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- Mar 31, 2018
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As husbands, sometimes we need encouragement in our quest to step up and be the men God has called us to be. Sometimes we need information, and sometimes we need training. Sometimes we need a mentor—someone who will show us how to be godly men, how to love our wives. And sometimes we need to know what we should stop doing. Sometimes we may even need someone to say, “Hey, stop acting like a jerk!”,
Here’s a list of things a husband shouldn’t do. Of course, not all of these items apply to all men. But perhaps something here will hit home for you.1. If your wife is a stay-at-home mom, stop treating her like her work during the day is somehow less strenuous or less important than yours.
2. Stop coming home from work and plopping in front of the television for the night, leaving your wife to bear the responsibility for everything else going on in the home.
3. Stop working so much. Find a healthy balance between work and family. Your wife would rather have you than a big house, nice car, etc.
4. Stop being passive when it comes to disciplining and training your kids.
5.Stop being a closed book. Open up to your wife. Don’t be afraid to show emotion.
6.Stop allowing your role as leader in the home to be an excuse for selfish behavior. Don’t forget that a true leader also serves.
7.Stop dishonoring your wife by criticizing her in front of your children or in public.
8.Stop using your size and strength and anger to intimidate your wife and children.
9.Stop using the word “divorce” in your vocabulary.
10. Don’t shy away from difficult conversations with your wife.
11. Don’t purchase any major item without first discussing it with your wife.
12. Don’t allow your eyes to linger on beautiful women who pass by. You can’t help the first look; it’s that second, longer look that you need to avoid. (And if your wife is with you, don’t lie to her and say you didn’t see that woman. Just admit you looked.)
13. Stop thinking, I know more than my wife. You and your wife will each have more knowledge than the other in certain areas.
14. Don’t assume you know what your wife is thinking. Ask her how she is feeling and why.
15. When your wife tells you about a problem she’s having, don’t immediately try to solve it. She may just need you to listen to her.
16. Stop the sarcasm. You may be trying to sound funny, but you’re only cutting down your wife.
17. Stop treating your wife like a child. Remember that God has given her a wealth of experience and information that you need.
18.Stop pointing out her mistakes and asking for explanations. Doing this thing can make her feel like a failure.
19.Stop feeding your sexual desires from any source other than your wife.
20.Don’t be alone with any woman who is not your wife or related to you.
21. Stop deceiving your wife about your finances.
22. Don’t look up old girlfriends on Facebook.
23.Don’t make fun of your wife to other guys.
24. Stop expecting your wife to do all the housework.
25.Stop saying, “Honey … can you get the kids to be quiet?” when the kids are being monsters. Get up and go quiet them down yourself. Sometimes we need to know what not to do.
