Bad Moods; Una-deal aje?

jouneGwalu · Aug 21, 2011

Natamani tu-share na wewe mwanajamvi,
Una-deal aje na mtu mwenye "bad moods"?
Tupeane xperience!

As tunavyojua kuwa mtu akiwa kwenye "bad mood"
Ni anaweza kukukwaza, ni anaboa wakati mwingine..!
Kila mtu ana vituko vyake akiwa kwenye bad mood..

Wakati mwingine inatishia hata kuvunja mahusiano!!

Kwa xperience yangu binafsi, mara kadhaa nmekuwa
katika mahusiano na watu ambao "wa-moods"..
Aisee, sidhani kama nimewahi kufanikiwa katika
Ku-deal na hawa watu na moods zao.

Case1

"Cheusi alikuwa mtoto mmoja mrembo sana,
tulipokutana ofcz haikuchukua mda tukaanza
mahusiano sababu hatukutaka unafiki kuwa
eti tuzinguane, ali-fall kwangu kama mimi kwake!
Baada ya siku kadhaa tu nikajua ugonjwa wake
Moods!
Niliwahi kujaribu vitu kadhaa ilikumfanya awe sawa,
Majibu ya mtu mwenye bad mood unaweza ukalia...
"Twende kutembea" anajibu "nimechoka"
"Tuchek movie" anajibu "sijisikii"
Hapo ni amelala wala hakuangalii...
Mara kadhaa alipokuwa akianza kuwa hvyo
Naamua kumpa nafasi awe peke yake..
Niliporudi akauliza "kwani nilikwambia nataka space
au nakutaka wewe"

Case 2
"white, ni wa kawaida sana ila just anavutia sana
sijui kwanini.....
ye ndo akiwa kwenye moods, hataki kupokea simu,
Ni kulala tu wala hakipikiki kitu ndani ya nyumba...
Ok utaamua kumuacha labda apoe kwanza,
Utarudi na zawadi, atakuangalia tu...."

Nyakati hazirudi nyuma, kuachana ni uamuzi wa mwisho.
Sio vizuri kumuhukumu mtu kwa upungufu wake,
Kwa maana hiyo ni vizuri kumuelewa na kupata
Namna bora ya ku-deal naye... ndio maana
Nakuja kwenu wanajamvi... Tupeane uzoefu
TUOKOE MAHUSIANO!

AshaDii · Aug 21, 2011

JG... Umegusia suala la muhimu saaana... For hakuna kitu kinaboa kama uwe na mtu mwenye mood swings za mara kwa mara.... Mwanzoni unaweza hata usigundue kua mpenzi wako ana mood swings, tokana na the fact kua mapenzi yanakua yametawala na huoni mabaya but mazuri tu ya huyo mpenzi wako... But with time unagundua... unavumilia... some times mpaka inaanza ku strain relationship. Mara nyingi mood swings tumejaliwa nazo wanawake (wanaume ni nadra)... ila mbaya tu ni kua wengine ni kweli wana mood swings za ovyo na mara kwa mara (huyu kazi kweli kumuweka sawa ) na kuna yule ambae anafanya makusudi just to seek attention - yaani inakua kama a way ya kudeka.

However wadada/mama wengi hua hatuelewi kwamba hakuna kitu straining na hufifisha Mapenzi kama mood swings za mara kwa mara... For via experiences na observation nime notice kua wakaka/baba weeengi hii tabia huwaboa; na ni lalamiko la wengi... for nafikiri inafika a time hata yeye anachoka kubembeleza na kukujaribu kukufurahisha.... Ila bana ukiwa na balaa ya kukutana na mwanaume mwenye mood swings za mara kwa mara... sawa na kua na a baby.... kuweza mtreat/mhandle arudi hali yake...

Hivo basi kuweza okoa mahusiano hizo moods zikiwa kama sababu... ni vizuri kuzungumzia kukerwa kwa hio tabia kwa mhusika hasa pale ambapo woote mna furaha na mwaweza sikilizana. Akiwa in a mood umwambie hupendi ndo unawasha moto zaidi....

Lakini at the end of the day it pays kujua weaknesses na strength za Mpenzi wako - ukijua hivo daima utajua ni jinsi gani ya kumuingia akiwa na huzuni ama furaha....

