Unataka kuboresha mahusiano? Soma hapa.....it is worth it!

kbm said:
please kaunga could you explain it in swahili or franch.
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Kiufupi, huyo mkaka James ni kama walivyo wanaume wengi au ndoa nyingi. Mahusiano na mkewe ni ya kawaida sana kiasi kwamba hangojei muda wa kurudi nyumbani kwa hamasa.

Ijumaa anapenda kujichanganya na washkaji club, huku Mke akiwa nyumbani na mishughuli ya nyumbani.

Akiwa kazini akakutana na mdada ambaye alimkubali si kwa uzuri wake tu, bali kwa jinsi alivyo charming n.k.
So ikatokea akakutana naye usiku club, Yule dada hakuacha uchangamfu wake na akamuomba James wacheze mziki.
Baadaye mumewe bidada akajumuika nao, James aiashtuka sana kwani alifikiri huyo dada ni single (na possibly muwindaji). James akayafurahia maisha wanayoishi huyo dada na mumewe. Akatafakari maisha anayoishi yeye na mkewe, akakumbuka walivyokuwa wachumba; ndipo akaondoka kurudi nyumbani akiwa ameapa kuyabadilisha mahusiano yake.

Yule dada (grace) na mumewe dan wamejipangia siku yao peke yao ambapo wanafurahia maisha kana kwamba ni wapenzi tu.

Mtambuzi nimejaribu, ukizingatia natumia simu na niko kwenye gari. LOL
 
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gfsonwin said:
jamani nimefurah sana kwa hii post.
ndo maana nasema hapana kumzoea mwenzi wao bana wala ustake akuzoee kila siku mfanye akuone mpya...........
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Nakubaliana na wewe, gfsonwin. Lkn inasikitisha sana jinsi gani wachache tu ndio wanaoweka hiyo kitu kwenye practice.

Mtu akishaolewa au kuoa basi baadhi ya vitu wanaacha kufanya eti kisa ni mke wa mtu watu watamuonaje. As long as si dhambi n you do it with ur husband, endelea kuyafanya yote mliokuwa mnayafanya mlivyokuwa wachumba.
 
Nimeipenda sana.

Ni kweli kuna umuhimu kujifanyia self evaluation kuliko kuwa tuna blame wenzetu tu.

Hakuna raha kama ku feel loved...na uki feel otherwise hata kama ni by wrong perception ni hatari...ndio inapelekea cheating kwa wana ndoa.

Tukubali tukatae it feels good kama unaweza ku show love to your partner in public na si chumbani tu.

najua kuna watakao nipiga mawe. Lol.

Ila mimi naamini kuna tofauti.Si mpaka watu waanze kujiuliza hivi hawa wana do kweli wakiwa room kwao; mbona wako distant sana?
 
Very nice lecture bro,nimejifunza kitu kuwa mahusiano ni kibarua cha kudumu tena cha kukifanyia kazi si kwanza it just come naturary
Kaunga said:
"My name is James. I’m a typical Tanzanian guy and I cherish my Fridays a lot; I get to hang out with the sickest guys every Friday night and secondly, It’s another escape from my nagging and boring wife. I get confused sometimes on whether she’s my mother or my wife. Don’t get it twisted; I love her pieces. It just gets complicated; like I wish we never got married…marriage has turned her into something that doesn’t amuse me. I wish she was still the adventurous, charming, high spirited lady I dated for five years.

A lot of people say its unethical for married guys to be found in a club, but I wish everyone won’t be too quick to judge and understand that people look for fun to run away from their problems; they just want to breathe, like me.

I forgot to say that I work in Diamond Trust Bank, I love my job and my job loves me, maybe its because I’m the senior banking officer. Lol. This particular morning, a lady breezed into my office. My heart raced faster because I had not sighted anything this beautiful in a long while. She wasn’t the typical slender Barbie, in fact, she was a bit chubby but her smile, cuteness and…I was tripped.

“Hi Good morning! Your ATM has swallowed my card!” She laughed, unlike a typical customer that would ram you.

I just tried to form Boss laughter…

“Good morning, You know what? I’d personally make sure they get it out for you, but not today. Can you wait till Monday?” I smiled

“OK, can I just drop my number so you could call me up or just text when its ready so I don’t come twice? Please? My name is Grace” She blinked her eyes in a funny way.
“Sure”Ismiled We exchanged numbers. What a lucky Friday!

So it was 10:00pm and I headed to the club…as usual my friends were chilling for me. My wife had called a couple of times, I just ignored it. She knows I’m never home Friday nights.

“Look at you!” I heard someone say. I raised my head and it was the ATM lady-Grace.

“Wow, look at you too!” I was surprised to see her but I was happy I didn’t have to wait till Monday to see her again.

“Happy Friday!” She screamed because of the noise, “Wanna dance?”

I didn’t even have the chance to answer, she already pulled me to dance floor. I really suck at dancing but she helped me; she was a great dancer! I had fun! At some point we decided to go to a private area and we talked, ranging from work, business to personal life. I tried to hide my ring as much as possible, I certainly didn’t want this to end now.

