I got infected in 2006 when I was 18 and just about to finish my high school

I got infected in 2006 when I was 18 and just about to finish my high school

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I got infected in 2006 when I was 18 and just about to finish my high school, looking forward to uni the following year... My then boyfriend who was way older than me and who probably knew infected me...

I could want to blame him for this, but I had a responsibility to make sure we either get tested before we have unprotected sex... But I didn't... And it cost me big time...

I could also try to justify the circumstances that led me to make such a decision to even date and older guy... Let alone give him my virginity... Before then I had only dated guys my age and we had not gone past the stolen kisses and occasional stolen moments of intimacy... Then I met this guy... Older guy... Exactly 24 years older than I am...

He seemed so mature and loving unlike the younger boys I had dated... He was even willing to help my sister move to his country to get a job... I think that's part of the reason why I thought he was worth giving my virginity... And boy was I wrong...

We did the deed a few times.... Now that I am older and wiser there wasn't really much to it... But to an 18year old experienced girl it was everything... Soon afterwards he became distant and I had a painful breakup... No reasons why and no closure... Just him distancing himself and that was it...

5 months later my high school results were out and I had passed so I could proceed to university to study law... I remember one day walking past the hiv counseling and testing center I decided to walk in and get tested... Not that I was ill.. Far from it... I just felt compeled to and I got the shock of my life... Imagine being 18 And hiv positive!

I went to my mom's work and cried my eyes out, we both did... Thereafter we called my late sister who had already migrated to the other country after this guy had helped her... We all cried and something prepared me and I immediately accepted my fate...

I would sometimes have moments of rage... I even questioned the existance of a God who would allow something like this to happen... I felt sorry for my mom who single handedly raised us after my dad passed on when I was 5...

This totally messed up whatever relationships I had thereafter.... How do you open up and tell someone... Talk about the stigma that surrounding this virus... I wondered if I would ever get married... Have kids... Lead a normal life.. Worse still my mom could not afford my university fees so I had to set aside dreams of ever becoming a lawyer and have to move to the other country where was sister was and look for menial jobs....

I eventually met my husband in 2011 who accepted me as I was although it hasn't been easy... My husband and both my kids are hiv negative.. All thanks to the ART treatment... My viral load is undetectable... I look after myself well and if I didn't tell you you'd never know... I take my meds religiously...

In the past I have had days when my husband would rub it in my face that I am high positive and he is not... The real circumstances that led me to this virus he doesn't know... It hurt so much at first... But now not as much and he has since stopped using that to hurt me... This year I'll be 31 and living positively for 13 years... I have also decided to go back to university and get that law degree
 
Mr Chloramphenicol said:
I got infected in 2006 when I was 18 and just about to finish my high school, looking forward to uni the following year... My then boyfriend who was way older than me and who probably knew infected me...

I could want to blame him for this, but I had a responsibility to make sure we either get tested before we have unprotected sex... But I didn't... And it cost me big time...

I could also try to justify the circumstances that led me to make such a decision to even date and older guy... Let alone give him my virginity... Before then I had only dated guys my age and we had not gone past the stolen kisses and occasional stolen moments of intimacy... Then I met this guy... Older guy... Exactly 24 years older than I am...

He seemed so mature and loving unlike the younger boys I had dated... He was even willing to help my sister move to his country to get a job... I think that's part of the reason why I thought he was worth giving my virginity... And boy was I wrong...

We did the deed a few times.... Now that I am older and wiser there wasn't really much to it... But to an 18year old experienced girl it was everything... Soon afterwards he became distant and I had a painful breakup... No reasons why and no closure... Just him distancing himself and that was it...

5 months later my high school results were out and I had passed so I could proceed to university to study law... I remember one day walking past the hiv counseling and testing center I decided to walk in and get tested... Not that I was ill.. Far from it... I just felt compeled to and I got the shock of my life... Imagine being 18 And hiv positive!

I went to my mom's work and cried my eyes out, we both did... Thereafter we called my late sister who had already migrated to the other country after this guy had helped her... We all cried and something prepared me and I immediately accepted my fate...

I would sometimes have moments of rage... I even questioned the existance of a God who would allow something like this to happen... I felt sorry for my mom who single handedly raised us after my dad passed on when I was 5...

This totally messed up whatever relationships I had thereafter.... How do you open up and tell someone... Talk about the stigma that surrounding this virus... I wondered if I would ever get married... Have kids... Lead a normal life.. Worse still my mom could not afford my university fees so I had to set aside dreams of ever becoming a lawyer and have to move to the other country where was sister was and look for menial jobs....

I eventually met my husband in 2011 who accepted me as I was although it hasn't been easy... My husband and both my kids are hiv negative.. All thanks to the ART treatment... My viral load is undetectable... I look after myself well and if I didn't tell you you'd never know... I take my meds religiously...

In the past I have had days when my husband would rub it in my face that I am high positive and he is not... The real circumstances that led me to this virus he doesn't know... It hurt so much at first... But now not as much and he has since stopped using that to hurt me... This year I'll be 31 and living positively for 13 years... I have also decided to go back to university and get that law degree
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Beloved Mr Chloramphenicol ,

Reading your story moved my heart deeply. It's a story of pain and loss, but also of strength and survival. And yet, above all, it's a call—a divine invitation—for something greater. Not just healing for your body or restoration of dreams, but healing for your soul and peace that only God can give through Jesus Christ.

