Read on to find out the 50 secrets to a happy marriage

[Baby M]

1. Trusting each other.

2. Same sense of humour.

3. Always being honest with each other.

4. Remember birthdays and anniversaries.

5. Accepting each other's faults.

6. Compromising.

7. Saying ‘I love you' regularly.

8. Knowing when to say sorry.

9. Being able to laugh at each other.

10. Having a similar outlook on life.

11. Regular hugs/cuddles.

12. Always kiss each other goodnight.

13. The occasional romantic gesture.

14. Considering your partner to be your best friend.

15. Sharing the parenting duties

16. Always kiss each other goodbye in the mornings.

17. Having some shared hobbies and interests

18. Always talk about a problem rather than bottling it up

19. Ask each other about their day.

20. Regular sex

21. Having some different hobbies and interests

22. Knowing when to give each other some space

23. Never going to sleep on an argument

24. Regular holidays/mini breaks

25. Having similar aims and ambitions

26. Having the odd argument or disagreement

27. Continuing to make an effort to look nice for your partner

28. Getting on with each other's family

29. Setting aside quality time for each other

30. Holding hands when you are out and about

31. Regularly complimenting each other

32. Having your own friends as well as mutual friends

33. Two TVs in the house

34. Getting on with each other's friends

35. Each having a car

36. Still shaving/grooming

37. Each having equal share of the lie-ins when you have children

38. Separate bank accounts

39. Having regular nights out with friends, without your partner

40. Surprise gifts/presents

41. Not being friends with ANY ex-partners on Facebook

42. A rota to divide up the household chores

43. Regular date nights

44. Two bathrooms/toilets

45. Not having one person hogging the remote control

46. Similar working hours

47. Knowing each other's passcode for their phone

48. A secret stash of cash they know nothing about

49. Keeping some things private (not going to the toilet in front of each other etc)

50. A night or two a week where neither of you use computers/laptops/phones etc. –

See more at: 50 secrets to a happy married life[Love Life]

 

[peace M]

hebu fanya kuniandikiepo katafsiri kidogo kwa kiswahili japo nliewe kidogo npate kuchangiapo

 

[Roger Sterling]

A gerontologist has uncovered common advice for couples walking down the aisle or decades into marriage.
To capture the voice of lived experience, the Cornell University study included a random national survey of nearly 400 individuals age 65 and older, asking how to find a compatible partner and other advice on love and relationships. In subsequent in-person interviews with more than 300 long-wedded individuals — those in unions of 30, 40, 50, or more years — the study captured more insights for overcoming common marriage troubles. The team of researchers interviewed divorced individuals, too, asking how others might avoid marital breakups.
Researchers uncovered common advice for couples walking down the aisle or decades into marriage. Here are the top five lessons from the elders:

Learn to communicate:

“For a good marriage, the elders overwhelmingly tell us to ‘talk, talk, talk.’ They believe most marital problems can be solved through open communication, and conversely many whose marriages dissolved blamed lack of communication.”
Get to know your partner very well before marrying:

“Many of the elders I surveyed married very young; despite that fact, they recommend the opposite. They strongly advise younger people to wait to marry until they have gotten to know their partner well and have a number of shared experiences. An important part of this advice is a lesson that was endorsed in very strong terms: Never get married expecting to be able to change your partner.”

Treat marriage as an unbreakable, lifelong commitment:

“Rather than seeing marriage as a voluntary partnership that lasts only as long as the passion does, the elders propose a mindset in which it is a profound commitment to be respected, even if things go sour over the short term. Many struggled through dry and unhappy periods and found ways to resolve them — giving them the reward of a fulfilling, intact marriage in later life.”
Learn to work as a team:

“The elders urge us to apply what we have learned from our lifelong experiences in teams — in sports, in work, in the military — to marriage. Concretely, this viewpoint involves seeing problems as collective to the couple, rather than the domain of one partner. Any difficulty, illness, or setback experienced by one member of the couple is the other partner’s responsibility.”

Chose a partner who is very similar to you:

“Marriage is difficult at times for everyone, the elders assert, but it’s much easier with someone who shares your interests, background and orientation. The most critical need for similarity is in core values regarding potentially contentious issues like child-rearing, how money should be spent and religion.”

Source:
Cornell University. “Love, factually: Gerontologist finds the formula to a happy marriage.” ScienceDaily. ScienceDaily, 17 June 2015. <www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2015/06/150617134613.htm

 

[bab-D]

hebu fanya kuniandikiepo katafsiri kidogo kwa kiswahili japo nliewe kidogo npate kuchangiapo

english inafundishwa toka darasa la kwanza, ulielewaje kiswahili english ikakushinda?

 

[peace M]

mkuu mi nliishia vidudu tu, hata la kwanza ckufika.

 

[Kongosho]

Uongo mtupu, just be yourself and go with the flow. VInginevyo utaishia kuwa kama huyu...

 

[mikatabafeki]

hebu fanya kuniandikiepo katafsiri kidogo kwa kiswahili japo nliewe kidogo npate kuchangiapo

Hebu acha uvivu,
Chukua dictionary anza upitia neno kwa neno

 

[billmo]

Mhh ngumu

 

[Evelyn Salt]

Hii ndoa ni kwa hisani ya google.com...it is applicable kama wanandoa wametoana fesibuku

 

[peace M]

duh! mpaka ikaishe lazima niumwe maana ni ndefu hafu imejazia

 

[First Born]

maisha hayo tukianza kuyaapply Africa kila siku mtu mmoja atakuwa anapunguza kilo mbili mbili..

 

[Baby M]

Uongo mtupu, just be yourself and go with the flow. VInginevyo utaishia kuwa kama huyu...

hizo sio sheria useme usipo observe utafungwa.

 

[Kongosho]

Sijasema ni sheria, mapenzi hayana fomula.

hizo sio sheria useme usipo observe utafungwa.

 

[ERoni]

Sijasema ni sheria, mapenzi hayana fomula.

......lakini yana principles!!

 

[gwijimimi]

Hii ndoa ni kwa hisani ya google.com...it is applicable kama wanandoa wametoana fesibuku

Sio kweli
U r just being selfish

 

[gwijimimi]

......lakini yana principles!!

I agree

 

[ISLETS]

hizo ni secrets za mapenzi ya kihindi..kuchkuch,, vinginevyo kuna vitu ni kama havina umuhumu sana mfano namba 11, 12, 16, 23, 30, 33, 35, 44, 46 na 50...labda kwa wale waliooana juzijuzi... ila mkiishapata watoto, mapenzi hupungua maana mtoto naye anachukua sehemu yake kwa mzazi... na ndio maisha yalivyo.
masuala ya kupigana mabusu kila siku asubuhi mtazoea lakini itafika tu siku hiyo service itakata, hivyohivyo na mambo ya outing..
kanuni nzuri za ndoa zipo kwenye misingi ya kidini..mengine haya ni maigizo tu.

 

[Chamamu]

maisha hayo tukianza kuyaapply Africa kila siku mtu mmoja atakuwa anapunguza kilo mbili mbili..

Kwa nini? ???

 

[Evelyn Salt]

Sio kweli
U r just being selfish

Maigizo hay bwana kwanza kaugonvi ni muhimu kanachangia kuimarisha le mahaba, ila lisiwe booonge la ugonvi tonge la ugali halipiti liugonvi la kumaliza kwa remote....

 

[the american dream]

whats Love!!

Its temporary insanity curable by Marriage!!