Dear Husband

BAK · Oct 1, 2012

Gee! nilipoona umenitaja nikasema hamadi!!! hahahahaha lol! sijui Gee kishanipiga za uso za haraka haraka bila kujibu hata moja lol! 🙂🙂

Nakubaliana nawe kwamba kuprovide kwa mke na familia pekee haidumishi ndoa kama mke anamuona mwenzie hana muda kabisa wa kuwa na mke wake katika kufurahia kuwa pamoja. Wakati mwingine ni vitu vidogo vidogo kama kwenda movies, dansini kujirusha kwa raha zenu, mkae wenyewe tu wawili huku mkikumbatiana, kupigana kisses moto moto na kuambiana maneno mazuri na pia mume kuonyesha appreciation kwa mkewe. Wanaume wengine hata wakiambiwa na wake zao kwamba nini kinakosekana ndani ya ndoa yao wanakuwa kama wametia pamba masikioni. Hili linaweza kumfanya mke aamue "kuchepuka" au hata kubwaga manyanga baada ya kuona hakuna faida ya kuendelea kuwa ndani ya ndoa ambayo haridhiki nayo.

Sijui kama ana ubavu wa kuchukua hii sredi na kumwambia mumewe nimeona hii sredi kule JF nimeipenda naomba uipitie yote kisha tukae tuongee kuhusu ndoa yetu.

Gaijin said:
BAK,

Kuna watu wengine wanaambiwa kwa lugha zote, lakini wapi. Hawaoni kama ni muhimu. Hawatilii maanani hasa.

Huyu sawa utasema mume ndo anatoa kila kitu, lakini wengine masuala ya kifedha wapo pamoja kuhudumia familia, ila mume hana nafasi za kutimiza psychological needs za mkewe.

Na mwanamke akiwa na interests nyingi na well rounded kwenye mambo mengi zaidi ya mume ndo kabisaaaa unakuwa msiba.

Wanaume kidogo mbadilike, mwanamake nae ana akili, ana opinions, ana interests, na anaetaka ku-share nae ni wewe......

Usipomtimizia atasepa (kama mstaarabu) kisha utakaa ujiulize mbona nilikuwa nampa kila kitu?

platozoom · Oct 1, 2012

Kongosho said:
Kazi ipo, wanawake watakuwa mapotato bure

how?..

Gaijin · Oct 1, 2012

BAK said:
Gee! nilipoona umenitaja nikasema hamadi!!! hahahahaha lol! sijui Gee kishanipiga za uso za haraka haraka bila kujibu hata moja lol! 🙂🙂

Hahaha, kauli mbiu ya "mpaka kieleweke" inafanya kazi sawa bin sawia :]

Nakubaliana nawe kwamba kuprovide kwa mke na familia pekee haidumishi ndoa kama mke anamuona mwenzie hana muda kabisa wa kuwa na mke wake katika kufurahia kuwa pamoja. Wakati mwingine ni vitu vidogo vidogo kama kwenda movies, dansini kujirusha kwa raha zenu, mkae wenyewe tu wawili huku mkikumbatiana, kupigana kisses moto moto na kuambiana maneno mazuri na pia mume kuonyesha appreciation kwa mkewe.

Mtu unaenda kuchukua mtoto wa watu, kwao anapewa attention saa zote hata akifanya kipele, wewe humpi hata ndogo hata kwenye mambo yake makubwa.....ataweza wapi?!

Si unataka kumtia depression kuelekea wazimu tu (huyu mtoa mada anaonekana tayari yupo kwenye depression, ndo kuandika barua "hewa")

Wanaume wengine hata wakiambiwa na waume zao kwamba nini kinakosekana ndani ya ndoa yao wanakuwa kama wametia pamba masikioni. Hili linaweza kumfanya mke aamue "kuchepuka" au hata kubwaga manyanga baada ya kuona hakuna faida ya kuendelea kuwa ndani ya ndoa ambayo haridhiki nayo.

Kuna watu selfish. Akiambiwa nahitaji hili na hili, yeye hafanyi marekebisho kwa sababu yeye hana shida ile! As long as yeye yupo happy, anadhani na mwenziwe yupo happy, na japo akiambiwa haamini wala hakubali.

Sijui kama ana ubavu wa kuchukua hii sredi na kumwambia mumewe nimeona hii sredi kule JF nimeipenda naomba uipitie yote kisha tukae tuongee kuhusu ndoa yetu

Asijaribu. Manake alikwishaweka story yake yote kwenye thread nyengine. Kwa hiyo hapo Bwana Mkubwa akipekua kidogo tu atajua kuwa Bibie ndio kaleta hadithi hapa.
Atafute mbinu nyengine tu.

