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60 ways to keep your husbands love

Discussion in 'Mahusiano, mapenzi, urafiki' started by kamusi, Oct 25, 2012.

  1. k

    kamusi JF-Expert Member

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    [FONT=&quot]60 Ways to Keep Your Husband’s Love


    1. [FONT=&quot]Behave like a female, i.e. all the tenderness of a female–a man doesn’t want a man for his [/FONT][FONT=&quot]wife[/FONT][FONT=&quot]![/FONT]
    2. [FONT=&quot]Dress pleasantly/attractively. If you are a home-maker, don’t stay in your sleeping suit all day.[/FONT]
    3. [FONT=&quot]Smell good![/FONT]
    4. [FONT=&quot]Don’t lay out all your problems on your husband as soon as he walks in. Give him a little mental break.[/FONT]
    5. [FONT=&quot]Don’t put too much pressure on him if you want something, use a polite language instead.[/FONT]
    6. [FONT=&quot]Stop nagging non-stop before Allah gives you something really to complain about.[/FONT]
    7. [FONT=&quot]Absolutely no talking about your spousal problems to anyone you meet, not even under the pretense of seeking help! If you think you want to solve legitimate marital issues, then go seek counseling with the right person who can give advice in either:[/FONT]
      1. [FONT=&quot]Mediate any injustice done so any wrong can be corrected and the couple can reunite in harmony, or[/FONT]
      2. [FONT=&quot]Amicable divorce[/FONT]
    8. [FONT=&quot]Be kind to your mother-in-law the same way you would like your husband to be kind to your own mother.[/FONT]
    9. [FONT=&quot]Learn all the rights and obligations of each other in Islam (or any other religion). Focus on fulfilling your obligations, not demanding your rights[/FONT]
    10. [FONT=&quot]Race to the door when he comes home, as if you were waiting for him. Smile and hug him.[/FONT]
    11. [FONT=&quot]Keep your house clean, at least to the level that he wants it.[/FONT]
    12. [FONT=&quot]Compliment him on the things you know he’s not so confident about (looks, intelligence, etc.) This will build his self-esteem.[/FONT]
    13. [FONT=&quot]Tell him he’s the best husband ever.[/FONT]
    14. [FONT=&quot]Call his family often.[/FONT]
    15. [FONT=&quot]Give him a simple task to do at home and then thank him when he does it. This will encourage him to do more.[/FONT]
    16. [FONT=&quot]When he’s talking about something boring, listen and nod your head. Even ask questions to make it seem like you’re interested.[/FONT]
    17. [FONT=&quot]Encourage him to do good deeds.[/FONT]
    18. [FONT=&quot]If he’s in a bad mood, give him some space. He’ll get over it, insha Allah.[/FONT]
    19. [FONT=&quot]Thank him sincerely for providing you with food and shelter. It’s a big deal.[/FONT]
    20. [FONT=&quot]If he’s angry with you and starts yelling, let him yell it out while you’re quiet. You will see your fight will end a lot faster. Then when he’s calm, you can tell him your side of the story and how you want him to change something.[/FONT]
    21. [FONT=&quot]When you’re mad at him, don’t say “YOU make me furious”, rather, “This action makes me upset”. Direct your anger to the action and circumstance rather than at him.[/FONT]
    22. [FONT=&quot]Remember that your husband has feelings, so take them into consideration.[/FONT]
    23. [FONT=&quot]Let him chill with his friends without guilt, especially if they’re good guys. Encourage him to go out, so he doesn’t feel “cooped up” at home.[/FONT]
    24. [FONT=&quot]If your husband is annoyed over a little thing you do (and you can control it), then stop doing it. Really.[/FONT]
    25. [FONT=&quot]Learn how to tell him what you expect without him having to guess all the time. Learn to communicate your feelings.[/FONT]
    26. [FONT=&quot]Don’t get mad over small things. It’s not worth it.[/FONT]
    27. [FONT=&quot]Make jokes. If you’re not naturally funny, go on the internet and read some jokes, and then tell them to him.[/FONT]
    28. [FONT=&quot]Tell him you’re the best wife ever and compliment yourself on certain things you know you’re good at.[/FONT]
    29. [FONT=&quot]Learn to make his favorite dish.[/FONT]
    30. [FONT=&quot]Don’t ever, EVER talk bad about him with friends or family unnecessarily. If they end up agreeing with you, you will see that it hits you back in the face because you get more depressed that you have a bad husband–and other people also think you have a bad husband.[/FONT]
    31. [FONT=&quot]Use your time wisely and get things accomplished. If you’re a home-maker, take online classes and get active in your community. This will make you happy and a secondary bonus is that it impresses your husband.[/FONT]
    32. [FONT=&quot]Do all of the above fee for the sake of Allah/Gods love and you will see Allah put [/FONT][FONT=&quot]barakah[/FONT][FONT=&quot] in everything you do.[/FONT]
    33. [FONT=&quot]Husband and wife should discuss and communicate with wisdom with each other to convey what they like and dislike of each other to do or not to do. Do NOT give commands or instructions like he’s your servant. “They are garment to each other” [Surah Baqarah, 2:187][/FONT]
    34. [FONT=&quot]Tell your husband you love him, many, many times[/FONT]
    35. [FONT=&quot]Have a race with your husband and let him win, even if you are much fitter and stronger than him.[/FONT]
    36. [FONT=&quot]Keep fit and take care of your health so you will remain a strong mother, and wife, inshaAllah you will not get FAT and frumpy.[/FONT]
