Ni taasisi muhimu sana katika jamii sababu inatengeneza familia ambayo baadae inakuwa jamii na mwisho Taifa.
Mtu yeyote mwenye akili timamu hawezi kuingia au kuunda taasisi hii bila kufikiri kwa kina na kufanya maamuzi kwa umakini.
Ndoa ni forever commitment na sio temporary ktk maisha.
Ndoa sio kwa boys and girls ni kwa men and women.
Bad marriages can cause couples to die.
Tunapaswa kufahamu kuwa it is the most critical choice of your life and once you marry a deficit you are finished.
Ndoa kwa wanaoamini it's something created by God for that case instruction of who to marry must come from him.
Ipo misingi au kanuni za kufuata ili maisha ya ndoa yawe kama ilivyokusudiwa.
Lakini pia ibilisi asingependa kuona watu wanapata correct match. Na iwapo wata match atahakikisha angalau mmoja anatoka nje ya ndoa!
Lkn pia yapo mambo ambayo ni miongo mwa sababu za kipumbavu kabisa au kwa kutokujua unakuta kupitia sababu hizo mtu anaolewa au anaoa! Na mwisho wa siku mambo hayaendi kama ulivyotarajia.
Sababu zenyewe ni hizi:
1. Regular sex- vijana wanawaza kupiga mabao tuu! Kwamba nikiolewa/kuoa nitafanya sana na kama huyo partner hana hiyo staminar shida inaanza!
2. Kupenda kwa ghafla unapomuona mtu( sudden love) yaani unafuata hisia za mwili i.e chemical reaction.
3. Fear of remaining unmarried. Hapa unajikuta Tembo anaoa spider, you get somebody who is totally wrong.
4. Kupenda tuu kwa kuwaona waliooa na kuolewa( liking the idea of marriage). Huwezi kupenda jeshi kwa kuangalia sare. Ukifika vitani utaweza kukimbia.
5.Pressure( shinikizo)kutoka kwa marafiki na familia, ooh umri unaenda oa/ mbona kimya! Hapa lzm ufanye uamuzi kwa kupanic. Na nilazima utapata mume aliyepanic.
6. Kuolewa/ kuoa ili kukimbia kazi na majukumu ya nyumbani. So you use marriage as escapping route.
7. Pesa( money) ukiona mtu anapesa anakazi nzuri unaangalia ile pesa unasahau kuwa money can only buy a bed but not sleep.
8. Kuona huruma ( feeling sorry) yaani unakutana na mwanaume/ mwanamke ana shida anaelezea hadi machozi unafikiri kuoa.[emoji853]
9. Foolish expectations! Unajua kabisa huyu ni mvuta bangi unajipa moyo eti atabadilika tukioana! Forget my friend.
10. Beauty. Hapa ndio watu wanaipata sn! Make up za mark zinawamaliza vijana. Na kuangalia mishepu, huwezi nunua nyumba sababu ya rangi nzuri wakati haipo imara.[emoji38]
11.Mimba isiyotarajiwa (Accidental pregnancy) unapoona umepata mimba au umempa msichana mimba unaona huna jinsi! Mahusiano haya hayadumu.
12. Kumzoea mtu. Unaona umesoma nae/ kufanya nae kazi muda tu unahisi umeshamjua.
13.Udalali(double connections) unaoa au kuolewa sababu umeunganishiwa na mtu, au ni mtuwa kijijini kwenu au kabila moja.
14. Kuwafurahisha wazazi. Sababu baba/mama anampenda msichana au mvulana.
15. Umaarufu. Umesikia flani katoa wimbo au amepata umaarufu tu unaona atakutoa au wengi watakujua.
Hizi ni baadhi tuu ya sababu zinazofanya mtu aingie kwenye wrong match na ndio shetani anapenda ili tuu aiharibu dunia yote!
Ndugu maafisa you cant put an elephant and a spider in one bed!
Lkn vijana wengi siku hizi wana kazi ya ku construct na ku compare kuhakikisha wanapata waliojazia na wasichana wengi they make themselves so cheap badala ya ku take time for critical thinking. They don't have a very good reasons why they want to marry na hii inasumbua!
Wewe kijana iwapo ulioa kwa sababu mojawapo kati ya hiyo you are real in trouble. Na wewe kijana iwapo unataka kuoa au kuolewa usiwe na hizo sababu.
Kwa kumalizia, hili eneo lina gharimu uhai wa mtu. So we better take a serious note on that.
C&P