BlackBerry · Aug 21, 2011

The only way ya kudeal na watu wa aina hiyo ni kuwapa space, thou wataona kama umewadharau kwa kitendo hicho, ila utakuwa umeepusha mengi, i once been in a relationship na mtu wa aina hiyo, huwezi amini nikaona kama anachukua nafasi yangu kama mwanamke na mimi kuwa mwanamme, coz akinuna mie nibembeleze, akisikia njaa anakuwa n hasira, yaani huwezi kujua kila siku atafanya nini

Rutashubanyuma · Aug 21, 2011

la mbaya tu ni kua wengine ni kweli wana mood swings za ovyo na mara kwa mara (huyu kazi kweli kumuweka sawa ) na kuna yule ambae anafanya makusudi just to seek attention - yaani inakua kama a way ya kudeka.

deko lazima uwe umelikaribisha mwenyewe........na yeye akigundua huo udhaifu wako basi ujue umekwama...........

Researcher · Aug 21, 2011

Just a quote from the movie "If he/she is always on it, then it becomes no longer a mood, it is a personality"

Husninyo · Aug 21, 2011

Inapotokea mtu yupo kwenye bad mood jaribu kuangalia tatizo nini hadi awe hvyo. Kama umehusika, jaribu kubembeleza japo kidogo. Kama ndio madeko bora usiyaendekeze,

The Boss · Aug 21, 2011

Kuna watu all the time wapo kwenye bad mood

jouneGwalu · Aug 22, 2011

AshaDii said:
JG... Umegusia suala la muhimu saaana... For hakuna kitu kinaboa kama uwe na mtu mwenye mood swings za mara kwa mara.... Mwanzoni unaweza hata usigundue kua mpenzi wako ana mood swings, tokana na the fact kua mapenzi yanakua yametawala na huoni mabaya but mazuri tu ya huyo mpenzi wako... But with time unagundua... unavumilia... some times mpaka inaanza ku strain relationship. Mara nyingi mood swings tumejaliwa nazo wanawake (wanaume ni nadra)... ila mbaya tu ni kua wengine ni kweli wana mood swings za ovyo na mara kwa mara (huyu kazi kweli kumuweka sawa ) na kuna yule ambae anafanya makusudi just to seek attention - yaani inakua kama a way ya kudeka.

However wadada/mama wengi hua hatuelewi kwamba hakuna kitu straining na hufifisha Mapenzi kama mood swings za mara kwa mara... For via experiences na observation nime notice kua wakaka/baba weeengi hii tabia huwaboa; na ni lalamiko la wengi... for nafikiri inafika a time hata yeye anachoka kubembeleza na kukujaribu kukufurahisha.... Ila bana ukiwa na balaa ya kukutana na mwanaume mwenye mood swings za mara kwa mara... sawa na kua na a baby.... kuweza mtreat/mhandle arudi hali yake...

Hivo basi kuweza okoa mahusiano hizo moods zikiwa kama sababu... ni vizuri kuzungumzia kukerwa kwa hio tabia kwa mhusika hasa pale ambapo woote mna furaha na mwaweza sikilizana. Akiwa in a mood umwambie hupendi ndo unawasha moto zaidi....

Lakini at the end of the day it pays kujua weaknesses na strength za Mpenzi wako - ukijua hivo daima utajua ni jinsi gani ya kumuingia akiwa na huzuni ama furaha....

Point mbili nimezipenda hapa.....
Kuna kudeka na kutaka attention!
Ahsante Adii

jouneGwalu · Aug 22, 2011

BlackBerry said:
The only way ya kudeal na watu wa aina hiyo ni kuwapa space, thou wataona kama umewadharau kwa kitendo hicho, ila utakuwa umeepusha mengi, i once been in a relationship na mtu wa aina hiyo, huwezi amini nikaona kama anachukua nafasi yangu kama mwanamke na mimi kuwa mwanamme, coz akinuna mie nibembeleze, akisikia njaa anakuwa n hasira, yaani huwezi kujua kila siku atafanya nini

Aisee, yaani sasa yako ilikuwa kali zaidi shosti...
Ni poa sana kama tukajua kuwa-handle hawa watu sababu,
Next time mtu wa maisha yako akiwa hivyo hauna pa kukimbilia rather just face it!
Nadhani Adii ametoa data nzuri sana

jouneGwalu · Aug 22, 2011

Rutashubanyuma said:
deko lazima uwe umelikaribisha mwenyewe........na yeye akigundua huo udhaifu wako basi ujue umekwama...........

