***QUESTION*** I have been talking to this girl for about a month now and I find myself falling in love with her everytime we see each other (every Tuesday Night). She recently told me that she didn't want to date me yet, because she would hurt me. She also said that if it is meant to happen it will, and that we shouldn't force it. My question is how do I get her to realize that it is meant, and that we should push it, and how do I prove to her she won't hurt me?? Sincerely, XXXXXX >>>MY COMMENTS: Well, I'd say that the FIRST thing you should do is grab a piece of paper and a pen, and walk into the bathroom right now. Turn on the light. On the piece of paper I want you to write the word "YSSUW" on it. I know, it doesn't make sense... but do it anyway. Now, hold the piece of paper in front of you, so it's facing the mirror... almost as if it's a CAPTION for YOUR FACE. Look at yourself in the mirror. Let that settle in for a minute. Now that you have a clear picture of what a WUSSY looks like, move on to a more advanced maneuver. Carefully take your right hand, and raise it up next to your face. Hold it about 12 inches away. Now firmly BITCH SLAP yourself with it. Repeat until the Wuss has been slapped out of you... Dude, duuuuuude. You are SOOO missing the point here. She does not want a guy who will prove to her that she won't hurt him. She doesn't want to be with you because you're acting like a WUSSBAG. Women aren't attracted to girly-men. Girly-men freak women out. Women RUN from girly-men. The answer is for you to start acting like a MAN... and stop acting like a GIRL. ***QUESTION***I was once a 27 year old virgin, I know, extreme! I had never been on a date, and I had one girlfriend when I was 17. And get this, I've been told by loads of women that I'm hot. The reason for this is my complete lack of confidence, I just had none. I would get eyed up in a bar, and want to go over, but I just didn't know what to say! If I was approached by a lady, I either froze up or shook so much that everyone in the room thought their cell phone was vibrating! I just got up 1 day decided to go on the Internet and learn! I really didn't think I would come across so much rubbish! But I signed up to all the free newsletters and I used techniques subtly with me female friends! Well as you've obviously guessed, your tips were the ticket! I bought the book and I was off... .. I am now 28, been using your techniques for about a year, year and a half and I am so happy! I have girls coming out of my ears! I am now dating 3 women (very hot women) and I have 4 that wont leave me alone! I am emailing you to say thank you, I would really appreciate an email back if you don't post it on a newsletter, just so I know you've read it, or I might send it again knowing me! Ok here's the question, I have heard similar questions so much on your newsletters but this is quite specific and a 'proper' answer would be great, rather than the default one! Right, the one girl that I want is the one playing hard to get. I've played it cool so far, I knew her from work but didn't know her very well, she's now left and I saw her in a club and 'told' her to give me her number! I rang her but her phone is always off, so I sent her a text message (sms) asking if she fancies going for a coffee during the week. She replied that she's busy all week and she said that she has just got back with her ex and if I want to get to know her as a friend is my decision. I REALLY like her, and she does not know this (because she doesn't need to know). I am still a novice at the game so could you tell me exactly what you would do and exactly what you would say? please... >>>MY COMMENTS: Well then... welcome to the world of being an adult man! Exciting. and I'm glad to hear that you're doing well with the ladies... FINALLY. Now, you want me to give you a "special" answer to your "special situation." Let's see... You are surrounded by gorgeous women... and they're chasing you around like you're some kind of rock star... but you don't want THOSE women... of course. Nooooo... You want the ONE who isn't interested in you... the one who just got back with her boyfriend. Before I give you a "special" answer, I'd like you to consider your own situation. Let's be honest, shall we? Right now you are OUT OF CONTROL. You are not into this girl because she's actually that "special." You're into her because she's NOT INTO YOU. If you'll admit this to yourself, and admit that you're basically out of control in this situation, then we can make some progress. So admit it. Say it out loud. "I'm out of control. I want this girl mostly because she doesn't want me... and it really fascinates the hell out of me... and I can't stop thinking about it." Just read that out loud. Read it again, just so you hear the words this time. Think about it for a minute. You UNDERSTAND THIS STUFF! And it STILL works on YOU. That's profound. And by the way, the more you try to "resist" the idea... and tell yourself that she's just a challenge and you only want her because she's "special," etc. the worse it will get. So what should you do? Hit the road. Say "Next." Move on. Walk. One of the best things you can do for YOURSELF is to get the number of an unusually attractive woman, then THROW IT AWAY. Why? Duh. Because it's a symbol. It's you saying to yourself "I don't need ANY woman. I can go out and meet women anytime. I'm happy as I am." That kind of thing will help you, big time. Now, if you REALLY REALLY REALLY don't want to take my advice... and you want to make yourself crazy some more, here's what to do: 1) Stop calling this girl for a couple of weeks. 2) Call her in two weeks and say "Hey, I have a question that I really need to ask you... call me". 3) When she calls, say "Yeah, I wanted to ask you why it's taking you so long to call and ask me out...." Tell her about some beautiful and intelligent woman you've been dating, and then tell her that you'd like to get together with her and hang out as friends. 4) When you do see her, JUST BE FRIENDS. Chill out, and give her space. 5) Take the time and energy to actually get to know her as a person. Find out if she is really the kind of girl that you'd like to be with. Make a list of all the things that would make a "perfect" woman. Then make a list of all the things that would be "deal-killers." Ask her all the questions when you meet her... and do it in a "friend" kind of way. I'd be willing to bet you a dollar in cash that she is NOT AT ALL the kind of girl you really want to be with. On the other hand, if she IS your dream girl, lean back and take your time. Bust on her. Tease her. Make fun. Tell her that you can't possibly understand how her boyfriend could stand her. Chances are that she won't be with this guy for long, and you will have now established that she's your dream girl... and you'll be ready to "pounce." Moral? Just get on with your life, man. You're talking like a Wuss who's trying to pretend that he's not. My Wuss-Dar is going off like 4th of July fireworks.