Hoja: Michango ya harusi kipindi cha Magu, waoaji kuweni na huruma kuchangisha kwa lazima

[FRESHMAN]

Napenda kutoa hoja yangu hapo juu ambayo imenikwaza kwa muda sasa.

Watanzania wengi hasa tuishio mijini tumekuwa tunatoa pesa nyingi kuchangia harusi za kifahari. Watu wenye uwezo wa kawaida wanapanga harusi zenye bajeti za mamilioni wakitegemea michango wapitishie ndugu na marafiki. Na mchango wenyewe sio wa alfu kumi au ishirini, wanataka laki kwenda juu, ukitoa chini ya hapo unanuniwa.

Kwa mfano mme mtarajiwa mshahara wake laki mbili mke mtarajiwa laki mbili - bajeti ya harusi milioni ishirini - wanandoa wanachangia nini - ziro- ukiweka vikao, nauli kumleta bibi kutoka kijijini, chakula cha wageni -kabla ya harusi yenyewe -baada ya harusi kila ndugu na jamaa amefilisika, wanabadili njia kukwepa madeni, furaha iko wapi?

Kama harusi ni upendo na kujenga familia kwa nini isiwe chai maandazi au biskuti kila mwalikwa alete sinia la chakula tule pamoja tuwapongeze maharusi - viongozi wa dini husika watoe nasaha zao, -wazazi wapongezwe kwa vifijo na vigelegele - halafu maharusi waende kijijini kumsalimia bibi na babu - wapeleke pea ya kanga na kilo ya sukari. Waishi raha mstarehe?

Kwanini tunataka makubwa tusiyoyaweza? ninapokuchangia laki mbili kwenye harusi yako halafu mkaachana baada ya mwaka hela yangu mtarudisha? Ukioa tena nichange?

Harusi ukianzia maandalizi, sare, kitcheni party, vikao, sendi ofu, ndoa, honey muni na mengine kibao yanafanya harusi kuwa kikwazo kwa wengi na maharusi kuwa omba omba.

Niliwahi kualikwa kwenye harusi ya wenzetu ulaya - dress code casual, chakula snacks and drinks - time 6-8PM, usafiri jitegemee, picha na video -rafiki wa maharusi kajitolea. Zawadi ukipenda toa donation kwa WFP au UNICEF.

Jumla ya gharama ya harusi Euro 1000 kipato cha maharusi jumla Euro 6000 kila mwezi.

Baada ya sherehe familia ilikwenda kwa chakula cha jioni marafiki - KWA HERI.
Nimeamua kuanzia mwaka jana nitakuwa nachangia elimu, matibabu na mambo ya manufaa. Ndugu na marafiki TUBADILIKE.

KWANINI TUSICHANGIANE GHARAMA ZA ELIMU ? MILIONI ISHIRINI HAIMSOGEZI WANAFUNZI WA CHUO?

 

[Tim Choice]

Tabia hizi zenu waswahili za kijamaa na umaskini, ni ufuska!

 

[Makuku Rey]

hakuna atakayekuelewa humu!.suala la ndoa kwetu huku TANGANYIKA linagharamiwa sana!na sasa complication za harusi zimehamia mpaka msibani!

up to this time nshachangia kadi tatu za 50000@

 

[Benjamini Netanyahu]

Mkuu umeongea point tupu, tumechoka na michango, tuanze kuchangia maendeleo sasa.

 

[Zabron Hamis]

Tuamze na ww kwanza. Umeoa au bado

 

[Tim Choice]

Tuamze na ww kwanza. Umeoa au bado

Ikiwa kesha ama bado halafu?

 

[NO04]

sidhani kama kizazi hiki cha nyoka kitakuelewa.

 

[Zabron Hamis]

Kama ameoa, hakufanya sherehe?? Na kama bado akitaka kuoa hataomba mchango??

Kuna mtu ashawahi kumfuata na kulazimisha achangiwe??

