Roger Sterling
JF-Expert Member
- May 10, 2015
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(By Madeleine Holden)
.....for the sake of helping men who date women get an idea about where they might be going wrong, I put the question to my Twitter followers, and lo and behold! women began spilling their biggest turnoffs with abandon. Here are the top 20:
1. You Have Long, Dirty Or Unkempt Fingernails
This one comes up so often its worth keeping at the front of your mind: Dirty or uncared-for nails are an instant, stomach-turning turn-off for large swaths of women, especially if youre trying to put those nails near our bodies. Take care of your hands!
2. Youre Rude To Waiters Or Other Service Workers
Rudeness is a turn-off, for both genders, period. It can, however, take a while for peoples true colors to start peeping through, and so women are paying close attention to how you treat people who serve you for clues about how you might treat us further down the line.
3. You Have Bad Shoes
What counts as a bad shoe is clearly subjective, but one things for sure: women are looking at your shoes. If youve put effort into the rest of your outfit but none into those things that cover your feet, your prospective love interests are likely to be marking you down.
4. You Tune Out While Shes Speaking
Its the ultimate sign of disrespect if you cant be bothered listening to a person when theyre speaking. Its doubly insulting to get that treatment from a man youre dating; someone whos presumably meant to support and care about you. Mark my words, fellas: Men who dont listen dont last long.
5. You Dont Use Deodorant
This is a personal hygiene matter that women take issue with on a mass scale. It shouldnt come as a big surprise, but if you are reeking of B.O., women wont exactly flock to you. Deodorant is a must.
6. Youre Selfish
Whether its ignoring our pleasure in the bedroom or turning a blind eye our needs outside of it, selfish men are, without exception, incredibly unappealing to women.
7. Youre Hard To Read During Sex
This is basically the male equivalent of a women whos a starfish in the bedroom. Its hard to know if youre pleasing someone in bed if they give you no visual or verbal feedback, and women consistently report this as a bedroom-based turn-off. Please, guys, show us a little appreciation or if things arent working out, at least tell us where were going wrong!
8. You Tell Her Shes Not Like Other Girls
We get that this ones meant to be a compliment, but dude, what the hell?! All this sounds like to us is, I have a low opinion of women in general, but Ive decided that youre a special snowflake. Please enjoy this high praise. Its not a compliment to be told were not like other girls, because theres nothing wrong with being a girl, and surprise! the vast majority of girls actually like each other.
9. You Constantly Interrupt Her
Cmon, my guy: Can we at least finish our line of thought before you steamroll over us?
10. You Refer To Women As Females
This is a popular peeve: Were human women, not antelopes, and female is an adjective, not a noun. Its a really simple fix - just call us women.
11. You Tell Her To Lighten Up When Your Friends Say Bigoted Things
This one comes up aplenty, and the casual use of slurs against people of color, women or LGBTQ people ranks as equally unimpressive. If youre behaving like a bigot then we dont need to lighten up; in fact, its a hint that you and your friends need to grow up and exercise some restraint. Bonus turnoff points: You dont call out your friends for their misogyny when they demonstrate it, but try to placate us behind the scenes. Nice try!
12. Youre Always Late
This ones basic courtesy: If you say youll be at a place at a time, be at that place at that time. Simple. If youre repeatedly late, it starts feeling like you just dont care.
13. You Ignore Her Jokes
Settle this one for me, gentlemen: why does so much of our excellent humor fly over your heads? Have you so deeply internalized the myth that women arent funny that you cant recognize a good joke when you see one? That sounds boring!
14. You Have A Pubey Beard
If its not happening, its not happening. Not every guy needs to have a beard move on!
15. Youre Snobby About Pop Culture
Were all deeply sorry that you cant let the joys of Fetty Wap and Nicki Minaj into your life, but please dont rain on our parades, especially out of a misguided sense that it makes you better than us.
16. You Assume Sex Is Over After You Come
Let me put blaring red sirens around this one: This kind of clueless selfishness in the bedroom is a Very Bad Look. Your relationship isnt a porn clip, so dont act like youre in one.
17. You Always Have To Have The Last Word
This is your standard old obnoxious, woman-repelling behavior. The universe wont cave in if you give us the final say, guys, and insisting on winning every argument might mean you lose the bigger prize: the woman of your dreams.
18. You Lose Your Cool If She So Much As Glances At Another Guy
The stereotype is that women get sour when we see the men were with checking out other women, but men do this too, and women are reporting loud and clear that men can be petulant, jealous babies about it. Its stifling and puts too much pressure on the relationship, especially early on, so give this one a miss if you can.
19. You Wear Dirty Or Ill-Fitting Clothes
Again, this is basic stuff, but it comes up so often. Guys: wash your clothes! Buy some that fit! Rinse and repeat!
20. You Give Weird Names To Her Vagina
Love tunnel? Cookie? NO THANK YOU, SIR, WERE GROWN.
If you were paying attention, you might have noticed that some things come up a lot: It turns out being nice to her, being nice to others and taking care of yourself and your appearance are huge turn-ons for women, and failing to do so could be the reason youve been having trouble in the dating game.
