If you are willing to work to have a good marriage it is possible, but the key word is work. 10. Nix the Naggin Why is it when men think of women they think of nagging. Come on girls, do we really have to do this? Ever heard of killing someone with kindness? You dont have to be Mary Poppins but would it actually hurt you to just communicate with your husband, dont nag, if you ask and that doesnt work, try leaving notes around the house (in case hubby tries to use the excuse of I forgot), that way you dont actually nag and you may get whatever it was you wanted accomplished! A little sweetness goes a long way in a marriage, (ever heard of catching more flies with honey?) 9. Listen (or at least act like you are...) Hubby had a hard day, he comes home and wants to talk. You have a dozen things to say plus a three ring circus going on in the next room (kids, cats, and so on...) Will it really hurt you to listen first- is it really important to be the first one to tell about your day? NO!!!! We all know men can be the biggest babies in the world, so let them have there moment and get on with things. What is important is COMMUNICATION !!! (Theres that silly little world again, are you beginning to see the pattern here?) 8. A Clean House is a Happy House No one in their right mind wants to fall over toys, clothes, etc... You cant tell me that you are just so busy EVERY SINGLE DAY that you dont have a few spare minutes to clean up. I am an aspiring writer, home school mom with three boys (2 kids, 1 husband), 2 cats and a dog, talk about no time - HA - I dont even remember what spare time is!!! The point Im trying to make is make an effort. Trust me you dont have to be Martha Stewart, a little here and there goes a long way!! 7. Food, Food, and More Food The key to a mans heart is through his stomach. Weve all heard this one and let me tell you I never believed it until I tried it for myself. So you say, but I cant cook....LEARN. Get everyone involved, kids can help, hubby can help, but the take out thing wont keep a man happy for a lifetime. You dont have to be a master chef, youd be amazed a what you can do with a crockpot these days!! 6. Gotta have space There has got to be times when you let hubby loose to do his own thing. Whether it be fishing, golf, hunting or whatever, let him have his time. If hes not doing anything that could potentially hurt your marriage then let him go, WITHOUT NAGGING (see how I tie these things in together...) Get a life of your own. Get a sitter for the kids and grab a friend and get out of that house and have your own space!! You and hubby both will be more than happy to spend time together later, besides you do have the rest of your life together if you play your cards right. 5. Flatter When Necessary Drop a compliment here or there, you like to get them dont you? Men are no different than women (when it comes to this at least) It makes everyone feel better to hear something nice about themselves. 4. Let him have the remote!! This speaks for itself. He wants to watch wrestling and you cant think of anything you would like to do less. Let me just say, if you watch wrestling enough times, youll learn to like it. Then there is the alternative ...get a second set or if you have kids, a third...remote, remote, remote, enough to go around, everyones happy, end of discussion! 3. Laughter is the best medicine The family that laughs together stays together. Keep humor in the house and dont take life too seriously. You only live once right? Might as well make it fun. 2. Sex, Sex... 1. And More Sex You dont have to be a maniac and have sex every single night, but once every three months wont cut it either!! Sex is more than just the physical sense of the word, a touch here, a kiss there, just being close to each other keeps the fires burning. Make time for your partner. If you really love him that shouldnt be too hard to do. Well thats it for the list. Granted this list wont work on every man out there, first you have to have married a good man. If you married a loser , hell stay a loser. For the majority of us who got good ,decent, loving men, it doesnt take much to keep them and keep them happy. Whats that word I liked so much... oh yeah.... communication, keep the lines open and dont bottle things up inside. I hope in some way this list has helped you or given you a good laugh one. Either way Ill be happy with the results!!