Huwa unafanyaje ukikutana na mtu wa hivyo Ruta?

jouneGwalu · Aug 22, 2011

Researcher said:
Just a quote from the movie "If he/she is always on it, then it becomes no longer a mood, it is a personality"

Keep on researching "Researcher"

jouneGwalu · Aug 22, 2011

Husninyo said:
Inapotokea mtu yupo kwenye bad mood jaribu kuangalia tatizo nini hadi awe hvyo. Kama umehusika, jaribu kubembeleza japo kidogo. Kama ndio madeko bora usiyaendekeze,

Umesomeka Husninyo.....!
Ila mara nyingi hata ukiuliza sababu au tatizo hamnaga jipya sana,
Utajibiwa tu "hamna kitu, nipo poa" wakati unaona sio poa hapo....
Hii ni kudeka tu na kutaka attention

jouneGwalu · Aug 22, 2011

The Boss said:
Kuna watu all the time wapo kwenye bad mood

Yaani The Boss, Mungu ni ameumba kila aina ya vituko!
Hebu nipe unavyodeal nao hawa watu.....

First Born · Aug 22, 2011

Husninyo said:
Inapotokea mtu yupo kwenye bad mood jaribu kuangalia tatizo nini hadi awe hvyo. Kama umehusika, jaribu kubembeleza japo kidogo. Kama ndio madeko bora usiyaendekeze,

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Huwa wananiboa sana wale wakongwe wa kudeka
utasikia leo naumwa
oh leo sijisikii kupika
nimechoka
kwa vip?
Khaaaaaaa!!!

First Born · Aug 22, 2011

kiukweli most bad moods zinasababishwa na kudeka
mwanamke anadeka na kukujibu anavyojisikia akijua hutafanya lolote kisa unampenda
this is foolishness!

Hapo ni kuwa serious through telling the truth to each other, ukijifanya unaogopa kumuudhi ukimwambia ukweli itakuwa imekula kwako.

Roulette · Aug 22, 2011

Hakuna mtu anae penda mood swings, hata muhusika mwenyewe. Dawa ni kumwacha tu peke yake kwa muda. Mr Boss, kama yuko in bad mood all the time maana yake umwache all the times coz haina maana kuharibu siku yako ukisubiri mtu kama wewe awe tayari kufurahia presence yako wakatu kuna wengine wengi wanakuchangamkia.
Just give them some space and all will be fine. Kuna wakati wanataka waombe hiyo space ila na wenyewe wanafikiri watu watawaona wanadeka, wanajivuna etc, so wanachuna tu.

jouneGwalu · Aug 22, 2011

RussianRoulette said:
Hakuna mtu anae penda mood swings, hata muhusika mwenyewe. Dawa ni kumwacha tu peke yake kwa muda. Mr Boss, kama yuko in bad mood all the time maana yake umwache all the times coz haina maana kuharibu siku yako ukisubiri mtu kama wewe awe tayari kufurahia presence yako wakatu kuna wengine wengi wanakuchangamkia.
Just give them some space and all will be fine. Kuna wakati wanataka waombe hiyo space ila na wenyewe wanafikiri watu watawaona wanadeka, wanajivuna etc, so wanachuna tu.

Hapo pia mtu unampa-space ukirudi linaanza zengwe jingine
"Unani-avoid?" "u cant be there for me!!"
Ila kuna ukweli fulani kwamba baadhi wanafanya ili kudeka,
Pia kutaka attention... kama ndio basi si sahihi kumuendekeza mwenza,
Kwenye kila anachokitaka.

jouneGwalu · Aug 22, 2011

First Born said:
kiukweli most bad moods zinasababishwa na kudeka
mwanamke anadeka na kukujibu anavyojisikia akijua hutafanya lolote kisa unampenda
this is foolishness!

Hapo ni kuwa serious through telling the truth to each other, ukijifanya unaogopa kumuudhi ukimwambia ukweli itakuwa imekula kwako.

FB, basi kama ni hivyo inabidi tutoe azimio la kutokudekeza !
Mmmh najaribu kujenga picha ya mapenzi bila kudekezana... hahaha lol

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