God is the original, master forgiver. Each time we grope our reluctant way through the minor miracle of forgiving, we are imitating his style. I am not at all sure that any of us would have had imagination enough to see the possibilities in this way to heal the wrongs of this life had he not done it first."It is not that I have written that without any deep consideration or so..It may seem religious, but l have been there and I hope I may find myself again in the same or similara circumstance in the future..
But, If you can't forgive, you are building your own cell (prison).
The essence of forgiveness is to set us ( who are hurt) free..jaribu
BAK... it doesnt work this way for selfish and egocentrics, to them it is always what they want, kuanzia penzi, tendo, msamaha, kurudiana, kurudia kosa etc.... you name it
But books and stats all point at them as psychos and disordered people who in most cases live their lives without seeking medical advice
It is not that I have written that without any deep consideration or so..It may seem religious, but l have been there and I hope I may find myself again in the same or similara circumstance in the future..
But, If you can't forgive, you are building your own cell (prison).
The essence of forgiveness is to set us ( who are hurt) free..jaribu
ni kweli kabisa, and in love inashangaza we all know these poor qualities but somehow somewhere we practice them, sijui kwanini inakua hivi...hapo naongezea sifa zao nyingine, Obssessive, Manipulative & Control Freaks!
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Umeona eeee but jitahidi likutoke hilo la sivyo wewe ndio utakuwa looserGaga, Quotes za hao jamaa wa www.iloveulove.com zinaleta maana iwapo tu 'Msamehewa' anajua na kutambua thamani ya kusamehewa na kutorudia makosa. Kinyume na hapo, hiyo Happiness na Peace znabakia alinacha tu!
Mbu huyo demu asikutese bwana...hapo naongezea sifa zao nyingine, Obssessive, Manipulative & Control Freaks!
..yeah, Time's a healer. Kama kawaida, tumtangulize pia Mwenyezi Mungu.
Mkuu Mbu, binadamu hatuko perfect tuna mapungufu mengi tu. Inawezekana kabisa msamehewa anaweza kuwa na nia ya dhati kabisa kutorudia tena kosa lakini kutokana na mapungufu ya binadamu akalirudia kosa lile lile. Inawezekana kabisa ukaudhika kiasi cha kutotaka kuendelea tena na mahusiano na huyo mkosaji, lakini hata kama ukiamua kuvunja mahusiano basi bado itakuwa vizuri kumsamehe kwa makosa yake badala ya kuendelea kuweka kinyongo miaka nenda miaka rudi kitu ambacho si kizuri kiafya. Siku zote kumbuka usemi huu Mkuu Mbu...Tuwasamehe wale waliotukosea.
Na dharau pia anayo?...bro BAK, dharau pia ni aina ya mapungufu?
Michelle, if it hurts when you remember about the past it means you haven't managed to forgive that person.
...bro BAK, dharau pia ni aina ya mapungufu?
some people leave wounds that are difficult and may take forever to heal....you keep asking why me?did i deserve this? and scars that are hard to erase....when you wake up in morning its the first thing you remember or see and it reminds you of what happened and you wish it didn't....i think forgiveness is difficult but forgetting some things its the most difficult thing.....lets say you were raped when at school,you had to stop school and you have this child you love but his presence in your life has made life even more difficult.....you do not have enough to eat by yourself,you do not have a good job because of the low level of education and maybe the family is doing everything but still its not enough and on the other hand you have a man that you love very much and he does not like the fact that you have a child and thinks his family will not allow him to marry a woman who has a child from whatever the circumstance that happened.......tell me how on earth do you forget??
I understand your argument and you're correct about that but forgiveness is more about setting yourself free from the bondage of living in the past. Yes, one will always remember about the incident unless she does timeline therapy or some other neural linguistic programming (nlp) techniques but if she reinforces that victim mentality... that oh poor me feeling... then she'll never be free.
You see Michelle, the word crisis in Chinese has two meanings, one is unstable condition and the other is opportunity. Every time you have a bad experience you can use it to find gold in it. Instead of feeling bad you can use it to help other victims in a similar situation, (talking about Oprah here) that way you'll set yourself free that mental slavery.
Having said that there is yet another powerful approach that will make you even more happy and that is the love that passes through all understanding, the love of Jesus Christ. If you're a true believer Michelle, God will give you the ability to forgive regardless of how bad the situation is. It might not be easy to comprehend but trust me on this, God is able to take all our burden.
...Mheshimiwa BaK.
Mimi nakwazika na jambo moja. Ukishamsamehe then what?
Nasumbuka sana mtu anaomba msamaha halafu analazimisha mrudiane.
I prefer kumsamehe mtu kimoyo moyo.
Wengine ni wasumbufu sana bana.
Kusamehe ni rahisi kuliko kusahau,unaweza kumbuka ukapata uchungu fulani , ukajiuliza why he/she did it? Unachopaswa kufanya sasa ni kuignore na kusema at least i forgived her/him.
Ni mapungufu Mkuu ambayo yanaweza kurekebishika na dharau hizo kupungua sana au kuondoka kabisa.