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Kwa uzoefu wangu mimi, ukihisi he is too good to be yours/true ujue kuna walakini hapo, wengi wanakuwa wanafiki na badae unakuja kujua ukweli wake inakuwa too late. embu soma hii kwanza dear, halafu uone kama kuna lolote litakalo kusaidia;
When a date acts uninterested in anything we have to say it's usually a clear indication they are not that into us. If the reverse occurs, they pay too much attention, latch on to every word we say, usually means there's a problem.
Overly attentive individuals are often attention starved. Whether it's been simple bad luck in prior relationships, or something more sinister such as childhood neglect, the overly attentive are usually very needy emotionally and attach themselves to you very quickly.
Fast attachment
Relationships need to develop and evolve over time. Finding yourself on a first, second or even third date with someone who keeps using the word 'we' or starts making plans for the two of you, is on a fast attachment cycle. Even if the plans are minor like expecting to go for coffee or a walk or expecting you to give up prior appointments and commitments within a short span of time, means you have a fast attacher, and a big potential problem on your hand.
These types of people often don't take no well for an answer. Desperation is never attractive, and the more you pull away, the harder they try to attach. Often these types seem so perfect in other respects, but do yourself a favor and run!
They understand you too well
We all want someone who understands us, but someone who appears to instantly connect and 'get us', is often no more than a chameleon. Desperate to be loved themselves, chameleon's mirror our own personalities while masking their own. The biggest mistake we can make is thinking they are instant soul mates, when usually we could in fact be anyone who fulfills their warped sense of who we should and could be for a relationship.
It's all about you
Even worse than the overly attentive date, is the date who reveals little or no information about themselves, but disguises it all as your-the-one-so-what-does-my-past-matter. Women are particularly vulnerable to this type of man, and mistakenly think that they must be too good to be true because they appreciate us so much so fast. Often referred to in psychological circles as "Pedestaling", these types of men don't want to reveal past relationship mistakes as they usually involve something major.
Anything or anyone that seems to good to be true typically is. No one is, or should try and be perfect. Encountering someone on a date who seems a little too perfect is usually a good sign that we should run hard and fast in the other direction!
When a date acts uninterested in anything we have to say it's usually a clear indication they are not that into us. If the reverse occurs, they pay too much attention, latch on to every word we say, usually means there's a problem.
Overly attentive individuals are often attention starved. Whether it's been simple bad luck in prior relationships, or something more sinister such as childhood neglect, the overly attentive are usually very needy emotionally and attach themselves to you very quickly.
Fast attachment
Relationships need to develop and evolve over time. Finding yourself on a first, second or even third date with someone who keeps using the word 'we' or starts making plans for the two of you, is on a fast attachment cycle. Even if the plans are minor like expecting to go for coffee or a walk or expecting you to give up prior appointments and commitments within a short span of time, means you have a fast attacher, and a big potential problem on your hand.
These types of people often don't take no well for an answer. Desperation is never attractive, and the more you pull away, the harder they try to attach. Often these types seem so perfect in other respects, but do yourself a favor and run!
They understand you too well
We all want someone who understands us, but someone who appears to instantly connect and 'get us', is often no more than a chameleon. Desperate to be loved themselves, chameleon's mirror our own personalities while masking their own. The biggest mistake we can make is thinking they are instant soul mates, when usually we could in fact be anyone who fulfills their warped sense of who we should and could be for a relationship.
It's all about you
Even worse than the overly attentive date, is the date who reveals little or no information about themselves, but disguises it all as your-the-one-so-what-does-my-past-matter. Women are particularly vulnerable to this type of man, and mistakenly think that they must be too good to be true because they appreciate us so much so fast. Often referred to in psychological circles as "Pedestaling", these types of men don't want to reveal past relationship mistakes as they usually involve something major.
Anything or anyone that seems to good to be true typically is. No one is, or should try and be perfect. Encountering someone on a date who seems a little too perfect is usually a good sign that we should run hard and fast in the other direction!