Husband doesn't respect or listen to me

[R.B]

[h=1][/h] I ask my husband to do or stop doing things repeatedly, and he does not listen. For example: I have a cat that he hates, and he constantly picks on him. I've been asking him to stop ever since we moved in together four years ago... And he still does it. Two weeks ago I asked him to go through his DVD collection and pick out the ones he doesn't want (he never watches any of them, and they take up a lot of space) he STILL hasn't done it, despite my asking over and over. When I tell him something is bothering me, he literally stares into space and says nothing, knowing that I will eventually stop talking... He has no respect for my opinions or needs, and I really feel like he just doesn't care, and doesn't take me seriously. I feel like what I say just doesn't matter to him, as he just does what he wants regardless. I've tried talking to him about it, and he basically ignores me. How on earth do I get him to change this behavior?

 

[BADILI TABIA]

badilisha technique ya kuwasiliana nae....... Yaani jinsi unavyozungumza na kuwasilisha hisia zako.....badili hapo....

Wanaume ni kama watoto.... Unahitaji kumjulia tu.....

Kuhusu paka mlizungumzia hilo kabla? Au mradi una paka ukaamua kuhamia nae bila kujali hisia zake?

 

[georgeallen]

irreconcilable differences. Solution? divorce!!!

 

[Kamundu]

I ask my husband to do or stop doing things repeatedly, and he does not listen. For example: I have a cat that he hates, and he constantly picks on him. I've been asking him to stop ever since we moved in together four years ago... And he still does it. Two weeks ago I asked him to go through his DVD collection and pick out the ones he doesn't want (he never watches any of them, and they take up a lot of space) he STILL hasn't done it, despite my asking over and over. When I tell him something is bothering me, he literally stares into space and says nothing, knowing that I will eventually stop talking... He has no respect for my opinions or needs, and I really feel like he just doesn't care, and doesn't take me seriously. I feel like what I say just doesn't matter to him, as he just does what he wants regardless. I've tried talking to him about it, and he basically ignores me. How on earth do I get him to change this behavior?

1. Age: what is your age and your hubby age?. Some Man take time to mature so if you still in your 20's maybe you still have a Kid in your house.
2. Talk less: You need to talk less and at the right time!. Also whenever you talk asked him what he want to do to fix something example : Ask him what he want to do to make sure the house is clean in this way your going to achieve your goal but at the same time he is going to think he is the boss and he is the one who tell himself what to do!. The ego is going to change over time with maturity and kids.

If you are below 30 years this type of problems is common.

 

[magila]

Umezaa dada.kama hujazaa mpe mtoto tuone atabadirika.by the way pole myanaume ndo ilivyo

 

[afrodenzi]

Nagging .. mamake wanaume wanachukia sana mwanamke anae Nag kupita kiasi.

 

[Missy]

My sister, some of them it's like they come from the same womb, try a different approach if that does not work my darling that now will be serious, you will either need help or just walk away before things get worse in the house. That is how they start by ignoring you, not replying if you ask a question etc. maybe he has another woman he is seeing.

 

[sun wu]

You both dont respect each other, learn to compromise... (You have a cat you know he hates, he treats bad your pet...) and you, want him to get rid of his DVDs....why should he get rid of them? are they yours ?

In short both of you are selfish... get a pet you both like and if he likes something let him have it so long as it does not bother you a lot (comprimise) just remember (mafahari wawili hawaishi zizi moja)