“You are a really wonderful lady. You are so interesting…any guy would want to be with you all day” I said.

“I wasn’t always like this but I have learned the hard way that life is just too short to be sad” she sang

Then her phone rang…

“Hey baby! Yeah I’m at the private lounge, I’d like you to meet someone…alright boo” she talked excitedly as usual.

I was in shock until this tall handsome man walks up to her and kisses her.

“You were late. Meet James; I met him this morning, he’s helping with your ATM I told you got swallowed and James this is my B to the O-O,” she laughed “Meet my husband Dan, we only come here to dance every fortnight Friday; away from work, stress and kids.”

“Wow, a pleasure” I managed to shake him

Then she stood now excitedly holding her husband’s arms.

“Why don’t we invite James for Isabella’s 9th birthday tomorrow?” Her husband said

They have kids too? How long have they been married and they look like a couple just dating!

“Silly me, please come for my second daughter’s 9th tomorrow. It would be an honor” She brought out an I.V from her purse.

I began to feel so ashamed of myself…this was another guy like me, getting it right with one woman.

I collected the I.V and promised to be there.

“See you tomorrow! Have you had something to eat Dan?” she talked and dragged her husband along.

They left and I kept staring at the thin air like I had seen a ghost. They come just to dance together every fortnight Fridays? Why didn’t I think of that! Tunda loves to dance…she also likes long walks, she loves to talk…she loves jazz music, there’s this vivid picture I have of me putting her hand on my chest when we danced at a jazz club on our first year anniversary…I found myself typing all the things I knew Tunda loved to do on my Ipad and I realized I had denied her of all…I had made her the old woman she acts.

What the hell was I doing here! I didn’t even tell my friends goodbye, I walked out of the club into my Jaguar. Tunda’s call came through and I picked at first ring.

“Tunda?” My heart raced

“I know you are not coming home…”

“I am, stay up so we can gist. Been a while” I decided to do everything on that list and to even add many more for the rest of my lifetime with her.

“Are you alright?” She was shocked I suppose

“And I’d like us to go for a birthday party tomorrow. I want you to meet this amazing couple”

“You sound different James”

“Maybe I’m different”

“Don’t say it! don’t say it! when you come we will gist very well” she laughed

She laughed!!! In just that laughter that I hadn’t heard in a while, she sounded like the lady I married six years ago…

Dear reader,

I wrote this natural piece just to remind us that creating memorable moments with our partner matters. Do you know that little things are the sweetest things? Just creating time to gist and laugh with your partner, having a day in the week that’s exclusively for you both-No friends or kids allowed.

Lady, when last have you told your partner he is so darn hot? Guy! When last have you told your lady she is the sweetest thing? When last have you whispered ‘Thank you’? When last have you been quick to say ‘I’m sorry’?

Do you even have a clue on what your partner loves to do?

When you ignore little things, they are the little pieces of rocks that build up to become a mountain you can’t easily break down as a married couple. Make each other happy.

Pay attention to little things, believe that they work and experience new bliss and enjoy your partner!"

Authored by ..... Couples-In-Christ admin.
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Kweli bana...kuna madingi wakiingia ndani watoto wanakimbia kulala badala ya kukimbia kumpokea. Mke pa kukimbilia hana analo hilo.

Yani hapo hata watoto wanajiuliza huyu baba ulimuokota wapi. Lol.

Nashukuru mume wangu watoto mara nyingi wanakomaa mpaka arudi...hata ukiwa force kulala wanasema tunamsubiri baba kwanja.

Tena wengi wa hivyo wanaona ka sifa kuogopwa. Eti kuwa baba lazima uogopwe.

Wanadhani kuogopwa ndio kuheshimika.


The Boss said:
wapo watoto husema hivyo lol
wakiona wazazi wengine na watoto wao lol
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Kaunga asante sana. Hivi ndivyo vicheni pati tunataka kusikia humu. Maana hizi ndoa zetu za kuzoeana halafu mambo yanakuwa magumu si mchezo. Yaani mnaona tu baada ya muda hakuna tena yale maua, vikadi vya mapenzi, vibarua vile vya kupendana, zile darling zinaisha unabaki tu kuitwa eti baba au mama fulani!!! Khaa!!
 
If you dont mind...unadhani ni kwa nini walikwambia hivyo?...maana nikiangalia utoto wangu naona kama ni ngumu mtoto kumwambia mama mtu mzima kitu kama hicho; ila ni rahisi kumwambia mtoto mwenzio 'natamani mama yako angekuwa mama yangu'. Au ni ndugu zako wa karibu, ndio maana mkawa close mpaka wakaweza kufunguka na kusema maneno mazito hayo?

Walipenda upole?

Walipenda u close na wanao?
Walipenda swagg? (si unajua watoto tena wanaweza kukupenda kwa mavazi tu. Lol)

Au haukuwauliza kilichowavutia?


Kaunga said:
Mimi nilishaambiwa na watoto, natamani ungekuwa mama yangu kama mara 3 hivi!
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