someone more than urself...or in other words dont love anyone to the point of loosing urself...because if u do u allow them to control u or take advantage of u. In any relationship we have to always love ourselves just a little more. When we were young and in love, we didn't know any better,but once we have been through the wringer and gained some experience and knowledge; we know better ;I believe in love and in loving my mate, but not to my detriment. I'm just as important as my mate, never let your mate be your God, because if you do; you will be taken advantaged of and misused and abused. We all know that God has our best interest at heart and would never do anything to hurt or harm us. The power of our love is in the hand of our lover or mate, but we're giving power they don't they desreve. All I'm saying is to love someone , but love thorugh sane actions not insane actions. If you want to be happy in love , then always put your self and what you want and need first. I'm not saying not to give your 50% in the relationship, all I'm saying is never give anyone total control of your life to anyone but God. If we give total control to man(human being) , our lives will be very unhappy and in constant turmoil. We should love , yes, control no. Try to make the right choices, in who we pick as our mate. If he's loving , respectable and know God , I think we have a great chance of a great future in love land. Hayo ni maoni yangu, nyie mnasemaje?