[FONT="]Someni hii:[/FONT] [FONT="] [/FONT] [FONT="] "I don't know why...there's just no spark left, you don't pay enough attention to me and our sex life and I guess I don't either!"[/FONT] [FONT="][FONT="][/FONT][/FONT] [FONT="]This is a common sexless marriage situation and it can be caused by a variety of things including emotional scars, bad experiences, boredom, laziness, etc. In this situation, there is deep cause for concern from both parties because both parties aren't happy sexually but don't really know why it ended up this way. Both parties have just "let things go" and didn't place a high enough priority on their sex life with their spouse, which in and of itself is very concerning.[/FONT] [FONT="][FONT="][/FONT][/FONT] [FONT="]Why would either or both parties let things get this way when love making is so important?[/FONT] [FONT="] [/FONT] [FONT="]Mshauri anasema hivi:[/FONT] [FONT="]If you've lost interest in your spouse from a sexual point of view, you need to define exactly why that occurred. If you don't know right off hand, you need to think back to a time when you did 'have the spark' and recall what you both were doing, feeling, thinking, etc. From that point, identify what has changed, why it has changed, and what you can do about it. When you get that portion figured out, you may well on your way to taking the first step of recovering from your sexless marriage. Remember, if you [FONT="]really want to rekindle your relationship, you can.[/FONT][/FONT] [FONT="] [/FONT] [FONT="][FONT="][/FONT][/FONT] Jamani, mnajua kuwa zipo ndoa nyingi "sexless" - no tendo la ndoa kwa sababu mbalimbali? Wahusika wanaweza kujisikia upweke, kuchanganyikiwa, kukasirika, na kuwa na chuki isiyo kifani.Hadi sasa, hii ishu haiongelewi sana lakini ipo na watu hawajiskii huru kuijadili. Hali hii ikikupata utaendelea kukaa unasononeka au utafanyaje?