Kongosho · Oct 1, 2012

Si unaona wanaambiwa watulie tu kama wananyolewa na wamme zao?

platozoom said:
how?..

platozoom · Oct 1, 2012

Kongosho said:
Si unaona wanaambiwa watulie tu kama wananyolewa na wamme zao?

Na mimi naunga mkono 100%............hizi demand zenu zimezidi, ukikosa moja ukapata mbili shukuru.
Na wa mbili havai moja tambua

Kongosho · Oct 1, 2012

Mie afunge zote, mradi naiti fudi ana-supply inatosha

Haya ya saikolojikal nidz akina Bishanga wapo wanamsadia
Ya nini nijitese na mtu nimekuta na meno 32, tena ukute yalikuwa 33 moja akang'olewa

platozoom said:
Na mimi naunga mkono 100%............hizi demand zenu zimezidi, ukikosa moja ukapata mbili shukuru.
Na wa mbili havai moja tambua

platozoom · Oct 1, 2012

Kongosho said:
Mie afunge zote, mradi naiti fudi ana-supply inatosha

Haya ya saikolojikal nidz akina Bishanga wapo wanamsadia
Ya nini nijitese na mtu nimekuta na meno 32, tena ukute yalikuwa 33 moja akang'olewa

Umeona eeh......tatizo hizi tamthilia zenu za Acapulco bay na La revancha mnataka mzihamishie vyumbani halafu bahati mbaya stering' mwenyewe inabidi atafute rizki ndipo aje kucheza!

Karucee · Oct 1, 2012

Nyamgluu said:
Hakuna kitu kigumu kurekebisha kama moyo ukishaanza kuona hauriziki halafu mtu unampenda kweli!! Dah! Yani your partner is everything to you and does all the necessary BUT.......

Karucee, your husband isn't SUPERMAN, ever thought maybe it might help to make a few compromises. You can't expect him to be Mr Perfect jamani. Dude is kind, fullfils your body needs, provides for the family, and yet you complain he does't HOLD YOUR HAND!! Eksee!! Eti TEND TO YOUR PSYCHOLOGICAL NEEDS!!!
Samahani umenikumbusha mbali kidogo! I have been in that mans shoes. But isn't thiis wanting too much, HE IS A HUMAN BEING and it is very very very unfair to make him responsible for 100% of your happiness after all he is doing for you!!!
If you love him truly don't do that to him! Take control of your psychological needs YOURSELF and give the niga breathing space. He is a good man and doing his best.

Hizi love stories na soapies zinatuharibu sana!! Tujifunze kuridhika jamani!! Hizi IDEAL situations tunazoona kwa love stories na vitabu ni acting tu, you can't have it exactly like that!

u r darling and u have a point mkuu. I started suffering from loneliness when I quit drinking and sobered up. I cant seem to stop feeling lonely, and am not clinging. I just want some time with him off his ever busy schedule. Am afraid of telling him because he may think am ungrateful. Maybe I should find a job and get busy but I dont see how the needs of this little heart of mine will be fulfilled by a job. P/s I do not watch soaps or love stories. I prefer reading material stuff.

sweetlady · Oct 1, 2012

Kongosho said:
Mie afunge zote, mradi naiti fudi ana-supply inatosha

Haya ya saikolojikal nidz akina Bishanga wapo wanamsadia
Ya nini nijitese na mtu nimekuta na meno 32, tena ukute yalikuwa 33 moja akang'olewa

Daaah..... Kongosho nimecheka mpaka machozi khaaa!

Karucee · Oct 1, 2012

Kaizer said:
Thank Kaunga kwa kutoa reference ya post za Karucee za nyumba nimepitia baadhi na imenisaidia kuelewa muktadha wa post yake hii

Kusema ukweli nilipoisoma mara ya kwanza sikumwelewa kabisa ila sasa naelewa anazungumza from which experience.

Mi nadhani kuna mambo yanachangia hali aliyonayo ya UPWEKE,,,nayo ndo kwanza amepata mtoto, ni mama wa nyumbani kwa sasa, wanaishi peke yao na mume wake ni mtu wa mishe mishe

Kwa historia ya maisha yao inaonekana kuwa they used to have very good quality time pamoja kabla hawajahamia huko mbezi, ila kitu kimoja ambacho inabidi aelewe ni kuwa utu uzima unaingia na majukumu pia yanaongezeka, its like u cant eat ur cake and have it

Simaanishi kuwa mumewe hawezi kupata muda hapana ila haiwezi kuwa sawa na mwanzoni. Cha muhimu hapo sasa ni kucompromise kidogo..once in a while, mumewe anaweza kuwa anamtoa out lakini pia bibiye anaweza ku initiate hilo akamtoa yeye hopefully itasaidia

