GKM
JF-Expert Member
- Dec 5, 2012
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Hi guys,
A long time ago, it was assumed that if a child lived to see age four, he or she would survive. The biological parents were then free to move on to new sexual adventures, and the child would be passed on to the group, at which time the it takes a village mentality would kick in.
This dates back hundreds of years to a time when men and women were equal on many different levels economically, socially and sexually. Some gathered, some hunted, but theres one thing they all did, rather frequently, too they had sex. They had to! How else could the human race survive and thrive? The only way to secure the future was to have lots and lots of sex, with lots and lots of different partners.
And, boy did they ever! Were all here, so the system must have worked.
While all this hanky-panky was going , different hormones kicked in with each new sexual experience to increase the pleasure, creating a feeling of passion and euphoria, causing everyone to want more. Clearly, the human body was designed to be this highly efficient hunting, gathering, sexual, and procreating machine.
So, why am I telling you this?
To try to make some sense out of why people have affairs. Why so many men and women risk everything families, jobs, lives for a night or two (or more) of passion and fun.
Very often, men and women have affairs because they have lost something or someone in the previous year or two. Perhaps someone close to them died, or left home, or they lost a job. Even more profound, Esther has found that women especially can feel as though theyve lost a part of themselves, and by having an affair, they can reclaim it. For both men and women, it can be neatly tied up in a big bow and called midlife crisis. Interestingly enough, people usually dont have affairs because they no longer love their partners.
So, were presented with a mixed bag of biological and psychological tendencies to cheat. None of us, according to both experts, are immune.
What to do?
Unless youre in a relationship that is detrimental to your physical, emotional, spiritual, and psychological well being, the recommendation is to fight against these tendencies with every ounce of will power you have. Lovingly stay faithful to your spouse.
A long time ago, it was assumed that if a child lived to see age four, he or she would survive. The biological parents were then free to move on to new sexual adventures, and the child would be passed on to the group, at which time the it takes a village mentality would kick in.
This dates back hundreds of years to a time when men and women were equal on many different levels economically, socially and sexually. Some gathered, some hunted, but theres one thing they all did, rather frequently, too they had sex. They had to! How else could the human race survive and thrive? The only way to secure the future was to have lots and lots of sex, with lots and lots of different partners.
And, boy did they ever! Were all here, so the system must have worked.
While all this hanky-panky was going , different hormones kicked in with each new sexual experience to increase the pleasure, creating a feeling of passion and euphoria, causing everyone to want more. Clearly, the human body was designed to be this highly efficient hunting, gathering, sexual, and procreating machine.
So, why am I telling you this?
To try to make some sense out of why people have affairs. Why so many men and women risk everything families, jobs, lives for a night or two (or more) of passion and fun.
Very often, men and women have affairs because they have lost something or someone in the previous year or two. Perhaps someone close to them died, or left home, or they lost a job. Even more profound, Esther has found that women especially can feel as though theyve lost a part of themselves, and by having an affair, they can reclaim it. For both men and women, it can be neatly tied up in a big bow and called midlife crisis. Interestingly enough, people usually dont have affairs because they no longer love their partners.
So, were presented with a mixed bag of biological and psychological tendencies to cheat. None of us, according to both experts, are immune.
What to do?
Unless youre in a relationship that is detrimental to your physical, emotional, spiritual, and psychological well being, the recommendation is to fight against these tendencies with every ounce of will power you have. Lovingly stay faithful to your spouse.