You see, life has been unfair to you in many ways. You were young, taken advantage of, and left to carry a burden you did not fully understand. You suffered betrayal, shame, and disappointment—and your heart has cried out in questions, even asking, "Where was God in all this?"

But here’s the truth: God was there. Not approving of what happened, but longing for you to know Him even in the darkest valley. He saw every tear. He carried you when you could not stand. He preserved your life—not by chance, but because He loves you and has a purpose for you that goes far beyond this life.

Yet, my dear sister, surviving is not the end. Taking medication, building a family, and chasing dreams—these are good, but they are not enough if your soul is still far from the One who created you. You need to be born again. Jesus said, “What does it profit a man to gain the whole world, and yet lose his soul?” (Mark 8:36).

God is not only the One who heals bodies—He saves souls. He sent His only Son, Jesus Christ, to die on the cross for your sins and my sins, so that we might be forgiven, cleansed, and made new. No past is too dark. No sin is too deep. His love covers all.

You don’t need to carry guilt any longer. You don’t have to wonder whether you are lovable or worthy. Jesus already proved your worth when He stretched His arms on the cross and said, “It is finished.” (John 19:30). All you must do is believe in Him, turn from sin, and receive His gift of eternal life.

Today can be the beginning of a new chapter—not just of living positively, but of living eternally, in Christ. He is calling you, even now. Don't wait. Surrender your heart to Jesus. He will give you peace beyond understanding, joy that does not fade, and a hope that will never disappoint.

If you’re ready to receive Him, simply pray with a sincere heart:

“Oh God, I come to You just as I am—broken, hurting, and in need of You. I believe Jesus Christ died for my sins and rose again. Forgive me, cleanse me, and give me a new heart. Lord Jesus, I accept You as my Savior and Lord. Lead me from this day forward. In Jesus' Name, Amen.”

If you've prayed that, welcome to the family of God. Now find a Bible-believing church, begin reading God’s Word, and let Him continue to write a beautiful testimony of grace in your life.

Your story is not finished. In Christ, it is just beginning.

With love and truth,
Setfree
 
Life is full of twist & turns....you will make a good lawyer right there, you got that purpose already....your a strong one, may God protect you sis💪
 
Don't worry I'm positive too for 25 years
Accept yourself with no regret
As long you have born by a woman for a y reason you shall die
HIV it's not a death row
 
Mr Chloramphenicol said:
I got infected in 2006 when I was 18 and just about to finish my high school, looking forward to uni the following year... My then boyfriend who was way older than me and who probably knew infected me...

I could want to blame him for this, but I had a responsibility to make sure we either get tested before we have unprotected sex... But I didn't... And it cost me big time...

I could also try to justify the circumstances that led me to make such a decision to even date and older guy... Let alone give him my virginity... Before then I had only dated guys my age and we had not gone past the stolen kisses and occasional stolen moments of intimacy... Then I met this guy... Older guy... Exactly 24 years older than I am...

He seemed so mature and loving unlike the younger boys I had dated... He was even willing to help my sister move to his country to get a job... I think that's part of the reason why I thought he was worth giving my virginity... And boy was I wrong...

We did the deed a few times.... Now that I am older and wiser there wasn't really much to it... But to an 18year old experienced girl it was everything... Soon afterwards he became distant and I had a painful breakup... No reasons why and no closure... Just him distancing himself and that was it...

5 months later my high school results were out and I had passed so I could proceed to university to study law... I remember one day walking past the hiv counseling and testing center I decided to walk in and get tested... Not that I was ill.. Far from it... I just felt compeled to and I got the shock of my life... Imagine being 18 And hiv positive!

I went to my mom's work and cried my eyes out, we both did... Thereafter we called my late sister who had already migrated to the other country after this guy had helped her... We all cried and something prepared me and I immediately accepted my fate...

I would sometimes have moments of rage... I even questioned the existance of a God who would allow something like this to happen... I felt sorry for my mom who single handedly raised us after my dad passed on when I was 5...

This totally messed up whatever relationships I had thereafter.... How do you open up and tell someone... Talk about the stigma that surrounding this virus... I wondered if I would ever get married... Have kids... Lead a normal life.. Worse still my mom could not afford my university fees so I had to set aside dreams of ever becoming a lawyer and have to move to the other country where was sister was and look for menial jobs....

I eventually met my husband in 2011 who accepted me as I was although it hasn't been easy... My husband and both my kids are hiv negative.. All thanks to the ART treatment... My viral load is undetectable... I look after myself well and if I didn't tell you you'd never know... I take my meds religiously...

In the past I have had days when my husband would rub it in my face that I am high positive and he is not... The real circumstances that led me to this virus he doesn't know... It hurt so much at first... But now not as much and he has since stopped using that to hurt me... This year I'll be 31 and living positively for 13 years... I have also decided to go back to university and get that law degree
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