Ila kwa sasa ni muhimu akaelewa kuwa mume ndo mtafutaji na akilega lega huko familia italega lega upande mwingine....

thanks Kaizer kwa muda wa kupitia posts na kuelewa. Na pia kwa kunishauri, I will take it into considerations. Thanks again :*

Karucee · Oct 1, 2012

King'asti said:
you are her hobby. Its hard to let go of your hobby, Neh? Ni kama wewe uambiwe no more football. She would love to drink you, eat you, sleep you and watch you. Is that too much to ask?

my sentiments exactly. 😉

Gaijin · Oct 1, 2012

Karucee said:
u r darling and u have a point mkuu. I started suffering from loneliness when I quit drinking and sobered up. I cant seem to stop feeling lonely, and am not clinging. I just want some time with him off his ever busy schedule. Am afraid of telling him because he may think am ungrateful. Maybe I should find a job and get busy but I dont see how the needs of this little heart of mine will be fulfilled by a job. P/s I do not watch soaps or love stories. I prefer reading material stuff.

Ungrateful wa kitu gani?

sweetlady · Oct 1, 2012

platozoom said:
Umeona eeh......tatizo hizi tamthilia zenu za Acapulco bay na La revancha mnataka mzihamishie vyumbani halafu bahati mbaya stering' mwenyewe inabidi atafute rizki ndipo aje kucheza!

Hahahahaha .....kiukweli wanawake huwa haturidhikagi jamani......na haitokaa itokee mwenzio akakuridhisha idara zote.....akipatia moja sana lazima moja iwe dhaifu.......pesa ikikosekana nyumbani ni tatizo na ndio mana wababa/wakaka wa watu wanakimbizana mpaka wanatusahau kama tuko dunia hii......na hii tabia ya wadada/wamama kupenda pesa kuliko mtu ndio inasababisha hawa wenzetu wakimbizane ili kutufanya wenye furaha!

Kiukweli hakuna binadamu aliye mkamilifu.......mleta mada kaa na mwenzi wako umweleze vile ambavyo moyo wako hauna furaha then uone kama atabadilika .....wakati mwingine labda mwenzio hajui kama uko kwenye hayo mateso!

Karucee · Oct 1, 2012

Ndahani said:
Karucee, mwambie huyo mzee live...anaweza kubadilika ati...akiendelea hivyo itakula kwake.

umeona eeeh?

Baba_Enock · Oct 1, 2012

"human feelings" are "infinite" ...!

Karucee · Oct 1, 2012

majany said:
Thanks my dear wifee....

You know when we started how the situation was!!!!we couldn't afford our house rent fees,that we shifted for cheap one at Kwa Mtogole,I couldnt buy our baby pampas that you have to tear your kanga to rescue the same.......
This goes to a series of financial difficulties that make me who I am today.\
Honestly,I am not ready to get back in those ropes again,thats why I am working very hard so as to be as much better off as possible....

You have a point in your letter,but please,even ROMA was not built over night,I will try to bend towards your needs and please try as much to understand me also....

Sincerely yours,

Mr.X

Hahahahaaaa...was trying to reply....

ha ha haaaaaaaa. Thanks for the laugh

Karucee · Oct 1, 2012

cacico said:
Labda tuongee nao kwa kilatin, kiswahili or english they dont understand! Wapo busyyyyyyy, wanatuacha tu, realy boring!

boring is an understatement cacico

Karucee · Oct 1, 2012

Toria said:
Tatizo wanaume wanasahau mwanamke alitoka kwao akamfata yeye sio hela,nyumba na vilivyomo coz hizo material hata kwao zipo jaman

santeeee

Karucee · Oct 1, 2012

FirstLady1 said:
Karucee na daughter mmefanya nibwage chozi hapa ...Mungu ni mwema siku zote anasikia kilio cha kila mja wake :A S-heart-2:

cry not

platozoom · Oct 1, 2012

sweetlady said:
Hahahahaha .....kiukweli wanawake huwa haturidhikagi jamani......na haitokaa itokee mwenzio akakuridhisha idara zote.....akipatia moja sana lazima moja iwe dhaifu.......pesa ikikosekana nyumbani ni tatizo na ndio mana wababa/wakaka wa watu wanakimbizana mpaka wanatusahau kama tuko dunia hii......na hii tabia ya wadada/wamama kupenda pesa kuliko mtu ndio inasababisha hawa wenzetu wakimbizane ili kutufanya wenye furaha!

Kiukweli hakuna binadamu aliye mkamilifu.......mleta mada kaa na mwenzi wako umweleze vile ambavyo moyo wako hauna furaha then uone kama atabadilika .....wakati mwingine labda mwenzio hajui kama uko kwenye hayo mateso!

wakati mwingine una busara khaa

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