
- Younger men are getting better about talking
about their feelings. Being strong and silent is
becoming an outdated attitude and as such,
viewed as self contained and distant. Men now
appreciate the importance of being in touch with
their feelings, needs and wants and also the
importance of communicating those to others.
They are also becoming more aware of the
importance of understanding how others are
feeling too. Raising their children to be able to
communicate effectively with others and have
good relationships is a powerful incentive for men
to learn to talk about personal matters more
openly.
- Gossiping about others provides a strong
connection through social interaction. People get
to know more about each other and through this,
strong bonds are able to be formed. Often the
person being talked about is known well by all the
people discussing them and they are usually
absent from the discussion.
- Gossip in a work environment is useful. It can
air problems and cause undercurrents, but it is
also unavoidable and allows people to vent
negative emotions and let off steam. Problems
can occur when people are asked to keep secrets.
Many people find that an impossible situation as
they are in possession of important knowledge
and often want to prove that they have that
knowledge. Gossip in these situations can be
irresistible.
Gossip can, on occasion, be nasty and vindictive,
but it can provide a valuable role in many areas
of communications and relationship building.
