We have been told to be sad about death, but I have never felt sadness when a close one dies. I usually induce myself into an emotional state of expressing sadness, out of respect for people around me. But you can say in a sense it is acting, because I don’t know what else to do. I am able to see that whoever lost their loved one is suffering great emotional pain, and that’s not the time to be like “Oh this doesn’t affect me emotionally”.
So I try to empathize and share their sadness. But personally, I myself don’t feel sad that they died. I feel immensely pained when they suffer before their death. I feel frustrated when I can’t do anything to relieve their suffering. That impacts me deeply. But death itself.. why should we be sad about that? If we celebrate birth then we should celebrate death too, shouldn’t we?
Birth and death are a cycle, why celebrate one and mourn the other? Both are milestones in a person’s journey, both are equal events in my opinion. We should celebrate both the same way. In fact I would say, being born into this miserable world of body and disease is a more sad event than leaving it. So it is better if we celebrate their leaving and mourn it when someone is born [emoji846].
But it does make a difference how someone died. A sudden violent death like an accident, would make me immensely pained, because that’s a painful and brutal death for that person. Still, it is not the death itself that I am mourning. It is the suffering they went through and the suffering their loved ones go through, that makes me cry.
Help please.