Imekaa vizuri sana thanks kwa useful post NN....and what if you fail the above, does it make you a bad person?First and foremost, you can conquer those thoughts through sheer willpower. In my opinion, this is an inborn trait, not an acquired one. Therefore, you either have it or you don't.
By working with what is already there (willpower), you can now engage the power of reason by being considerate to your other half. You put yourself in his or her shoes and think how you would feel if the tables were turned. If you end up not liking if it were you on the other end of the stick then you apply the golden rule. So trying to live by the Golden Rule is another way to overcome temptation(s).
Another thing is to set very high moral standards for yourself. I am not a religious person but I do agree with most of the so-called god's ten commandments. I think most of them are very good moral instructions that if you try your best to adhere to them then I have no doubt that you will live a life of unimpeachable integrity.
Last but not least, be true to to yourself. Don't try to be whom you are not. Just be you and 'do' you!
<br />Is he "tough in wallet"?
Just because you know someone doesnt mean you love them,
And just because you don't know people doesn't mean you cant love them,
You can still fall in love with a complete stranger in a heartbeat,
kama Mungu amepanga itokee kwako
So marafiki fungua moyo wako huwezi jua Mungu amepanga nini kwako
cause he may throw that pass to you, lakini pia kuwa Mwangalifu ....
jiulize rafiki, je moyo wako hujawahi kwenda mbio kwa mtu usiyemfahamu
Unaweza tu msikia sauti, unaweza mwona kwa picha, unaweza ona tu michango
yake hata humuhumu jf.....mhhhh yote haya ni juu ya nini??? ni juu ya mapenzi
Kwa kumalizia kumbuka kuvutiwa , kupenda , kutamani huwa hakuangalii kama
una mchumba, mke, mme au rafiki tu wa kawaida, huwa inatokea tu kwa mtu
yeyote
circumstances ya mhusiksasa nawauliza marafiki, ikikutokea huwa unachukuliaje????
week end njema
Imekaa vizuri sana thanks kwa useful post NN....and what if you fail the above, does it make you a bad person?
Nimefurahi kuwa umeipenda.
We human beings are not infallible. On occasions we do fail. But occasional failure shouldn't always define who we are. We should strive to improve ourselves, correct the wrongs we do, strengthen our weaknesses, and in the end be defined by the totality of the life we have lived rather than just a few and isolated incidents where we failed.
So to directly answer your question, no, failure doesn't necessarily make you a bad person. In fact failure can make you a better person especially if you use it as a teachable moment and learn from it. But of course it all depends on a lot things and it is not that cut-and-dry.
NN in your opinion does the above apply if you are both free??
And is it a failure if you indulge into feelings yet not do anything about those feelings??
In some areas, depending on the person, it can apply.
This depends on what kind of standards you have set for yourself and also your conscience. For what I know indulgence can lead to abandonment. If you indulge too much in something then consequently you may very well abandon yourself to whatever it is that you are indulged in.
Inawezekana shantel kumpenda mtu hujawahi muona ila nafikiri tunapaswa kucontrol hisia zetu hasa kama umependa wakati tayari upo katika mahusiano mengine.
Kama umependa mtu kwa sababu umemsikia tu au unamsoma hapa jeief nakushauri kuwa makini, sio wote wanayoyaongea ndio wanayoyatenda....... Anaweza kuonekana msafi kumbe ni mchafu. Watu wa mtandaoni hupenda kuonekana namna wangependa wawe (wengi huonekana sivyo walivyo). Wapo wanaopenda kuonekana ni wastaarabu/wakorofi kumbe sivyo. Wengine hupenda kuonekana ni watu wa dini, wengine kuonekana ni watoto/wakubwa, kuonekana wameoa/hawajaoa.
Kila mtu ana maisha yake ya kimtandao na yanaweza kuwa tofauti na maisha yake ya nje.
Control hisia zenu angalau mtakapoonana na kuendelea kufahamiana zaidi ndio mnaweza kupiga hatua nyingine mbele.
<br />Khaaaaa! <br />
naomba niishie hapa kwa sredi hii!
Inawezekana shantel kumpenda mtu hujawahi muona ila nafikiri tunapaswa kucontrol hisia zetu hasa kama umependa wakati tayari upo katika mahusiano mengine. Kama umependa mtu kwa sababu umemsikia tu au unamsoma hapa jeief nakushauri kuwa makini, sio wote wanayoyaongea ndio wanayoyatenda....... Anaweza kuonekana msafi kumbe ni mchafu. Watu wa mtandaoni hupenda kuonekana namna wangependa wawe (wengi huonekana sivyo walivyo). Wapo wanaopenda kuonekana ni wastaarabu/wakorofi kumbe sivyo. Wengine hupenda kuonekana ni watu wa dini, wengine kuonekana ni watoto/wakubwa, kuonekana wameoa/hawajaoa.
Kila mtu ana maisha yake ya kimtandao na yanaweza kuwa tofauti na maisha yake ya nje.
Control hisia zenu angalau mtakapoonana na kuendelea kufahamiana zaidi ndio mnaweza kupiga hatua nyingine mbele.
Nilikuta mtu ameandika you tube 'being married does not mean that I can't see that this guy is handsome; am happily married but I still see Van Vicker very attractive' Nilicheka peke yangu
Ni kweli huwa inatokea kuvutiwa na opposite sex hata kama una commitment. Lakini kama uko makini upaswi kuendekeza hisia; you need to be in cotroll of your feelings. Mimi mshipa wa kupenda mtu mwingine ulishakatika siku nyingi though I admit that I can still see handsome/attractive guys and thank God for his work. Ila mawazo ya uzinzi nope.
And I also help those who are attracted to me not to make their advances kwa ku keep away from them.
Hapo in red... kuna members weengi saana JF nasikia wameumizwa.. mtu mpaka anaona JF ni chungu tena.... Ni bora hata wale wanakutana kama friends bila nia ya kutongozana (thou ni rare), alafu ikaenda na flow....
Nilikuta mtu ameandika you tube 'being married does not mean that I can't see that this guy is handsome; am happily married but I still see Van Vicker very attractive' Nilicheka peke yangu
Ni kweli huwa inatokea kuvutiwa na opposite sex hata kama una commitment. Lakini kama uko makini upaswi kuendekeza hisia; you need to be in cotroll of your feelings. Mimi mshipa wa kupenda mtu mwingine ulishakatika siku nyingi though I admit that I can still see handsome/attractive guys and thank God for his work. Ila mawazo ya uzinzi nope.
And I also help those who are attracted to me not to make their advances kwa ku keep away from them.
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say something lawyer.
Tunakuskiliza.
<br />hata kama ningekuwa single the last place to search for a partner ni kwenye mtandao kama hapa JF. Uwezekano wa kulamba galasha ni mkubwa sana.