    37. [FONT=&quot]Refine and cultivate good mannerisms i.e do not whine, don’t laugh or talk too loud in public.[/FONT]
    38. [FONT=&quot]Do not leave the house without his permission and certainly not without his knowledge.[/FONT]
    39. [FONT=&quot]Make sure all his clothes are clean and pressed so he is always looking fresh and crisp.[/FONT]
    40. [FONT=&quot]Don’t discuss important/controversial matters with him when he is tired or sleepy. Find right time for right discussion.[/FONT]
    41. [FONT=&quot]The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.[/FONT]
    42. [FONT=&quot]Always let him know that you appreciate him working and bringing home the “dough”. It makes it easier for him to go to work.[/FONT]
    43. [FONT=&quot]Make sure you ALWAYS have something for dinner.[/FONT]
    44. [FONT=&quot]Brush your hair, everyday.[/FONT]
    45. [FONT=&quot]If you are employed/working, don’t leave everything to the house maid. There are some important things you have to do on your own, for example making of your bedroom, husbands clothes and shoes, etc. if you fail to cook then don’t allow food to go to the table before crosschecking (you will be able to find minor errors like too/little salty and rescue the situation before welcoming your husband for it) [/FONT]
    46. [FONT=&quot]Surprise him with gifts. Even necessities, such as new shoes, can be gifts.[/FONT]
    47. [FONT=&quot]Listen to him. (Even when he talks about extremely boring things like football or computers.)[/FONT]
    48. [FONT=&quot]Try (hard as it might be) to take interest in his hobbies.[/FONT]
    49. [FONT=&quot]Try not to go shopping too much … and spend all his money.[/FONT]
    50. [FONT=&quot]Look attractive and be seductive towards him. Flirt with him.[/FONT]
    51. [FONT=&quot]Learn tricks and “techniques” to please your husband in intimacy. (Of course goes both ways.)[/FONT]
    52. [FONT=&quot]Prepare for special evenings with him with special dinner and exclusive time (no children permitted).[/FONT]
    53. [FONT=&quot]Take care of your skin, especially your face. The face is center of attraction.[/FONT]
    54. [FONT=&quot]If you not satisfied intimately, talk to him and tell him. Help him or provide resources, don’t wait until matters become worse.[/FONT]
    55. [FONT=&quot]Ask Allah to strengthen and preserve the bonds of compassion and love between the two of you, every day, every prayer. Ask him to protect that bond from [/FONT][FONT=&quot]Shaytaan[/FONT][FONT=&quot]. When a lesser devil destroys the love between spouses, he is the most beloved of Shaytaan. Nothing works like prayer, and love only exists between spouses where Allah instills it.[/FONT]
    56. [FONT=&quot]Don’t EVER compare your husbands to other husbands! For example don’t say, “well her husband doesn’t do that, why do you …” (thats a killer!)[/FONT]
    57. [FONT=&quot]Be happy with what you have because no one is perfect. If you want perfection, wait until you enter paradise together inshaAllah–and of course, vice versa![/FONT]
    58. [FONT=&quot]Strive for Allah’s love first and foremost! if all wives try to seek Allah’s love and pleasure, surely, they can keep their husbands love too. And remember–if Allah loves you, the [/FONT][FONT=&quot]angels[/FONT][FONT=&quot] will love you, and the entire creation will love you.[/FONT]
    59. [FONT=&quot]If you pack a lunch for your husband to take to work, from time to time sneak in a little love note or sweet poem. If he doesn’t take a lunch, leave the note somewhere else for him to find, like in his briefcase, or wallet or on the car steering-wheel[/FONT]
    60. [FONT=&quot]If you are working/employed try to balance your time and must have time for kids and time for husband.[/FONT]
    [FONT=&quot]May Allah/God preserve all of our marriages and help us understand and implement them in and with the best of manners, ameen! [/FONT]
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  2. Riwa

    Riwa JF-Expert Member

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    That won't make a 'good wife'....it will make a 'slave'...no man want a 'slave-like wife'!
  3. piper

    piper JF-Expert Member

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    Nice points if implemented in a two way traffic
  4. nyumba kubwa

    nyumba kubwa JF-Expert Member

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    Kama wanaume wanafaudu hivi...
  5. King'asti

    King'asti JF-Expert Member

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    Hajui intelligent men want challenging women. Beauty is not all it takes to make a wife.
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    Natalia JF-Expert Member

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    Don't be clingy ,Mwache awe yeye mambo ya kumbadilisha No ,Mwache awe narafiki Zake Kama ulivyomkuta nae .wivu unaua uhusiano haujengi.oh ulikuwa wapi Wewe sio mzazi wake ni mpenzi wake
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    Natalia JF-Expert Member

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    Most of African men are very controlling.kupigiwa magoti .
  8. Kongosho

    Kongosho JF-Expert Member

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    afu yeye anafanya nini??
  9. Sabry001

    Sabry001 JF-Expert Member

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    Sijazisoma hz tips bt 60 zote hzo za nini? Ths is complication of lyf kwa kweli
  10. Tausi Mzalendo

    Tausi Mzalendo JF-Expert Member

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