How to prevent "Infidelity"

Smiles said:
Pamoja...pamoja! We rock...!!!
Afu we uliendaga wapi..? PM kibao nimekutumia no response...
Inabidi tupange mikakati thabiti ya hiki chama chetu!!
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michakato jimboni ilinibana..yah sure,lazima makada wote wa chama tawala wahamie huku..!!
 
Smiles said:
Dah.....I know Asprin and the team is goin to hate me for this...
lakini ni vizuri kuzingatia haya:

1. Maintain appropriate walls and windows. Keep the windows open at home. Put up privacy walls with others who could threaten your marriage.

2. Recognize that work can be a danger zone. Don't lunch alone or take coffee breaks with the same person all the time. When you travel with a co-worker, meet in public rooms and not in a room with a bed.

3. Avoid emotional intimacy with attractive alternatives to your committed relationship. Resist the desire to rescue an unhappy soul who pours his or her heart out to you.

4. Protect your marriage by discussing relationship issues at home. If you do need to talk to someone else about your marriage, be sure that person is a friend of the marriage. If the friend disparages marriage, respond with something positive about your own relationship.

5. Keep old flames from reigniting. If a former lover is coming to the class reunion, invite your partner to come along. If you value your marriage, think twice about having lunch with an old flame.

6. Don't go over the line when you're online with Internet friends. Discuss your online friendships with your partner and show him/her your e-mail if he/she is interested. Invite your partner to join in your correspondence so your Internet friend won't get any wrong ideas. Don't exchange sexual fantasies online.

7. Make sure your social network is supportive of your marriage. Surround yourself with friends who are happily married and who don't believe in fooling around.

*He He He* all the best jamani...
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You would be an :angel:! Just take :A S thumbs_up::A S thumbs_up::A S thumbs_up::A S thumbs_up::A S thumbs_up: Madam...!
 
i kitu haizuiliki mazee labda ujifungie kwenye ulimwengu wako unajua vitu huwa vinaisha utamu sijui ni mazoea ama nn
 
Smiles said:
Dah.....I know Asprin and the team is goin to hate me for this...
lakini ni vizuri kuzingatia haya:

1. Maintain appropriate walls and windows. Keep the windows open at home. Put up privacy walls with others who could threaten your marriage.

2. Recognize that work can be a danger zone. Don't lunch alone or take coffee breaks with the same person all the time. When you travel with a co-worker, meet in public rooms and not in a room with a bed.

3. Avoid emotional intimacy with attractive alternatives to your committed relationship. Resist the desire to rescue an unhappy soul who pours his or her heart out to you.

4. Protect your marriage by discussing relationship issues at home. If you do need to talk to someone else about your marriage, be sure that person is a friend of the marriage. If the friend disparages marriage, respond with something positive about your own relationship.

5. Keep old flames from reigniting. If a former lover is coming to the class reunion, invite your partner to come along. If you value your marriage, think twice about having lunch with an old flame.

6. Don't go over the line when you're online with Internet friends. Discuss your online friendships with your partner and show him/her your e-mail if he/she is interested. Invite your partner to join in your correspondence so your Internet friend won't get any wrong ideas. Don't exchange sexual fantasies online.

7. Make sure your social network is supportive of your marriage. Surround yourself with friends who are happily married and who don't believe in fooling around.

*He He He* all the best jamani...
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Just go and explain to your BF/GF/Wife/Husband about the following as soon as possible before, and/or after they happen; this will make set free than ever.....!

Relational Issues

  • Time Together - people lie about the reasons why they can't spend time together or see each other ("I am so busy, I have so much work to do, I don't have time right now")....
  • Past Relationships - partners lie about their past level of involvement ("I never really loved her," "I am much closer to you," "I love you so much more than anyone else")...
  • Feelings, Interest, Crushes, and Attraction to Others - people lie about their feelings and interest in others - often includes ex-partners, friends, someone at work...
  • Secret Contact - lovers lie about their friendships, time spent with others, accidental encounters (running into ex), phone calls, e-mails, and text messages with others. Essentially people lie about intimate, but non-sexual contact with someone else...
  • Level of Commitment – people lie about their feelings for partner, uncertainty or doubts about the relationship - not sure really love or want to marry partner or stay together...
  • Flirting with others - people lie about flirting with others...
  • Betraying Confidences - lovers lie to each other about keeping secrets confidential...
  • Hide Time with Others - people hide activities and time spent with others - usually friends or co-workers...
Sexual Issues

  • Sexual Fantasies – lovers conceal having sexual fantasies about others during sex. Or thinking about sex with someone else - usually the fantasy involves a partner's friend, family member, or a co-worker...
  • Masturbation - lovers lies about masturbating or how often it happens. Men also lie about fantasies during masturbation, using pornography...
  • Sexual Enjoyment - people lie about how good sex with partner is ("You're the best," "That was great!")...
  • Sexual History - lovers lie about the number of past partners, unsafe sex practices, what they have and have not done with others, their virginity, having an abortion, childhood abuse...
  • Infidelity and Cheating - spouses lie about having sex with other people... sometimes it involves issues of paternity (see, paternity testing)...
  • Sexual Orientation - some people lie about same sex contact or interest...
Negative Thoughts

  • Negative Feelings towards Partner’s Family/friends - people lie about liking other people who are important to a partner...
  • Negative Feelings about Partner’s Physical Appearance - lovers lie about liking their partner's appearance, hair, weight, age, clothes...
· Negative Feelings about Partner’s Career - people lie about liking or respecting their partner's job, school, career choices...

  • Negative Feelings about Partner’s Behavior/character - lovers lie about liking their partner's kids, habits, personality, sense of humor...
  • Hide Other's Negative Feelings about Partner - people lie about other people's true feelings towards a partner (i.e., my family/friends don't like you)...
Negative Behaviors

  • Drug Use - lovers lie about past or current drug use...
  • Alcohol Consumption - partners lie about alcohol consumption...
  • Smoking - people lie about smoking...
  • Gambling - lovers lie about gambling...
Differences

  • Hide Important Beliefs - lovers lie about true feelings on issues (i.e., politics, religion, and pets) in order to get along with partner...
  • Enjoyment of Activities - people lie about enjoying things a partner likes to do...
Financial Issues

  • Resources - people lie about their income, resources, inheritance...
  • Debt - lovers lie about their level of debit...
  • Spending Habits - people lie about how they spend money...
Insecurities

  • Physical Appearance/health - people lie about age, weight, health...
  • Jealously - lovers lie about being jealous and snooping...
  • Career Performance - partners lie about how well work, school, career is going...
  • Family and Friends - lovers lie to make family and friends seem better...
  • Love and Emotions - people lie to their partners about feeling vulnerable, scared, and being overly emotional...
 
Konakali: Thats very useful....thanx for the addition
 
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