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10 Stupid Things Couples Mess Up Their Relationships

Discussion in 'Mahusiano, mapenzi, urafiki' started by Pdidy, Oct 15, 2011.

  1. Pdidy

    Pdidy JF-Expert Member

    Oct 15, 2011
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    [​IMG]Within these last few decades of the Millennium have been horrendously destructive to the ability of men and women to relate, commit and enjoy building and being a family.
    Instead of taking time to learn about another in enough depth to decided whether or not to become married, it is now possible being actually married even without knowing the persons middle name.

    1. Stupid Secrets:
    Withholding important information for fear of rejection.
    It's the struggle against selfishness.
    Privacy is something you 'give' out of respect.
    Secrecy is when you feel guilty about something you can't tell you partner or spouse.

    2. Stupid Egotism:
    My freedom/ rights to do what I want are more important than your feeling/ needs –and ask not what you can do for this relationship;
    ask only what this relationship can do for you!

    3. Stupid Pettiness:
    Make a big deal of the small stuff.

    4. Stupid Power:
    Never lose an argument, or sacrifice anything;
    always be in control, never let the other forget he or she messed up.

    5. Stupid Priorities:
    consuming all your time and energies with work, hobbies, errands, chores, missions
    and an unkempt bed has a higher priority than the relationship.

    6. Stupid Happiness:
    seeking stimulation and assurance from all the wrong places to satisfy the immature need to feel good vs.. to be good.

    7. Stupid Excuses:
    Instead of acknowledging misdeeds and being accountable, you fight back with excuses, which just cause more damage
    –learn to apologize.

    8. Stupid Liaisons:
    Staying attached to relatives and friends who are outright bad influence and destructive to your relationship –allowing these folks to hurt your partner.

    9. Stupid Mismatch:
    Seeing red flags clearly and yet you stay around trying to put a square peg in a round hole –not knowing when to leave and cut your losses.

    10.Stupid Breakups:
    Disconnecting for all the wrong reasons

    Dr. Assengiswe Pdidy