 

[Tim Choice]

Kama ameoa, hakufanya sherehe?? Na kama bado akitaka kuoa hataomba mchango??

Kuna mtu ashawahi kumfuata na kulazimisha achangiwe??

Wengine hawaipendi tabia hii ya michango kwenye sherehe za anasa/harusi, mtu ukiwa huna hela kwani ni lazima ufanye sherehe?
Siku hizi sherehe zenu hizo ni maonyesho tu hakuna la maana,mtu anataka ajilipue kwa hela ambazo hana,ni ukiritimba huo.
Wengine tunapenda private ceremonies,only a few invited and close guests/relatives,wengine hela zipo kabisa hakuna kuombaomba.
Sio lazima sherehe kubwa kubwa jamani,waafrika tuamke.
Shida za dharura tena zenye tija kama ukosefu wa karo ya shule/elimu,maradhi/pesa za matibabu,watoto yatima/hela za chakula n.k

 

[MLAU]

Harusi za Dini ya Kiislam very simple hazina complication hizi zote muoaji Anafanya kulingana na uwezo wake.

Harusi za Kikristo sasa mmmh hapo mpaka na uadui unaanza hukunichangia hukunichangia!!

Hata ktk msiba hivyo hivyo kama ulivyo ktk harusi upande wa dini kuhusu gharama

Samahani kama nitakuwa nimemkwaza MTU kuhusu dini ingawa huwa sipendi sana kutoa mifano inayohusu dini.

 

[mitale na midimu]

watu wanatakiwa kutenganisha ndoa na harusi.
unakuta wanaokomalia harusi ndio ambao hawana hata mchango wowote mzigo wote unamrudia muoaji na wadau wake wa karibu. kazi ipo...

 

[Bukayo jr]

Harusi za kiislam bajeti inaweza kuwa 200,000 tu ukiweka mahari kando ziko simple sanaaa

 

[Poise]

Mimi Nilimwambia mchumba aje home, akagoma nikamwambia haya kafanye vikao ukusanye michango utanijulisha siku ya harusi na ukumbi!

Maana nimechoka na vikao.

 

[stranger man]

Ha

Napenda kutoa hoja yangu hapo juu ambayo imenikwaza kwa muda sasa.

Watanzania wengi hasa tuishio mijini tumekuwa tunatoa pesa nyingi kuchangia harusi za kifahari. Watu wenye uwezo wa kawaida wanapanga harusi zenye bajeti za mamilioni wakitegemea michango wapitishie ndugu na marafiki. Na mchango wenyewe sio wa alfu kumi au ishirini, wanataka laki kwenda juu, ukitoa chini ya hapo unanuniwa.

Kwa mfano mme mtarajiwa mshahara wake laki mbili mke mtarajiwa laki mbili - bajeti ya harusi milioni ishirini - wanandoa wanachangia nini - ziro- ukiweka vikao, nauli kumleta bibi kutoka kijijini, chakula cha wageni -kabla ya harusi yenyewe -baada ya harusi kila ndugu na jamaa amefilisika, wanabadili njia kukwepa madeni, furaha iko wapi?

Kama harusi ni upendo na kujenga familia kwa nini isiwe chai maandazi au biskuti kila mwalikwa alete sinia la chakula tule pamoja tuwapongeze maharusi - viongozi wa dini husika watoe nasaha zao, -wazazi wapongezwe kwa vifijo na vigelegele - halafu maharusi waende kijijini kumsalimia bibi na babu - wapeleke pea ya kanga na kilo ya sukari. Waishi raha mstarehe?

Kwanini tunataka makubwa tusiyoyaweza? ninapokuchangia laki mbili kwenye harusi yako halafu mkaachana baada ya mwaka hela yangu mtarudisha? Ukioa tena nichange?

Harusi ukianzia maandalizi, sare, kitcheni party, vikao, sendi ofu, ndoa, honey muni na mengine kibao yanafanya harusi kuwa kikwazo kwa wengi na maharusi kuwa omba omba.

