Mwalupale
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Mature love facts
1. Mature love knows that real "love does not happen over-night. (at least few months)
2. It is not based on feelings alone, but on a decision to love.
3. Mature love comes with responsibility; to have both yourself and the other know what these responsibilities are i.e what happens if she/i get pregnant?
4. Mature love is about having realistic expectations of the other, they are not there to keep you happy all the time.
5. Mature love makes room for the other to grow and to have different interests from your own, knowing that keeping someone in bondage will not make the other love you more, however, having the strength to let the other have some freedom will inevitably help the relationship grow.
6. Mature love person knows that even today was a horrible day, tomorrow can be better, the bad patches are just as beneficial to the relationship as good times, as matter of fact, they can often be means to growth.
7. Mature love person knows that they often learn more about each other during bad times, and each rough spot is an opportunity to work through to another stepping stone.
8. A mature love person understands the importance of forgiveness and knowing that being right has no business in a loving relationship.
9. A mature love person has respect for the other, does not use hurtful words when they dont understand the other. They say themselves ooh! May be i got it wrong, i better ask more questions about this
10. Couples in mature love relationships do not scream at one another, but they talk and listen in a respectful attitude, they walk away for a while if the topic gets too hot, and comes back to finish the discussion when they can talk quietly and respectfully.
11. Mature love means taking responsibility for ones own behaviour and stop making excuses.
Immature love facts
1. It is based on emotion only.
2. It is based on the idea that i will do anything for that person, even if my safety is in danger, even if it negatively endangers my self respect, anything, just to have him/her notice me or love me back
3. It is based on looks and not so much on personality and/or integrity
4. It often based on the need to be loved and cared for.
5. It is based on ones self-esteem, being fulfilled by reciprocation.
6. It is based on what is going on today, who they see today, they cannot comprehend that the person may not be who they think are and they will change on time, so will the immature person.
7. The immature person can not wait for their love to be reciprocated, they need and want it now, much like a hungry new born baby.
8. They believe that somehow the other person knows them so deeply, they can read each others minds, they are hurt, angry, when the other person gets wrong
9. Immature person often thinks she/he is in love because they had an amazing sexual encounter.
10. Immature person does not want to think that intercourse does not equal love
11. Immature person does not want to think that love does not mean getting their own way all the time, it is not based on manipulation; it is not a fantasy too.
Thank you for taking time to read!!
I welcome any reasonable arguments or comments.
1. Mature love knows that real "love does not happen over-night. (at least few months)
2. It is not based on feelings alone, but on a decision to love.
3. Mature love comes with responsibility; to have both yourself and the other know what these responsibilities are i.e what happens if she/i get pregnant?
4. Mature love is about having realistic expectations of the other, they are not there to keep you happy all the time.
5. Mature love makes room for the other to grow and to have different interests from your own, knowing that keeping someone in bondage will not make the other love you more, however, having the strength to let the other have some freedom will inevitably help the relationship grow.
6. Mature love person knows that even today was a horrible day, tomorrow can be better, the bad patches are just as beneficial to the relationship as good times, as matter of fact, they can often be means to growth.
7. Mature love person knows that they often learn more about each other during bad times, and each rough spot is an opportunity to work through to another stepping stone.
8. A mature love person understands the importance of forgiveness and knowing that being right has no business in a loving relationship.
9. A mature love person has respect for the other, does not use hurtful words when they dont understand the other. They say themselves ooh! May be i got it wrong, i better ask more questions about this
10. Couples in mature love relationships do not scream at one another, but they talk and listen in a respectful attitude, they walk away for a while if the topic gets too hot, and comes back to finish the discussion when they can talk quietly and respectfully.
11. Mature love means taking responsibility for ones own behaviour and stop making excuses.
Immature love facts
1. It is based on emotion only.
2. It is based on the idea that i will do anything for that person, even if my safety is in danger, even if it negatively endangers my self respect, anything, just to have him/her notice me or love me back
3. It is based on looks and not so much on personality and/or integrity
4. It often based on the need to be loved and cared for.
5. It is based on ones self-esteem, being fulfilled by reciprocation.
6. It is based on what is going on today, who they see today, they cannot comprehend that the person may not be who they think are and they will change on time, so will the immature person.
7. The immature person can not wait for their love to be reciprocated, they need and want it now, much like a hungry new born baby.
8. They believe that somehow the other person knows them so deeply, they can read each others minds, they are hurt, angry, when the other person gets wrong
9. Immature person often thinks she/he is in love because they had an amazing sexual encounter.
10. Immature person does not want to think that intercourse does not equal love
11. Immature person does not want to think that love does not mean getting their own way all the time, it is not based on manipulation; it is not a fantasy too.
Thank you for taking time to read!!
I welcome any reasonable arguments or comments.