Niliwahi kualikwa kwenye harusi ya wenzetu ulaya - dress code casual, chakula snacks and drinks - time 6-8PM, usafiri jitegemee, picha na video -rafiki wa maharusi kajitolea. Zawadi ukipenda toa donation kwa WFP au UNICEF.

Jumla ya gharama ya harusi Euro 1000 kipato cha maharusi jumla Euro 6000 kila mwezi.

Baada ya sherehe familia ilikwenda kwa chakula cha jioni marafiki - KWA HERI.
Nimeamua kuanzia mwaka jana nitakuwa nachangia elimu, matibabu na mambo ya manufaa. Ndugu na marafiki TUBADILIKE.

KWANINI TUSICHANGIANE GHARAMA ZA ELIMU ? MILIONI ISHIRINI HAIMSOGEZI WANAFUNZI WA CHUO?

Halafu ukumbini wanatuandalia kipaja cha kuku,ndizi,soda,na juisi ya azam! Sometimes wanatufanya tuwe upset! Nakumbuka lastly time nilienda sherehe moja niliondoka bz we have pay a lot unfortunately they dont organized

 

[Void ab initio]

Sichangiagi Harusi.

 

[Testar]

Mkipata pesa mnazitumia kwenye mambo ya kipumbavu kama harusi,.
Mkizimaliza mnasema pesa imepotea mtaani.

 

[Tim Choice]

Mkipata pesa mnazitumia kwenye mambo ya kipumbavu kama harusi,.
Mkizimaliza mnasema pesa imepotea mtaani.

Waambie Mkuu!

 

[DAFU NA NDIMU]

Hahaha, mi nilishaamua kutochangia kabisa. Nikipewa kadi naiweka kwenye kadro kameza na kuendelea na mambo yangu.
Zitakuja msgs za kunikumbusha hadi wanakoma.
Tungekuwa tunachangia kuwaanzishia maisha wanandoa ningeweza kufikiria kidogo, lkn kwa mambo ya anasa mi simo.
Wa kununa wamenuna na kujinunuwa mi nipo tu.

 

[Biobenga]

Posted as received.

Hi guys Africa is good and Tanzania is beautiful with all sorts of wildlife and natural wonders you may think of. Some not even advertised. I can’t say I know Tanzania that much as I have just been at the embassy for less than 7 months now. What bothers me is the number of contribution cards I have received so far. God forbid! This culture of dependency in Tanzania is just too much and irritates.. how do I say no I cant give you this much? Almost every week somebody’s relative at the embassy is either getting married, graduating, or this or that f*&?! this culture should come to an end. If you want to marry go and marry don’t bother others. Are you going to share your wife/husband or children? Guys wake up! I have worked in Zambia, Nigeria and Senegal these time wasting events are not there at all. What is with you my “now” country’ men? How do I contribute to a wedding of your grandfather’s auntie’s first daughter’s son-in-law sister’s first born son… come on this is pure madness. Some cant even tell you how they are related and yet they want you to contribute eeh! Stop it! I have never attended even a single one apart from being asked to pulse for a photo with a marrying couple that I don’t even know. And I am sure they are saying all sorts of lies to their friends with my picture. Look I don’t want you to change your culture because in my culture we just get invitation cards and NOT DEMAND CARDS as the case here in Tanzania. Imagine a pre-school child who doesn’t even know what is happening a million graduation cards go out for what? What will he do with a pre-school certificate? Hey parents open up your EYES! Before I sign-out please don’t call me to your marriage planning meetings. In my country we have wedding planer or marriage planner. Look for one if your immediate family members can’t help. Why do you need a Tsh22mil wedding when your annual revenue is only Tsh24mil gross? Be realistic and so your marriage will be otherwise you end up having an artificial marriage which wont even last long or leave you in debts. wake-up. how many billionaires who didn't even had so called white weddings? most of them have only family wedding and or a hand full of very close family members to share a GLASS of wine and thats it. they are happy and continue generating money that they send here as donors while you want to be more than them. This is too much please stop it.